My boyfriend goes out every weekend and sometimes week days and never wants time with me. What can I do?

[Briana4656]

My boyfriend of 5 years goes out every Friday/Saturday and some week days to go drink with his boys and always goes to town. It has been every single weekend for who knows how long now, I live with him and he always leaves me here alone. I can’t go with him because he doesn’t like me around his friends. Plus I don’t enjoy town and don’t have many friends. I ask him when will he have time for me to do the things I want to do on the weekend with him or just stay in for one night to watch movies together as when he goes out I always have sleepless nights worrying and thinking the worst from past experiences with him and his friends being around girls. I haven’t had a proper full night sleep in so long with out waking up every 2 hours overthinking about what he’s doing or waking up early for work. He promises me every week he’ll stay in this weekend and when the day comes his friends call up and he goes despite our plans and promising to stay in with me. Plus he doesn’t end up coming home till 7am sometimes 8am! I can’t stand it, and when we do, do our plans on the day he’s always still drunk or hung over or in need of sleep, so it’s not the same as if he was just him normal self. I hate it I can’t stand it. What can I do? I don’t want to be controlling I mean I don’t ask for much apart from one night in with me. I can’t remember the last time. I feel as so his boys mean more to him then I do...

[Goforit1010]

First of all, realize actions speak louder than words. His behavior shows he doesn't care about you. It shows his total selfishness. To him, you're nothing more than a live-in maid. Someone who'll make his bed, do the laundry and dishes, make his meals, do the shopping, and provide the occasional sex he wants. He doesn't really care about you. He cares about himself and what you can do FOR him.

It's time to make a plan. Get enough money set aside to move out and live on your own. Get rid of him by getting out of his life. When to do that? When he decides one weekend to go out with his "boys". When he drives off, have the truck pull up and remove your things from the house. Surely, you have enough friends that'll help you do this. Don't say anything to him about it. Just leave him. When he calls and asks when you're coming back, treat him the same way he's treated you these past years - and tell him... NOTHING. You need to go out with the "girls". It's YOUR time to start living YOUR life. Find a different guy to be with and DON'T live with them until AFTER you're married.

[blutwolfe]

I mean don't rip his boys away from him, but you gotta question what you mean to him and what he means to you, he's got the wife in the bag he thinks so he's not worried, probably doing who knows what, usually the boys just hangout though but if he's not introducing the boys maybe they're not real and he's doing something else.

Obviously you're not happy with the relationship, why are you staying?

[Anonymous]

Im extremely sorry if this comes off harsh, but 5 years he probably thinks you’re boring/not fun to be around. I only say this because clearly your lifestyle differs from his. Sounds like your mindset is focused on settling down, and he’s still concerned with going out and having a good time with his friends.

[EmmaMary]

Just what the fuck are you doing wasting your life with this fucking pathetic lowlife?

[7-AkEL]

He is taking you for granted. Spice it up, put him in an ease start acting completely the oppisite of you let him think and wonder. Move forward find things to do without him. Let him feel that he is in danger. Do tbat carefully with brain not emotions it might take some time.

[Anonymous]

Try following him maybe it will help you stop overthinking

[meowamanda]

He cheating or not interested in u anymore.. guys are dogs and dogs have fleas and them fleas are hoes been through this few times..

[reptocarl2]

It won’t ever change so you have a decision

[Kai97]

He is just not interested in you anymore