3 Simple Rules for a Healthy Relationship

[Bogachova]

The human life is a complicated tangle of relations, and somewhere among them, there are the simple things that help every relationship.
Like any house, without strong, solid walls and a roof, it would not be stable and sustainable.
It's the same when we build a relationship with our loved ones.
Kindness, Proximity, and Gratitude are the three important words, that give meaning in any relationship, and they create a solid base for development.

Kindness
Every man would give anything to maintain his relations with a woman of good character. Even if it isn't her quality, any woman could try to have a mainly soft and gentle approach to her dedicated partner. Being kind to each other is important to every relationship. Less arguing, more talking.

Proximity
This creates the main beams and resistant walls of your relationship. Do not let the proximity become absent. It is important to keep interest in your partner. Proximity is love, contain it. What is relationship without it?

Gratitude
Here's how we properly arrange the tiles on the roof.
Cherish the person next to you and show him with deeds and kind words! Thank him, sincerely, for being with you and embrace him tightly. Make this person feel valued and important to you when your heart and mind lead you there.

Feel the mood of your loved one. If he is smart and loves you too, he will strive and try to feel yours, because in today's hectic life, your relationship needs more - precisely more kindness, closeness, and gratitude.

[Tdieseler]

Wow, just wow. I feel like I just fell out of a Nora Roberts book. I also love how this is subtly pointing at the guy like "its all on you to do this for Her" lol.
Its a nice article, for the hopeless romantic, but to translate that to the 21st century and what people actually face these days, It becomes
Communication, Space, Sex.
those are basically top three.

[Alicietta]

Why are articles like this always directed at women, as if it's all about us and what we do or how we act that determines the outcome of relationships?

[CBryan]

Well, technically it is mostly the women who control the existence of a relationship since they're the ones who decide to accept or reject a guy who shows interest.. Even when proposing, women are the ones who get to say yes or no. Guys just hope for the best and not get rejected too bad.

[Alicietta]

What I am saying is that a relationship is up to two people to make it work. It's not primarily the woman's responsibility to do everything to make it work. No.

[Bogachova]

It is not directed to women, read it again.

[Alicietta]

I read it as saying "he" or "him" every time that the partner is referred to, which comes off to me as being directed at the female in the relationship.

[YoureBeautiful]

Women control sex, men control relationships

[muspelhem_3]

Look to e. g. Saudi Arabia for the answer. Articles like this are basically a remnant of a time where men physically controlled women. Take Owner (and much of society) is sadly still influenced by this.

[MaskedSanity]

If your relationship crumbles the second proximity decreases, your relationship is SHIT. Whole being close to your loved one is ideal, being away for work/studies/etc happens all the time. If your relationships don't last because of that, you should take a step back and reevaluate how seriously you approach relationships from the start.

The rules you want to abide by are communication/honesty, loyalty and respect. In a loving relationship kindness and gratitude will automatically fall under respect, because we as humans tend to treat those we respect the best.

[MaskedSanity]

While*

[serp777]

This is crap. Relationships are never as easy as just "three simple rules". You're missing many important aspects that are more important than what you mention. Personality is far more important--the ability to entertain and keep your girlfriend or boyfriend laughing; its also extremely important to be able to flirt and keep romantic engagement. Then of course about 40-50% of a good relationship is about a reliable sex; that's the reason people get in relationships is to have exclusive sex with someone they get enjoy being around. So consequentially sexual life is a 1000 times more important than gratitude. A vibrant sex life sustains a relationships by keeping an attraction by two people--not only will they not be as tempted by people outside of the relationship, but sex builds trust and a powerful intimate bond. These are the actual important indicators of a good relationship.

[abzence]

I guess this mostly apply to extroverted people since the whole proximity thing would drive many of the introverted more or less insane. It's just as important to give space than being joined at the hips.

[Bogachova]

Proximity meaning - closeness, it doesn't mean obsession.

[Anonymous]

i don't see frequent sex on the list so it's not a good list

[fiego]

@Bogachova All very good. Did you consider including "honesty" ?

[Bogachova]

Honesty is very important, but it depends on the person. Having these three things in your relationship, in my opinion, earns trust.

[fiego]

Makes sense... thanks for sharing the myTake

[shadowlegend]

How are these rules? And are they really the top priorities in a relationship?

[Crazyced]

My two main pillars are Respect and Attraction. If either is lost the relationship is doomed in my opinion.

[KleinTeef]

Don't forget trust.

[Crazyced]

@KleinTeef Indeed, but I kind of put that under respect. It's hard to truly respect someone you don't trust.

[Blue2]

thumbs up. i like how you showed us 3 key points in keeping the relationship good and to keep our partner feeling loved. without that feeling what is the point of it then?

[GoldCobra]

Looks good but i'd say clarify what you mean by Proximity more because i have no clue what you're talking about.

[Bogachova]

Closeness.

[muspelhem_3]

Yeah, well, you know that's just like, uh, your opinion man.

[SomeoneImportant]

"Less arguing, more talking" how about just less talking? I like that a lot more.

[Anonymous]

I honestly don't know how my mum puts up with my old man. I try to be the opposite of him but even then nobody gives me a chance.

[C_ntDestroyer]

More tales of the hamster. Delusion thy name is. LULZ!

[lightingrod]

My big 3 are Trust, Loyalty, and Respect.

[Marrryyyyy]

yea the proximity thing confused me

[Bogachova]

Closeness.

[Raniiaa]

1- be honest
2- be truthful
3- be loyal

[JackKerouac77]

Interesting take. Thanks for sharing.

[Anonymous]

Ergh... what a load of pretentious rubbish.

[muspelhem_3]

Amen to that.

[Zorax]

Great article, very interesting :)

[luvme56]

Two words...
Awesome take