Guilty as charged. We all have been a friends with benefits and have had a friends with benefits, however no matter what it never ends with a happy ending. Someone will always want someone more, someone will always end up sleeping with other people and someone will have their heart broken. These are my 4 top reasons why being and why having a friends with benefits is always ALWAYS a bad idea.
1. No Boundaries
Think of your worth. You set no boundaries, you set no rules and that’s how they will treat you ALWAYS. The fact that you start with no boundaries will lead to a very VERY unhealthy relationship and if they ask you out tomorrow night, you reply back with no (for a good reason) they will simply call up some next person. You will naturally meet someone who will make you happy in a healthy way so why waste time on a relationship with no boundaries when you will be in one eventually that will have boundaries and respect?
2. Selling Yourself Short
You are just a piece of meat. You are nothing more but sex. You are a body that they can have a fun time with and then say bye too without a care. Your sex is just fucking, there is no emotion. They don’t call you daily, they don’t wish you well. They manipulate you thinking they care only to end up having what they want (they will ALWAYS) come first. If this is how you’d like to be treated then go for it, however know that you will ALWAYS be a body that they can use for a good pump/ rub and nothing else.
3. You Hurt Yourself Emotionally
Think about this. You commit to a person who doesn’t give a shit about you and eventually you catch feelings. You are torturing yourself being with someone who isn’t with you. We as humans need that emotional stability and to lack that in a relationship you long for and know you will never have (except for at night when they call you) that can make you sick. It’s a health risk so really think about what you’re about to do because it will hurt you mentally.
You become attached, they don’t want you, they slept with other people and BOOM heartbreak happens. They think you are obsessed or they just don’t understand your emotional needs so they leave you. You not only emotionally hurt yourself but now have hurt your heart. You give yourself when you sleep with someone and to constantly give, give and give to someone in a friends with benefits relationship to realize they don’t want you will not only set for major disappointment but also set you for an emotional breakdown trying to put whatever imaginary pieces together that you thought were there.
Alright so let me know what you think. Tell me if friends with benefits relationship is a good thing, if it works for you (how does it work for you?) and also if you’ve had a negative impact from a friends with benefits relationship. Also inbox me (message me) if you’d like for me to talk about a topic and post it on here. Much love guys/ ladies, thank you and god bless :) <3