He can be your hero!

[DeltaDanner]

Yes, even if he is more like this...

Girls, here's the deal. Guys want to be superheroes. They have since they were kids. They looked up to the likes of Batman, Superman, Captain America, and all the others as idols when they were growing up. They grew up wanting to be just like them. This carries on into adulthood as well; maybe not so much the crime fighting part, but the wanna be hero is still there. It especially carries off into the dating world.

When a guy meets a girl he likes he wants to be her superman, her number one, her knight in shining armor. This is not to say you are weak and in need of rescuing, I'm sure you can handle yourself, but a guy still feels like that is his calling. To be a hero to the girl he loves. When you don't treat him like a hero, like he isn't needed, he feels a loss of purpose. He can be an extraordinary mechanic, a true macho-man, and the funniest guy in the world, but if he doesn't feel needed then he will feel worthless. Guys LOVE that feeling of being needed, and being the hero is what they strive for.

This want goes for many men, even if they aren't the hero type. They want to be your hero, even if he is no superman. In a relationship if the guy doesn't feel he has succeeded in being your hero he will be insecure, sad, and feel worthless. Here are some tips on letting your boyfriend feel like the hero:

1. Ask him for help/appreciate the help he gives- Ladies, you don't need your boyfriend to do EVERYTHING. You are very capable of doing whatever you want on your own. That doesn't mean your guy shouldn't help though. Even if it's a small thing, try and get him to help. Let him be your hero, swooping down to help in your time of need. When he does give you help, you don't have to worship him, just let him know you are greatful for it


2. Don't talk down to him- You are a strong, independent woman who don't need no man! But it's probably best not to say "don't need no man" to your man... Of coarse you don't NEED him. As number 1 said, you can handle life without needing him to do everything, but let him know he is still at least wanted, that he does indeed have a purpose. No guy wants to feel useless or like they can be replaced, so talk to him as if you don't know what you would do with out him. His happiness and heroism +1


3. Let him know it- This is really easy; let him know he is your hero! Tell him about how much he means to you, how safe you feel with him, and how he is indeed your hero!

Letting your man be your hero will do wonders for his confidence, self esteem, and over all happiness. I hope I've helped a bit and thank you for reading!

[YourFutureEx]

I got where you are going and I really appreciate your take.
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[DeltaDanner]

Thank you

[9mfeo]

I want a partner. I have no desire to be rescued. You either walk beside me in life or not at all.

[PT1911]

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But anyway, your whole point is just about feeling useful and desired. If she has a problem of whatever it may be, it means more than anything in the world if she calls me first to deal with it.

[been_waiting]

If you need saving, save yourself.
don't depend on someone to do it for you.

I rescued myself. I didn't need a guy or anyone else to do that for me.

there's a difference between support and complete dependence.

[DeltaDanner]

It seems I wasn't clear. I am not saying anyone really needs saving, but every guy wants to feel needed.

[been_waiting]

Most people want to feel needed.

[Phoenix98]

Good take.
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[DeltaDanner]

Thank you

[Remonster]

I definitely love to play the hero but a woman needs to be able to take care of herself. I don't want a helpless, clueless broad. But I get what you're saying.

[front2back]

I don't want to be a superhero, I just want to be an enhancement and improvement on her life.

[DeltaDanner]

That's a good way to look at it

[Octavion]

I've always loved playing the villain more than the good guy.

[muspelhem_5]

4. Bite your tongue on the fact that he wears his underpants over his tights.

[Amplify]

All this came from someone the same age as me

Confidence in age +1!

I miss Jonny. I hope he comes back some day...

[MaiNameIsSunshine]

No thanks, I don't see a need to act like a damsel in distress, I'll ask for help if I need it.

[Amplify]

Heheheh. That's funny.

[MaiNameIsSunshine]

@Amplify, how so?

[Amplify]

If you're asking for help, then you're a damsel in distress. If no one comes to your assistance, you're even more so. If you don't need help, then you're not in distress.

That all shot through my head 2 seconds after reading your comment. I thought my lightning-fast logic processor was funny.

[MaiNameIsSunshine]

Oh god, is this Ian? Also a damsel in distress basically a woman who needs to be rescued because she is to weak to help herself. I don't need to be rescued but I do occasionally require the assistance of another person to help me help myself. Main difference I can save myself, or at least try, whereas a damsel in distress would just sit around and wait for a man to save her.

[MaiNameIsSunshine]

@Amplify

[Amplify]

All depends on your definition of damsel in distress. To me, it's a girl that needs help. If you NEED help, you are clearly too weak to do it yourself, or won't get it done soon enough. If you don't, then, again, not in distress. Someone who waits around for someone to do everything for her is a lazy butt, in my opinion.

And no, I am not Ian.

