Spending the whole day with my boyfriend, what do I do?

[Anonymous]

I'm spending the whole day with my boyfriend on Friday . He plans on picking me up around 10 am , going to ihop then going back to his place in fort hood. I'm completely nervous because i don't know what he would expect.. he knows I'm a virgin and that i want to wait to have sex.. even though he doesn't pressure me at all what are some fun things we can do together other than sex?

[soneoak]

Well you have to be really firm, and try not to go to his place alone at all. He has plans to see if you would change your mind about sex... and it might change. Unless he is like me (my girl friend - virgin - we slept in same bed and started doing hanky panky stuff, but I stopped when it came to sex, she's pretty grateful for that).

Me and my GF had talked about sex, our boundaries etc, all established very clear, and repeated over and over again, even discussing what would happen if... and we built our trust up already that she knows she's going into a risky situation and that I would have to be the one to stop things if anything would go out of hand, because she might be saying things to tease/please me and if I personally and selfishly took it the wrong way... it would have ended badly.

Just say you're still not comfortable with that if you still can't trust him that much. Because if he and you have built up that trust, then you wouldn't have to worry about this. (Trust takes time to build, and for your first time, you either get to have a VERY special one... or a... meh... or tear filled one... that comes with regrets (even if some people say they don't regret, its bullshit, you'll find everything out when you get into the relationship with them and know them more)).

But I won't bank on that or assume anything. Afterall, we had been spending time alone with me doing other already planned stuff first! Not some 'unplanned get to my place' thing.

The unplanned 'get to my place' is only reserved for after we've done other stuff together for a bit already and are cool with each other's language, and even tested each other somewhat that we really won't have sex (i had a house mate back then, so ya know, she can open the door/call for help etc. and he would help her).

[BstBrs]

In relationships I had where we were not at the sex part yet, I would often be lying on the sofa with her in my arms watching a movie/tv-show. And if there was nothing on, we would just chat about things we like in life. Where we had travelled, where we hope to go on day, what we like for hobbies...
Sometimes while we lying like that (watching TV or not), I would sometimes kiss her gently, or my hands would just wonder of on her body, and often find her breasts. But I had no problems keeping it to that and not pushing her to go further into having sex.

If he does go too far sexual, like if you don't him to massage you boobs, then just when his hand goes for your boobs, move it to your belly or something. Same goes for your pussy, underneath clothes, butt. Just move his hand somewhere else. Don't just push it away. That just shouts "don't touch me!". Just let him know where you do like to be touched.

Make sure you have something to watch on TV. Movie that doesn't require full attention, of some tv-shows on Netflix or something. And think of some subject you can ask about. "Have got any nice memories of vacations you been to?", "What would your dream vacation look like?", "Are there any movies you love to see?", "What is your top favourite movie?", "What kind of music do you like?".
Show you are interested in HIM, and not just his body, and you will have a great time without sex.

And just in case, do bring condoms. Just in case you do find your self going that far. You never know how far he might pursued you. And telling him to have condoms for just in case simply means "I want to fuck." So don't count on him having any.

[throwit]

Watch a series on Netflix (I suggest lost and breaking bad) that way you'll have something time consuming to do and since they're good shows you might watch them for a while, and when you get tired of it you can maybe go out to
Mini golf
A pet store that let's you play with the puppies
Amusement park
Dinner and a movie
Walk around the mall ( my mall has nice restaurants and a movie theater)
Walk around outside
Go somewhere for a hike
Hang out with a group of friends

If at the end of the night he tries to pressure you just tell him you really aren't ready :)
(And if you're not ready, making out and dry humping and grinding while fully clothed is the fucking bees knees)

[jeanbean]

Watch a movie, play videogames, cook something and eat it, go for a nice walk, chit-chat for a bit, play a board/card game, go for a nice drive together and blast some tunes. Just do what best friends do with each other.

[Overactivetits]

also suck his dick

[jeanbean]

Only if that's what you feel like doing. Otherwise, no.

[Noxifer626]

That was more out of place than an atheist in Texas.

[SerUmbras]

Ouch. Scathing. Points from me.

[rawr156]

How long have you been together that you're so nourvous?

[Asker]

Its been a month now but I'm nervous because every time we hang out it's public.. like going out to eat, to the movies , bowling.. the mall etc so this will be our first time alone together.. I'm nervous because i want him to have a good time with me even though we won't be having sex.. I'm also nervous because he is in the military and wants me to meet some of his soldiers and sergeant

[aniemist]

Well if you have common interests that would be best, having some ideas is good, and also asking him what he would like to do, you both are in the relationship so you should both decide what to do based on what both of you like. Now some of these may not work immediately but... perhaps in the near future. Do you like the same music, is there a concert anywhere near you for a band that you both like. Do you have the same hobbies or any similar interests you could do a project together, whether that is cooking together , building, or writing. Pretty much any interest that you can share with each other. You can always do the old standbys like some of the people here have suggested such as dinner and movie, shopping together, and board games as well. Whats most important is that you both respect each other and are having fun hope this helps for the future.

[Shifted]

Go for a walk if either of you have a pet it's prob time for an intro... Watching each of y'all's favorite childhood movies is a interesting way to get to know each other... Beware of snuggling/cuddling Omfg too easy to slip on the whole abstinence :/

[LukasTheLovely]

You can cuddle while watching the clouds move closer and apart

You can make smoothies together and taste each other's smoothies

You can watch a movie and eat chocolate and ice cream

You play video games and cuddle

You can have a food fight

You can playfully wrestle

You can dance and laugh and play board games

There are endless possibilities with your soulmate

[Error_204]

If you can't find anything to do with your significant other on your own perhaps you need to reconsider them as your significant other. Bored for a whole day? Oh hun...

[ice_cold-killah]

everything jean said is right and i am a virgin too i didn't chose to i just can't get laid i am not good at it go to the zoo go to mesuem see what he is into you know what i mean but i love eating i eat soo much i am obese, god bless.

[loveskittens]

Maybe spend some time in the park and talk unless its freezing then watch a movie or make cookies.

[preciousamor82]

If you think you're gonna be bored with him for a whole day then maybe you shouldn't be with him.

[Bugiman]

it's Friday ... smoke a blunt with him and watch a funny/scary movie

[Anonymous]

i think its funny that you are so nervous. shouldn't spending a day with your bf make you happy, not worried?

[Krista7]

Board games, movies, frisbee, catch, going and doing something like bowling or for a walk

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Go for walks, Watch movies, cook a meal together.

[Anonymous]

Shave Each Bald!
Mutual Masturbation Would Be Very Erotic!

[Anonymous]

y'all can play cards or just talk about what you want to do with your life and avoid kissing because that will eventually turn into something's more

[Brenden4202]

Fort hood. Ask him to go shooting sounds fun.

[jmmmfi]

he'll probably still try to score

[IAmCluelessToo]

Anything you want it doesn't matter

[Noxifer626]

Pillow fights. They are the joy of mankind.

[ClubCavern]

Go for something to eat then go and see a film.

[jlongbottom]

have sex
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[williamashley]

Bring movies videogames twister an condms

[Anonymous]

a blowjob would be nice

[amigleo1994]

watch a movie, pool or hang out in the park

[dakraziest]

foreplay
2nd base

[gregglong]

sex
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