Questions

This question is NOT aimed at older men who marry younger women. I am talking to men who are married or in a relationship with a woman who is in your age range.

My wife is a very intelligent woman and I love her dearly but. . . there are times when my wife does things that seem to be so naive or uninformed that it feels like she is a little girl instead of a 62 year old woman. I still respect her, but this experience elicits a paternal, protective response and I wonder if this is how fatherhood feels. Or, sometimes, she will do things that seem so shallow that they are completely transparent (e. g., she suggests what I drive us in her car to dinner, and of course I notice her gas tank is almost empty, so I stop and put gas in her car.) It's like a little girl buying her daddy a barbie doll for Christmas!

Do any of you guys ever have that experience with your wife or long term partner?

Mine has. Looking back she was mixed up. But literally the most beautiful girl from my religious minority group.
There’s a lot of beautiful women in the world, her features in my community are extremely unique and I didn’t know a girl like her could really exist. Genuinely, unbelievable.

Personality wise she was nice but not the most stable person. She was slightly older and has obviously been with a few guys.

She was my first girlfriend. I feel myself accepting it, but knowing that I will never find a girl as wow and just striking. Knowing that I will never find better than her. I just want a very nice and very stunning girl.

But when you combine how we were so compatible on paper it is a once in a lifetime experience. The stars and planets aligned here.

When I share with my friend none of them think I am crazy for feeling the way I do. I am focused on improving and building my life. But with women, I feel like I will always feel upset and disappointed.