What do men consider as a dominant female, and why do men prefer not to deal with dominant females?

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Rosexøxø · Accepted Answer

I suppose they perceive them as the dominant males who are really just insecure and project or try to over compensate. Men usually like other fellas with some chill. They find the hierarchy with friendship and some rough stuff but nothing dramatic or over the top. So… they wouldn’t want to be around an alpha female cause it could be perceived by them as her being insecure and partly could be true of some type of overcompensation.

Essentially she couldn’t be any fun cause a lady with something to prove is… like a lady looking for validation but in another way that isn’t flattering or attractive (not always- there’s could be some exceptions).

I think guys understand women a bit weaker so they have to work harder for things and this could be a chip on the shoulder. Another thing is they don’t want to see a wannabe man in any form- this means not some lady doing legs open, swag walk, chewing wheat, and all of that or talking deeper. Guys are deterred at times (used to- times have changed) by Tom boys or at least ones who aren’t like nature or natural but trying to be like a guy…

Sure maybe that’s a bit harsh and women should be able to do just about anything or not cry if they don’t wanna- I suppose some men will just not be used to it, don’t buy it, think that’s a period lady that is wearing a suit- she’ll have bad moments too and since she’s not a guy at heart and she’s not wearing a dress that’s going to be super confusing and difficult to avoid confrontation.

I make no excuse for a guy, I’m just trying to explain why I think they’d do such a thing.

You have to be a bit prepared- I feel like- to engage with a woman like that, and perhaps for guys, they wouldn’t want to let her walk over him, yet they can’t establish themselves and potentially hurt her fragile feelings?

I say an alpha female could be a bit confusing as the lgbtq community but just a bit dialed down to just social expression and/or interaction. Just cause they’re independent doesn’t mean you want to let them get away with being a bitch, and do you congratulate them? What about their feelings? What would be disrespectful to them?

They don’t explain their emotions like the lgbtq does on what’s offensive and what isn’t.

Do men just treat her like one of the guys? Do they let her carry stuff? Not all guys are super communicative so do they check in with her every few moments?

I don't know it seems tiring to me. If she’s independent then that’s easier and if she communicates herself, but if there’s any drama or overplaying stuff then I think some people will be deterred.

Are they LEADERSHIP material or are they just being a bossy bratty jerk of a person?

That can be for guys and girls, but guys handle male jerks differently than they would a female jerk walking with a male suit on and pixie cut and a word at every turn. 🤷‍♀️ Just seems like they’d need a therapist to be comfortable in their own shoes. And who’s gonna like baby sit that? That’s a walking bomb, I feel. But I don't know excuse me if I was rude.

IslaTheWitch · Accepted Answer

Isn't "dominant" definition the same for both genders? Most dominant men define themselves as leaders, protectors and providers.

So let's say dominant woman is the same. Why some men don't want to deal with her? Because she won't let them have the last word :D

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

A female that more than likely has serious issues , that has A lot of hate an anger towards men , that shows more of a masculine side than a feminine side , she tries to take lead in a relationship , and wants her partner to be weak to her , basically her way or no way. she wants to be in control of everything. Some guys’ like that shit but not many. Most of us Men were raised to be leaders we were raised to take care of a girl to protect her and love her and cherish her , we want a girl that looks up to us not down at us , A dominate girl doesn’t look up to us , she mainly treats him like shit. And most dominate girls ‘ aren’t loyal and faithful because they think they do no wrong , if she doesn’t get her way she latches on to someone else. A submissive girl cherishes her man , she looks up to her man and feels safe and protected by him , she compliments him and makes him feel valued and appreciated , she stays loyal and faithful to him , if he treats her with love trust and respect , she has no issues getting on her knees to him and pleasing him , she loves the masculine dominance that she doesn’t have within herself. She is drawn to his masculine energy and treats him like a King compared to a dominate girl that treats her man like a joker , I love submissive girls ‘ and that’s the only girls ‘ I go for when it comes to relationships. If a girl tries to be dominate over me and treats me like shit , I kick her ass to the curb where she belongs

JacobJordan · Accepted Answer

Dealing with "dominant" women is exhausting because she always makes things a damn argument and doesn't know when to shut the hell up. She also typically will sooner give up on a relationship than work through any potential problems that arise. Any time my wife and I encounter a problem she automatically looks me to lead and solve it. That doesn't mean her input isn't welcome. I ask her input regularly but we both know that at the end it will be my responsibility for the final decision. My wife knows that when I need her input I will ask. Until then she knows that she is perfectly safe and fine. This balance means that if their is a problem she can bring it to me and knows I will solve it. If we encounter a problem outside the home she doesn't have to provide input which could make things worse and trusts that I will handle it. These are things "dominant" women don't do. They almost always make shit worse. Easiest example "my boyfriend can beat up your boyfriend"... like no don't drag a man into your stupid bullshit

padrepiedra777 · Answer

Women who want to run the household (in a marriage), are dominant. There are many ways in which this can manifest, and I'm not talking about women who have opinions/personality/etc. I'm talking about a woman who wants to make the final decision on everything.

These women don't trust their husband. This is simply a bad sign for the relationship and either leads to divorces or relationships in which the man checks out entirely. Men need to feel needed and looked up to. This doesn't mean that a man doesn't want a woman he respects, he does, but he also needs a woman who respects and looks up to him.

