Why is dominance, leadership so attractive to women? why are women, girls so turned on by dominant guys? does dominance indicate anything?

[Anonymous]

I believe there is a reason behind why everything is the way it is, there is even an explanation as to why the sky is blue, but anyway, why are women naturally attracted to men that take charge, take the lead, are the dominant one in dating and relationships, is always or usually the one that makes something or makes things happen? hence thats why guys are still expected to be the initiators of dating and relationships, is an active participant, but guys who control their life and are assertive and aggressive about doing what they want and when they want unapologetically?
is there science and biology here?

Why does that indicate strength meanwhile the oppossite indicates weakness?

Yes because i will admit me being a guy i grew up introverted and socially-awkward so being dominant and being a leader, being assertive does not come naturally to me unfortuneately, i feel i should have this in me, deep inside i want to have those traits, since women won't change and i can't change other people i can only change myself, i'm sure women probably at times feel bitter and angry towards men for wishing men weren't attracted to the things they are attracted to in women, and probably the deep root of my bitterness and anger towards women as to why women have to be like that is because i'm kicking myself for not being the way earlier, and yes not now either but i don't know how i went wrong earlier that put me on this downward spiral.

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deep inside i wish i was an Alpha, but growing up introverted it doesn't seem natural to me

[OneViewpoint]

First, don't confuse leadership with dominance. Leadership is a much more complex thing than screaming and yelling at people to make them do what you want. There may be a time for that. For instance, in a life and death moment when people freeze up for instance and they need to be shocked into action. But you're in control of your emotions, you're not angry. You're trying to shift their focus from the threat to taking action.

But leadership can also be exhibiting calm. "We got this". "The world isn't ending".

Leadership can be teaching. "What if we tried this". "Why don't you ask Dave, he's seen this once or twice".

Leadership can be fostering personal growth. Sue, I want you to take the lead on this project. You have the whole team to draw on. Make it happen. The rest of you, I expect your support.

Leadership can be having the tough conversations. "You have two things I'd like to see you work on in the coming year, interpersonal skills with your team members and your ability to change with the needs of the business." "I want your team to see you making an effort, are we clear?"

I think that's what women are drawn to. A friend, a teacher, a calm place in a storm, a philosopher, a man who won't run from challenges, and a warrior when it's needed. A man who offers protection and growth for the woman, for her children.

[moviedude714]

I guess because subconsciously it means he can protect her snd potential offspring?

[Anonymous]

Im not necessarily turned on by dominance but by giving up control. Im the kind of person that always has to have everything in my life under control so to give it all up in the bedroom is quite a turn on for me!! But only in the bedroom, im not into a man trying to run my life or have the soul decision over the things that go on in my life...

[cheeseysouffle]

Okay, I want a guy that's an equal. I want him to match my own drive and ambition.

Does that mean he has to be an alpha mail kind of guy?

Not necessarily, but I want him to understand my drive and to be able to match it.

[Jockfulcrop]

Ohhhhhh I get it. You're one of 'those ' bad men in this generation.

[Anonymous]

Well, some men are attracted to dominant women.