Loneliness- A Result of Your Current Lifestyle Choices and Previous Experiences. In the End, Are We Really Better Off to Ourselves?

[Anonymous]

We are in multiple scenarios throughout our lifetime that can give us the opportunity to encounter multiple types of individuals. People that will solely be acquaintances. People that may dislike us. People that will become friends. And if you’re fortunate enough, a companion for years.

In these environments, we may be faced with adversities from individual(s) that do not have our best interest. This can be a best friend, romantic interest or possible relative. Depending on your level of compassion, you may choose to forgive and maintain the relationship. And if you hold grudges, you will choose to no longer affiliate with these individuals.

These troubling times can cause you to be more suspicious of individuals, resulting in the development of trust issues.

Even Big Sean and Drake can go on with their series of events that led to this discrepancy. Many can. This is my purpose for composing this passage.

I’ve encountered people that seemed to be on the path of a good friendship. Better yet, my own blood betraying my mother and I. With my generalized anxiety overthinking, I deal with paranoia on a daily basis.

I attempt to remain intuitive with my gut instinct, especially when I am introduced to new people. See how they treat others and carry themselves. If someone is speaking negatively about other people with you, what makes you believe they aren’t doing the same to you? The statement may be overused but it is very valid.

I find I have to take a step back and remember that not all people have negative intentions. A lot of people have been hurt and choose to not give up on building healthy relationships in life. Divorcees re-marry and people find new friendships after another may fail.

I’m aware that I need to practice mindfulness and gain trust again. It’s been a while since these unfortunate circumstances have taken place and I know I can’t control the actions of others. All we can do is go with this roll of the dice.

I am a loner and am typically by myself. I don’t really have any friends. No boyfriend. I do not mind pursuing the possibility of forming new relationships. This overpowering paranoia keeps me to myself. The fear of betrayal. Speaking negatively behind my back. Trouble erupting for no significant reason.

Is my loneliness a choice? Possibly. Is this my destiny if I continue on the road I’m on? Most likely. Only time will tell. Please tell me I am not the only person that feels this way.

[Ferruccio]

i'll be around if you need a friend to talk to. i have been a loner, and i have been on stages talking/giving speeches and even performing. but you know, in life, is actually about relationships. but some of us, our mind may work differently, sometimes its the maturity level. sometimes the mood, sometimes... we need to invest into others as well. what you put into a relationship is what you get out of it. what fears limit so much we can do yeah? but i dont blame you, it is not your fault. also, choose your friends carefully. friends are also like products, there simply are just good friends/ bad friends - good people /bad people. you are not the only one who feels this way, many do. in fact easily half? i'm sure almost everybody goes through this sometime. many people are actually alone most of the time, its just that sometimes they go out with others.