My boyfriend and I live 30miles apart. We met through road cycling. I'm an avid, competitive road cyclist, and he used to be. A group of friends and I have been talking for quite some time about doing a long, exciting ride back from the beach, and this weekend the weather looks perfect, so we all agreed to go and I got my train ticket to take me to the Beach. However, my boyfriend seems upset now, and will hardly talk. He just says "we hardly see each-other as it is". I always go over to his place and spend Saturday night, all of Sunday and Sunday night with him, and drive over to his place to spend one weeknight with him (he has only come to my place once over the past year we've dated). Because of this bike ride, I will have to miss Saturday night with him. He's asked me to think about I would feel if the situation was reversed. I told him that I'd be very excited for him, if he was going off on such an adventuresome ride, even though I would be a little sad about not having as much time with him the one weekend, but I'd be cheering him on because it's a cool experience that I'd be happy for him to have. He so doesn't see it the same way. This has happened a few times, throughout our relationship, and it makes me so immensely sad to see him react like this. He does say "you go an do whatever you want". But he says it in an upset tone, which is so unsettling. I'm truly not a homebody, while he is. He's a night owl, while I'm a morning person. I've worked through these differences and made adjustments though, for him. Is there something wrong with my boyfriend's thinking, or is it me? Why doesn't he think of these once in awhile exciting adventures in the same way as I do? I just want to cry, because although it's nothing huge, I feel torn.
Why does my boyfriend get upset whenever I can't hang out?
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