Be The Leading Part Of Your Life

[whyisitso]

Why are you hiding?

Do you feel like you do not belong on this planet? Do you feel like you always let others take over your life and make your choices? Maybe you are insecure or just used to be the one forgotten. It might be you like to hide in the shadows and in your own comfort zone.

But how much do you enjoy your life that way? Do you enjoy it being the same all the time? I think every one of us crave for changes, even small ones.

Let's make those changes. Step by step. At least I will tell you how to make it a little easier to get a little more courage and self esteem. If you start from zero, you know you have nothing to lose.

Try something different

It doesn't have to be a big thing at first. Make something you have always been a little curious about.

Here are some examples of what it might be:

-Make a small change in the way you look. Maybe how you put your hair or try a new outfit. Maybe just a new stronger color.

-Try a new kind of meal. Maybe go out in a restaurant you have never been to. Don't take the meal you always order.

-Start a new hobby. You might have thought about that hobby before. Try it!

-Exercise more. You might be unhappy with your body and with exercise we tend to feel better abut ourselves.

-Say hi to or smile an interesting person. Make them notice you somehow. You don't have to go talk to them right away. Just let them know you notice them too. This makes you attend more available.

-DO SOMETHING EVERY DAY THAT DIFFER FROM YOUR DAILY ROUTINE. Give yourself a slack, you don't need to do everything like you have done it before.

-Smile more, even though you don't feel like smiling. Trust me, it works. You will feel better and more confident in a split second.

BEFORE

AFTER

Accept the fact that nobody is perfect

Because nobody is perfect. You do not need to be either, do not push yourself too much on that part. Just be the best version of yourself. Even though you should think more of yourself, do not forget that others matter too.

Mostly people do not want to play the leading part alone. We want someone in our lives. And other people too. To be honest, when we get to be the best version of ourselves we often meet our partner. In that situation we might even feel like we do not need one. But when it all comes around, we want them in our life.

Do not concentrate on your faults. See what is good in you. Turn your negative thoughts into positive. In most of the cases there is something good in every bad situation. Stop being your own enemy. Someone might have told you "you are too kind", and someone else loves that about you. There is always someone who likes the thing someone else does not.

Just do not expect everyone to like you. They do not need to, because your happiness does not depend on other people.

How to deal with people who put you down

Sometimes change makes the people around us wonder. If anyone asks you why you have changed, just smile and tell them you got happy. Haters deserve to see you smile.

(or why you are smiling suddenly)

Do not take negativity from others. You do not need that in your life. Everyone has got problems, but that does not mean everything sucks. In a world full of people complaining about every little unimportant detail, you should learn to listen to your own thoughts more than the negativity. Accept no crap, and do not let people steal your happiness with pulling the negative sides out of every good thing. (Because there is both negative and positive sides in everything. Even with kindness.)

Sometimes it is completely normal to feel less worthy and sad. But do not let that affect your life, it is just a temporary feeling. Find something funny about those situations, a good laugh always cheers you up. Sarcasm is a great defense mechanism.

Basically, make yourself a priority!

SIGNS THAT YOU NEED TO MAKE YOURSELF A PRIORITY

[NewYear-NewMe]

I really appreciated this and I needed this pep talk! In my head I have all this fun ideas and what not but I don’t often pursue them

[whyisitso]

Good to hear that it helped you! ✨

[NewYear-NewMe]

Thanks. But I still need to convince myself to that everything will be alright

[bethshepherd]

Many rely on a partner to make them feel complete and lead the way, to provide for them emotionally and validate them or to be there for them when they want something. Then the partner gets fed up with it and ends it because it is so one sided or they feel used. I often get clients come to me who are wealthy, they have worked very hard for everything they have, and have achieved a lot, they are hard working, responsible and serious, they have gone without holidays and all the usual pleasures to get somewhere, then they meet some man or woman who wants to latch onto them and have an easy life, relying on them to provide money and solutions to problems. Of course this would never work, they do not have enough in common and it is all one sided. You also get emotionally needy women try to latch onto a man because they want to own a man, they want to know where he is every moment of the day or be with him all of the time, surprise surprise that never lasts either.

[howlyz]

I like Kate Winslett too

[whyisitso]

So that became clear to you by reading this? :P

[howlyz]

at least you don't hate her?

[Anonymous]

I found the lead once I STOPPED DATING!

[whyisitso]

Yeah, that's a good point. Some people start dating too early or with the wrong persons,

[IlyaTheImpaler]

Thank you,
mom!

[whyisitso]

You're very welcome you little young chap! Mom loves you ❤

[RedRobin]

Nice take

[cherryphi82]

Nice take

[Anonymous]

Good take

[whyisitso]

Thanks 😊

[monkeynutts]

Are you really bored?

[BOUNTYGUY9]

its all right

[guyuser2]

Nice and motivating.

[Anonymous]

Nice take...