How to tell if a guy finds you physically attractive (not necessarily likes you)?

[beautyqueen123]

There's a difference between liking someone and thinking someone is physically attractive (at least, for me). How do I know if a guy at least thinks I'm pretty or attractive? Of course, liking someone is a whole other thing because you need to get to know that person, discover their personalities, etc.

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I'm sure someone can answer this :)

[NateInAk]

Well I'm pretty outgoing so if I just find you physically attractive you're probably going to have to catch me in the act of checking you out (I'm sorry, but come on, we all do it, we've all done it! :) because I'm probably going to be able to deal with a plain physical attraction without you really realizing.
If I actually like you, as in, I'm crushing on you or something, you may notice that while talking to other people I have a normal human conversation, but when I talk to you, I say a lot of stuff that sounds weird but isn't supposed to, I laugh really goofily, and I can barely string a sentence together. So basically, when I talk to other people Im cool, when I talk to you I become the forever alone dude haha

[beautyqueen123]

Hmmm yeah... what do you mean by checking me out? How do guys check out girls lol? Especially at the ages of 14-17?

[NateInAk]

So that's my age range haha
You'll catch him looking at your butt or breasts or just staring at you in general.
It's crude but hey, admiring beauty is a good thing.

[beautyqueen123]

Lol yes I do catch quite a few guys... and what if I have no breasts lol?

[NateInAk]

Then you won't find him glancing down at your chest as much, that's not to say a guy can't still find you attractive.

[beautyqueen123]

Lol yeah I guess you're right

[dkwhysoshy]

He stares at your breasts, butt, does not talk much, talks about sex and kinky stuff all the time. Does not listen or pretends to listen. Does not usually care about you as a person.

[beautyqueen123]

Lol what if he were a more conservative (shy) person?

[beautyqueen123]

And I'm talking about boys who are like 14-17 years old, not grown men.

[dkwhysoshy]

And yeah if the guy does really like you he looks in your eyes, all the time. When you speak and when you don't, is chiliavrios. Remembers most if not all of your conversations. Asks a lot of personal questions and care about your opinion.

[beautyqueen123]

Thanks :) I find that guys don't ask me personal questions, but I mean other girls and adults tell me I'm pretty/beautiful, I was asked to work at Abercrombie and Fitch, and I kind of know it because I see it in the mirror (although I do have insecurities like every other girl, I'm not 100% confident). Not sure if it's because I'm actually not attractive or if I'm intimidating and guys are shy... but it always seems like no one is interested in the more-than-friends way.

[dkwhysoshy]

Ok, if he is a shy person then he will stare at you but when he will catch you looking the he will either look away or dart eyes but then after 30 s to 1 min will start looking again and also during that he may smile + most probably will have a shy red face. Does that ring a bell?

[dkwhysoshy]

Don't rush it there will be a guy that likes you down the road someday. And by the way to have an awesome / good relationship you both must have some common ground so it's not bad to start with a friendship first and then see where the things go.

[beautyqueen123]

Nope it does not ring a bell... :( This guy doesn't exactly stare at me... I mean I caught him once and he looked away, but that was sort of it, from what I could observe. But that was before we even started talking to each other... later this rumor went around that we were a couple and his friends would tease him about me, there would be a sign saying "I love Jenny" made by his friends on his locker, and on social media people were putting our ship name everywhere. It was weird... but then I asked him if it was true or if it was a joke and he said it was a joke, so I was like oh well i think you're attractive, but I don't like you. Then he asked another girl out... then they broke up pretty soon and now he's single again. What the hell this thing confuses me lol

[beautyqueen123]

Lol yes :) So... are you saying that no guys find me attractive or like me? I'm just speaking from what I think, because lots of guys talk to me without me talking to them and I get attention, but no one asks me out or anything. It seems like they only want to be friends, but I mean who knows? I'm probably just really bad at reading guys or they actually aren't interested.

[dkwhysoshy]

I meat that maybe you'll find your future bf not in high school but somewhere later in life. There may be a lot of reasons why guys don't ask you out: 1) fear of rejection - at your age most of the guys are insecure and chicken, they fear rejection so much that don't even try because no would kill them :D 2) Them not asking you out does not mean that you are unattractive it means that you are not he's type (and by that I mean his experience in interactions with women starting from his mother, sister, next door neighbor, chicks he saw in the music videos, ads magazines, women he read in books about.. it all subconsciously morphs in this type thing)

[dkwhysoshy]

Look for body language cues:
Read this: www.amazon.com/.../ref=sr_1_1 (BTW this book is awesome not only for relationships but also understanding what others think in general)

Watch this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KpOEJd5LRVQ

[beautyqueen123]

Lol... I mean I know I'm not unattractive, I think I'm like a 6-7/7.5 on a scale of 1-10 according to what people tell me on GAG (unless they were lying and I'm even more attractive than that because I don't think I got the most accurate opinions). Would guys be chicken to ask a girl as attractive as me out?

[beautyqueen123]

And I'm Asian by the way... Asian American. Is that why? Is that what you mean by "not his type"? Cuz honestly that's so stupid and kind of depressing how America is all about blonde and blue-eyed chicks, not Asian girls. But I'm not even Asian Asian, I'm Asian American. Lol I'm kind of a whitewashed Asian chick cuz I love all things American.

[dkwhysoshy]

They would. Because they fear you'll reject them. And for guys rejection esp. at that age is terrifying. Because they don't yet know how to deal with it.

[beautyqueen123]

Lol oh that's nice to know :/ But like... do you like asians? I know so many guys who "don't have a thing for asians" and i hear it all the time, it's kinda depressing.

[lively17]

At least for me, it's all in the smile. I tend to smile when I find a girl attractive that I'm talking to in person. Unfortunately, this makes for a frowney situation when I'm talking to an ugly girl. I wish I could control it.

[beautyqueen123]

Awww cute :) What if he were a shyer person? And I forgot to mention in my question... I'm talking about 14-17 year old boys, not grown men.

[lively17]

I mean.. i'm 18 so I don't exactly consider myself a grown man lol Shy guys are smilers. I know because I am one.

[beautyqueen123]

Lol okay. Yes, he does have a really cute smile actually... and when we talk, gosh I am always distracted by his smile!! But then there's this other guy who is also shy and when I talk to him, he doesn't smile, but he looks in my eyes... it's so confusing! Does this mean they don't find me attractive?

[StickStickity13]

It can be almost impossible if the guy is good at hiding his emotions

[dkwhysoshy]

No you can tell even if a guy is great at hiding it read: www.amazon.com/.../ref=sr_1_1

[beautyqueen123]

Hmmmm... I'll read into that, I think there is a way to find out because body language kind of gives it away.