Does this answer the question or should I go more indepth?

tomboy2003 · Answer

Because they are insecure. They want someone obedient and submissive (as it comes to both personality and during sex) in order to feel superior themselves. They don’t want to be reminded of their own weaknesses, so they look for someone weak to feel like they are above them.

HawkPerception · Answer

Men are generally attracted to women that are shorter, smaller, weaker, younger, and even slightly less intelligent than themselves, just as women are generally attracted to men that are taller, bigger, stronger, older, and more intelligent than themselves (although they don't want to admit it about intelligence).

This is because there is a dominant and submissive dynamic in a relationship. Men want to protect and provide. It gives us satisfaction and fulfillment. It feels strange to be provided for by a woman. Men also want to dominate in bed. That means the smaller you are, the more he can envision himself tossing you around and manipulating your body in the bedroom.

Dominant females are usually not up in their feminine energy and have issues with the males in their lives. Only beta men and cucks tend to like being with dominant women.

Anonymous · Answer

Women who crave to be dominant have severe issues internally, they are fighting something inside and it's not my job to help them, me? Give advice to a woman or girl on her behaviour LOL yea right, I don't need that headache or drama, let women and girls learn through their poor choices, bad attitude and their failed ideologies they support and stand by today, 10-20 years from now it will be a different story. I find super dominant women and super dominant girls to be such a turn off, it's usually a deal breaker for me not to be with her. And no, I don't want to be the dominant one in a relationship, I just want peace of mind and communication but some girls and some women can't comprehend such an easy life view.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

Behaving in a masculine manner.

It's unattractive because it's unnatural to attracted to masculine females. We're bred to reproduce and protect our offspring, why would we want to reproduce with another masculine being? I know focusing on genetics sounds weird but this is literally why the immediate action of a man thinking this way without being able to quantify why they feel that way is.

Cyfris · Answer

Anyone who has the I am the most important queen of my castle dominant personality doesn't need a man like me. And why would I want that.. I like feeling needed and useful and like the things I do matter. If I wanted to be dominated I would go get a man with more money who is probably better at it. You don't go to a mechanic when you miss your period you go to a doctor.

Mindfuldude · Answer

My 2 cents: People like what they like, that could be dominant or the alternative. Usually it has something to do with upbringing as most preferences seem to come from familiarity & it could also be an attempt to adhere to society standards. I feel people’s preferences are a pretty direct reflection on themselves & whether they’ve done the work or not mentally. That’s not to say any kind of taste is “bad” or “wrong.” It’s just information. The most important thing, in my opinion, is that people hopefully don’t try to change their authentic selves to accomodate the taste of another person, just because they’re into the person. Your person will like you just as you are & I recommend doing the same. Expecting any kind of changes isn’t fair & creates resentment, try to be authentic & look for authenticity.

Billlewis · Answer

To me, a dominant female is a woman who never lets me have any penetrative sex with her, while she dates other guys with whom she does have intercourse with, and lets me pay for her dates with them.

sheikalana · Answer

It makes them feel emasculated. To me a dominant woman is someone who wants to have things done her way all the time, thinks she's always right, too independent, wants to be in charge and the man to be her 'puppy.'

The_Sexpert · Answer

That's just biology  Most men are wired to be more dominant and not submissive to anyone  So unless the man is amongst the minority of submissive guys he won't like to around a dominant female

theycallme_jd · Answer

Nope, you provide no room for opinion here. Who said men prefer not to deal with dominant females? Personally I wouldn't but I would wish for a woman who is neither dominant nor submissive. We both should be qualified to have an equal say in matters.

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

Dominant female are useful in jobs or roles where they are needed. However, do I a single man want that woman off the clock or as my partner? Uhhh... trails off sentence...

PatientZeR0 · Answer

I love powerful women. I would guess that men fear losing power.

Anonymous · Answer

What makes you assume they don't want dominant females? Men have all different tastes.

jahaims · Answer

A female that tries to act masculine to compensate for what they lack.

FuqUFggt · Answer

Men don't prefer not to deal with dominant females they prefer not to marry them. Who the fuck wants to live a life of conflict? Males eat shit all day for their family the LAST thing they want is to battle a dragon when they come home.

MrDaveAPSI · Answer

Girls who sort of lead the relationship. It's sexist to think that one or the other should be leading it.

Anonymous · Answer

Girls who are assertive, self-confident, and not shy, are dominant, they lead the relationship, and they are always on top in bed. I actually prefer dominant girls.  Insecure men don't like them.

Anonymous · Answer

men and women should be equal in a relationship in all aspects except the bedroom, where the man should be dominant

Kelly6 · Answer

Dominant female is who runs the family as she wants, not just in bed but in everything she decides

ButtBanger · Answer

For beginners, a huge bubble butt is a sign that the female is powerful enough to crush my cock with her sheer weight.

Anonymous · Answer

I personally would like a dominant female as long as she is feminine dominant not masculine dominant

Anonymous · Answer

Men tend to prefer feminine women.. You can't be dominant and feminine st the same time.

spartan55 · Answer

Uh... they are a pain in the ass for starters.

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