Technologies nowadays allowed us to communicate without boundaries. Of course, this allowed people to strengthen their relationships, especially those who are involved in long distance relationships. Sexting and sex cam are part of it. These technologies are big excuse for certain people to have overlapping relationships too. Have you ever think about the consequence from both of these? What you might done on someone else's life?
I will share something what sexting, sex cam and overlapping relationship done on someone that was close to me. I knew her for so long time. This girl loves a guy, first love and they were on long distance relationship. They both seems like having the most possibility of ended up getting married, until she discovered something else. She discovered his infidelity, added with the fact he done sexting and sex cam with her friends and some of them were like sisters to her. These things alone made her drown in a biggest despair. Not yet recovered from her shock, she needs to face that her beloved has overlapping relationships with not only the girls she knew, but also with some other girls from his own hometown. She have to face him on his behavior, and facing the girls at the same time as some of them opposed her very badly and accusing her of "not being open minded" and that "sex is normal, even if the person is already married". They ended up fought and he left her as he choose to be with those girls. Familiar on this situation? Maybe, many experienced this not only the girls but guys too. Age doesn't matter as married couple threatened by this situation of their spouse might involved too.
So what does this situation has to do with the girl? Many said these:
"Come on, she can move on. Find other nice guys and she will be happy"
"She is nice person and he is jerk. She will find better someone for herself"
This is familiar situation too. It is easy said than being done. She suffered for years. What that type of relationship done on her was complete disaster. She lost weight, no appetite and having bad health. This might seems minor problem, but it does affect both of her studies and work quality. She was fired from her job, almost got kicked out from college for not been able to contribute to her fullest. You might said that she can't handle her feelings well, and not all having that ability to endure what others done on them. It left her a big scar in her heart, together with one thing called "trauma". Yes, what he done caused a permanent trauma on her that cost her own future.
What about her friends? She had those whom he cheated on with, so with that situation occur she was no longer befriend with them. They left her, either caused by ashamed of their own doings or simply thinking that she is not someone that is open minded enough to share a man with them. That girl become silent from a cheerful one, and she too starting to isolate herself from other people just because of this incident. That trauma hits her every time a guy trying to approach her, destroying her self esteem completely and planting more doubts on herself. She is not crazy, and he was lucky she didn't commit suicide.
Think about this situation being done on either on your own sisters, aunts or maybe your own mother. As I said age doesn't matter, it happened to someone else that I knew having this and also destroyed the marriage they built for so long. Just because this stuff is normal at some part of the world, please dont ever look down upon what it could done on someone else's life. There might be an innocent soul affected and been hurt somewhere.
What Girls & Guys Said
Opinion
3Opinion
I mean, I understand she was hurt, but she can't let this one experience rule her life. She can't let it have that control over her. My first two girlfriends cheated on me, one with my best friend. I could have let it consume me like your friend, instead I took it as a learning experience and guarded my heart a little more the next time. Life's too short to wallow in despair.
She has to shoulder at least half the blame for being played. She chose to be attracted to a player - if you get upset with the game, don't join in.
I didn't read your article, but I agree with your take. Young people need to get a clue.