I've had a friend's with benefits relationship. He was cool, we had this relationship for most of college. the reason why I think it worked is one I didn't like his personality on a relationship level and I was not attracted to his face. he was 6'4 very well built but his face was average at most. Our thing ended well we are still friends to date.
Eh, I've had several friends with benefits situations that never had any complications. As long as neither person wants something more, it can work just fine.
Not 'always' true... I have just such a relationship that has been off/on between relationship for the past five years or so. Although in general, I cannot refute your article- the horror stories are plenty.
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Based on what I've read about the research into the subject, females are more predisposed to these things and guys have these issues noticeably less so.
And to not just girls but also guys, I would say learn to control your feelings as best you can because these same issues any relationship and you'd do well to learn those skills... and if you do then friends with benefits shouldn't be an issue either.
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Your title should have been "Why friends with benefits is bad for girls" because for guys, it's completely ok. We don't often get emotionally attached to the female. We don't buy the cow when the milk is free.
friends with benefits: when one of you just want to fuck and the other want a relationsihp, and the second person thinks he or she can fool the first person into a relationship using sex and gradually inceasing intimacy.
@genuinlysensitive hey and I got three down votes. Good times. Hey @ khaleesi89 you said we could message you for help, so I'm putting out here to help all my male brothers: "how do I get a fwb?" I want one. Clearly it comes naturally to you so... well how?
Totally accurate. Im going through this. A guy i have been sleeping around with we began dating. We have been sleeping around. for a year, and he doesn't care. I am. here stuck in the worst mindset. He is such a piece of shit, and sadly i knew it. I knew he wasn't worth my time. How can you be friends with somone for years, screwing them for one and then do not care about the person. You have posted a wonderful my take.
Sex feels good. Yeah, it may better to be in a real, caring relationship, but if you don't have that right now, might as well get some anyway. And better someone you like as a friend instead of a complete stranger. Presumably less chance of an STD too.
I think sex with anyone aside from your spouse is a bad idea. Partly being Christian, but also because bg+gf relationships break up so much more easily.
Reasons 3 and 4 are part of why I limit female friends. The other reasons are because I confuse loneliness for love and I invest too much in one girl. Nothing they're doing wrong, I'm just predictable.
When this movie came out I saw it with my friends with benefits at the moment ahah , now his my boyfriend but I would never regret having him like a friends with benefits because it was fun.
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I've had a friend's with benefits relationship. He was cool, we had this relationship for most of college. the reason why I think it worked is one I didn't like his personality on a relationship level and I was not attracted to his face. he was 6'4 very well built but his face was average at most. Our thing ended well we are still friends to date.
Eh, I've had several friends with benefits situations that never had any complications.
As long as neither person wants something more, it can work just fine.
I wrote a post about exactly this. It's just unhealthy.
getresurgatized.com/.../
Not 'always' true... I have just such a relationship that has been off/on between relationship for the past five years or so. Although in general, I cannot refute your article- the horror stories are plenty.
Based on what I've read about the research into the subject, females are more predisposed to these things and guys have these issues noticeably less so.
And to not just girls but also guys, I would say learn to control your feelings as best you can because these same issues any relationship and you'd do well to learn those skills... and if you do then friends with benefits shouldn't be an issue either.
Your title should have been "Why friends with benefits is bad for girls" because for guys, it's completely ok. We don't often get emotionally attached to the female. We don't buy the cow when the milk is free.
friends with benefits: when one of you just want to fuck and the other want a relationsihp, and the second person thinks he or she can fool the first person into a relationship using sex and gradually inceasing intimacy.
TL:DR doesn't work.
"We all have been a friends with benefits and have had a friends with benefits"
We have? That's news to me. Seemed evident to me all along it was a dumb idea.
Friends with benefits would be fine if people stopped behaving like they're in a relationship.
Bwahahah, we all have had fwb? Wtf planet are you living o... oh wait you a girl, never mind.
LMAO funny because its true! Then they get all upset because guys don't want to get serious with women who sleep around.
@genuinlysensitive hey and I got three down votes. Good times. Hey @ khaleesi89 you said we could message you for help, so I'm putting out here to help all my male brothers: "how do I get a fwb?" I want one. Clearly it comes naturally to you so... well how?
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Totally accurate. Im going through this. A guy i have been sleeping around with we began dating. We have been sleeping around. for a year, and he doesn't care. I am. here stuck in the worst mindset. He is such a piece of shit, and sadly i knew it. I knew he wasn't worth my time. How can you be friends with somone for years, screwing them for one and then do not care about the person. You have posted a wonderful my take.
Find a proper, genuine guy who cares for you, please!
Sex feels good. Yeah, it may better to be in a real, caring relationship, but if you don't have that right now, might as well get some anyway. And better someone you like as a friend instead of a complete stranger. Presumably less chance of an STD too.
I think sex with anyone aside from your spouse is a bad idea. Partly being Christian, but also because bg+gf relationships break up so much more easily.
Reasons 3 and 4 are part of why I limit female friends. The other reasons are because I confuse loneliness for love and I invest too much in one girl. Nothing they're doing wrong, I'm just predictable.
This is 100% true. It should be common sense, but sadly many people are lacking that.
Reading this, it only makes it clear you have the wrong idea about friends with benefits from the get go.
So, not really useful.
We haven't all been a friends with benefits...
When this movie came out I saw it with my friends with benefits at the moment ahah , now his my boyfriend but I would never regret having him like a friends with benefits because it was fun.
Sorry I didn't finish reading, had to jerk off to Mila Kunis.
everyone? no way! i would never even consider one! and i don't know many people who have had one