Disclaimer: I am speaking in terms of female friendships. I have no idea what the dynamic between male friendships are, since I am not male. Yes, I am a female. No, not all friendships are this way.
Friends are NOT your bodyguards.
I'm not sure if you guys are following any recent celebrity drama, but the biggest story out there right now, is the Nicki Minaj, Rah Ali and Cardi B press coverage. Recently Nicki claimed that at the party where Cardi attacked Nicki, Rah "punched" Cardi 8-9 times and give her a bruise on her head. I couldn't help thinking, "Wow...I must be a sh*tty friend because I would never do something like that for my friends". However, I then realized, I'm just normal. A friend in real life, would just go get police. They'll drive you to the hospital instead of being forced to pay that high ambulance bill. If you're lucky, maybe they will call your job and explain why you won't be coming in. Perhaps, if they're able to and if it's possible, they will cover your shift.
I am saying this because we are seeing this occur more and more often, especially in the younger population and unfortunately in a lot of schools. Groups of young women fighting a sole female because they were spreading rumors, or stealing their pubescent man, as if that relationship will actually last a prolonged length of time. This cycle continues well into adulthood and you see stuff like this occurring everywhere between grown women. I'm sorry, but if you think I'm putting my life on the line because someone else talked about you, or over your "man", you must be bat sh*t crazy.
Friends are NOT your spouse (part 1)
Friends can come off as controlling sometimes. Honestly, at times it can feel like a committed relationship. Let's take the recent drama that has plagued the talk show "The Real". To sum it up, one of the hosts on the show (Jeannie, on the right) is going through a divorce. Freddie, on the left, has moved on with another woman and is expecting a child together very soon. Loni, one of her co-hosts, congratulated him and his new wife on Instagram. Loni was attacked for doing this, accused of betraying Jeannie and called a horrible friend. So, that goes to show the large amount of people who harbor this sort of thinking.
I find it absolutely ridiculous that someone can be deemed a bad friend because of something like this and I find it very controlling for someone to dictate who you can and can't socialize with. Why can't I hang out with that person just because you don't like them? Why can I no longer speak with this person because you guys broke up?
Are we getting married?! Why do you think it's okay for you to tell me who I can and cannot hang out with?!
Friends are NOT your spouse (part 2)
Another thing I never understood are friends who reveal very personal topics regarding their marriage to their friends. Things that you should be going home and talking to your spouse about. Things that you should be relaying to a marriage and family counselor. You may be able to get good advice this way, but this isn't the appropriate way to go about it and it could be even more detrimental to your marriage if this advice doesn't work. To make matters worse, that friend will more than likely want to know more about your marriage, provide more advice and be offended if you don't use the advice. Whereas, if you and your spouse had tried to work things out together and the advice provided by a marriage counselor doesn't work, it is not the fault of the friend for your failed marriage.
I hope you guys like this one!
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