[MaiNameIsSunshine]

Are people not allowed to have assistance when they need it? It would be rather foolish for someone to not attempt to get help if they are in need of it. Simply because a woman needs help does not mean she is a damsel in distress, this being so because she does not require rescuing. Our definitions are obviously different but my comment on this question is based off of my definition therefore it is to be read in the same context.

Are you sure your not Ian, because you sound exactly like him. Always trying to argue with me...

[Amplify]

Distress doesn't imply they need rescuing, does it? And even if it did, wouldn't someone helping you be considered them coming to your rescue? If you're talking about being rescued from a dragon or something similar, I don't think that's what the OP meant.

I enjoy debating with everyone. When they stop replying I imagine I'm ripping their heart out like on Mortal Kombat.

FATALITY!

[DeltaDanner]

I was not meaning to make yourself helpless (or a damsel in distress); asking for help and being grateful was more what I was going for. I'm sorry if it came off differently to you, but I meant more like being grateful and making him feel like he accomplished something (instead of something like a sarcastic "woo-hoo" followed by a complaint or "I COULD have done that!") because that's what a lot of guys hear

[MaiNameIsSunshine]

@Amplify, the dictionary definition of distress is having extreme pain, anxiety, of sorrow. Therefore my definition appears to be more commonly used.

[Amplify]

I don't agree that your definition is more similar to it then mine. You said that a damsel in distress was too weak to help herself:

"Also a damsel in distress basically a woman who needs to be rescued because she is to weak to help herself."

Google's definition implies that they aren't at the level of distress until they are feeling intense feelings of pain, anxiety, or sorrow. Hence, my definition (or whatever the correct term is for whatever this is):

"If you're asking for help, then you're a damsel in distress. If no one comes to your assistance, you're even more so. If you don't need help, then you're not in distress."

[Amplify]

@MaiNameIsSunshine Did I win?

[MaiNameIsSunshine]

Well I don't know about you but I dont feel extreme sorrow or pain when I need help. I just need help there is not intense feelings, therefore my definition is closer...

[MaiNameIsSunshine]

@Amplify, did I win?

[Amplify]

... What

How is:

"Also a damsel in distress basically a woman who needs to be rescued because she is to weak to help herself."

similar to:

"distress is having extreme pain, anxiety, of sorrow."

If you don't feel extreme pain, anxiety, or sorrow, then you aren't in distress. You said it yourself. If you're pleading for help, then you are probably feeling one of those emotions.

[MaiNameIsSunshine]

No but I am not in distress I am simply in need of assistance, I may feel anxious or what not but only to a certain extent, never an extreme feeling. A damsel in distress sits around in her pool of self pity not even trying to to help herself, just waiting for her hero. On the other hand, I try my hardest to solve my issues and only ask for help when completely necessary. Needing help and being distressed are not usually the same thing man...

[Urotsukidoji]

hmmmmmm you don't look 14. Something not right here.

[Amplify]

Which is, again, why my definition is more accurate. You don't need to be asking for help to be in distress. It's just a common effect of being in distress.

"If you don't need help, then you're not in distress."

If you are feeling distress, then you could probably do with some help. You don't have to ask for help to be in distress, but most do.

[MaiNameIsSunshine]

@Amplify exactly but I don't necessarily need to be in distress just in order to need help.

[MaiNameIsSunshine]

@Urotsukidoji, how so?

[Amplify]

You're not understanding me. It's a fingers and thumbs situation here.

All thumbs are fingers, but not all fingers are thumbs.

Not all who are in distress call for help, but all who call for help are in distress.

[MaiNameIsSunshine]

I get that you are tryink ti say that but I think just because one needs help, it doesn't mean they are distressed. Not a fingers and thumbs situation to me.

[Amplify]

You can't NEED help unless you are distressed!

I'm not talking about "OH GOD THE AGONY SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME!!!", just "Oh how am I ever going to finish this in time?".

Or in this case, it'd be "How am I ever going to find someone who will be there for me?".

[MaiNameIsSunshine]

So if I say, I need help opening this jar, am I distressed, no, I'll go eat something that doesn't involve the contents of the jar. Or if I say, I need help figuring the finger patterns for this viola music, am I distressed no, I simply ask my conductor. So basically if its not a matter of life or death I am not distressed.

[Amplify]

I explained your first example:

"If you don't need help, then you are not in distress."

You didn't need the contents of the jar. You had plenty of other options.

Your second example would have fallen apart with more time. For example, if he wasn't nearby, or was busy at the time. You would eventually get stressed from failing so much.

[Jose_22]

actually I wanted to be a master at heists when I grew up

[DeltaDanner]

Not what I would advise... Good luck none the less 😀
Don't. Get. Caught

[Despondency]

"Guys want to be superheroes."

Pass.

[Unit1]

Ditto.