How far is going to far at a Bachelor or Bachelorette party?

[Betwyn]

It's the so-called "last night of freedom"

Is it really an anything goes, one night free pass kind of night?

Or are there still lines that should not be crossed?

How far can one go.. and how far is too far?

[madhatters4]

I was at a bachelor party a few weeks ago and this sort of conundrum came up for me. I'm fine with strippers, watching and I guess even lap dances. but I really think that is about as far as it should go. at this particular strip show a few guys did whip cream races (basically whipped cream placed on the shin, knees, thighs, hip, and nipples of the strippers and two guys raced to lick/suck/eat it off). I thought that was the line definitely crossed.

Last night of "freedom" really should be before you are in a committed monogamous relationship

[HandsomeRaj]

I've always been a free soul so a weekend doesn't mean I must meet up friends for a drink or if it's the last day of 'freedom' a party must take place and 'events' therein :)

Generally a lot of us use it as a free pass night.

I'd opine that it's individual decision and we aren't anyone to set up guidelines or limits for them - their life their call :)

[UberTroll]

I think you should have as much fun as you can without cheating on your fiance. That's a line that should never be crossed. If you cross that line the night before the wedding then that seems's like starting things off on a very bad foot to me.

[princesswitch]

I don't believe one should do anything they wouldn't normally do while in a committed relationship during their bachelor/bachelorette party. They should remain loyal.

[laurieluvsit]

Nothing that violates the "Committed Relationship" that has already been entered into.

So if all the single folks want to have fun with the male strippers, or the nude girl that jumps out of the cake, then OK, but not the bride or groom... that's a No No! :)

[NaturalBornFiller]

If there is any form of desire, betrayal, disloyalty, or sex involved (even a little ole handjob) ...then it is TOO far!

Enjoy yourself... not to be confused with enjoying yourself with another!

Bride or Groom... you have already made the monogamous commitment!!!

[Anonymous]

Whatever is beyond you and your partner's boundaries, is too far. And no, I don't see it as a "last chance of freedom"...the person has been in a relationship the whole time. I'm not sure where people get this idea that it's a "last night to celebrate being single" or a last stab at freedom.

[ilovetm]

No there are lots of lines to be crossed. Looking at a stripper is one thing, even some light touching [not his dick mind you] but sex is another. Get drunk ogle the strippers abs', asses and their meaty cocks. Laugh with your girlfriends, get drunk and have a great time. However, keep your mouth and legs closed. Let your single bridesmaids get the stunt cocks!

[jamaall89]

Last night of freedom? Unless this is something you have discussed with your fiance, you are still in a relationship. So why would you do anything you otherwise wouldn't? You're in love, are you not? Everybody notices good looking people when they walk around in public, but if you start flirting aggressively or touching someone in a sexual way, you've already crossed the line, I think.

[DifferentLine]

Call me boring, but I'm going to say no touching. There's a good chance it'll lead to other stuff.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

I would still say the rules of cheating are still in play. No sex.

[Peter05]

It's only cheating if it's sex?

[yaddayaddayadda02]

For a bachelor/bachelorette party, yeah.

[Anonymous]

Lol people are so stupid and funny.

But, since everyone has different standards, nothing their partner would like to see.

[Peter05]

Anything physical basically would be too much.

[JennieF]

times we have sex at the party.