Why do I keep getting unestablished men for dating?

[joymtimmons]

I am a 32 years old woman, single, about to complete my MBA, move into another state to pursue my business and careers. I am also a Christian who not like other Christians. The men I have been with are not established on commitment on anything, such as marriage, children, careers, goals, money and own place. I never dated older men because they are too controlling, but younger men have worked for me, but could be better. Should I get an established man like a male celebrity or businessman and the one who wants the same thing as I do?

[srslyly]

You talk about your education and ambition as though these are relevant factors for men choosing women, but the trait you are struggling to find is one that would naturally correlate with not caring about those things. I have a job, therefore I don't need a woman who has a job. I have a place. Therefore I don't need a woman who has a place. I have an education. Therefore I don't need a woman who has an education.

[joymtimmons]

First of all, all women need to work. I need my business and make my own money. I am only taking care myself and children part-time and spend time with my future husband. I am going be a good wife and mother who makes her own money and not rely on my husband. Me and my husband are going to have our money and work and still take care of ourselves and our children.

[srslyly]

I'm just telling you my opinion as a man. I don't want a woman who won't rely on me. The fact that a particular woman is better educated or more ambitious than another doesn't make her any more attractive to me. I wouldn't want a woman who had no inner life and had nothing to do that didn't involve me, so it's not bad for a woman to have a job. It's just not a big part of the selection process for me. The more established the man is, the less a part of his calculation it would be, I'd think.

[joymtimmons]

Here is the thing. You cannot tell a woman not to work when they are dating, marrying or having children by you because if my husband loses his job, but I have my own career and business along with our children, then I am good to go> if he left me and my children, already have my own income, I will have plenty of money for me and my children. It is a big deal because women want their own money their own money instead of their husband because we have to take care ourselves besides our children. Everyone needs to work no matter the situations. I am not going to be a full time mom. I will only be a part-time mom because I have to work in my company. I am not working full time until my children are away at school. My husband can and still take care of himself.

[srslyly]

I didn't tell a woman not to work. I specifically said it's not something a man is likely to count against you in choosing a woman. It's just not something that's going to help you get chosen either. I understand that your engagement in paid work is important to you. It's just that it isn't important to me.

[Blueeyes81]

Sure aim for the stars.

[joymtimmons]

Well, my future boyfriend, husband and the father of children can be a business man, but he does not have to be a star. I love men who established, successful and wants the same things as I do because it makes the relationship easier. Thank you so much. Joy