Why do men get upset when their girlfriends wear revealing clothing?
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What is your aim, your goal when putting on revealing clothing?
As the word says, revealing means nothing more than to show. The definition of the word "revealing" says
"... allowing more of the wearer's body to be seen than is usual" Thus, is it that you want other people to see your body even if you yourself state that "... its not like I have a great body...".
You have always to see the ultimate motive behind an action and if yours is to show off your body by wearing a certain type of clothing, then it is your sole prerogative.
Perhaps that your boyfriend not like to be seen with you wearing revealing clothing because he
1) does not feel comfortable in your company
2) does not want other guys to catcall you
3) is jealous of the reaction of other men
4) is afraid that something may happen to you
Whatever the reason, it is up to you to ask your man why he does not like/want you to wear revealing clothing.
Finally, it is your body and you are free to do with it whatever you want as long as it is not illegal.
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Some do... some don't.
To those that do... they probably feel strongly attracted to you and find seeing you nude as a highly pleasurable and intimate thing. That is a boundary of the intimacy of the relationship. Men are visually pleased and aroused.
You showing off delicate, revealing, sexually arousing parts of yourself to random men is hurtful to him. Maybe kind of a breach of the intimacy between you two.
You probably think only in terms of how you feel. I don't have feelings for these other men so all is good whereas he... being much more visually stimulated knows how much sexual pleasure you may be giving men whether you want to or not by showing off all the private goodies and it hurts him.
If you must dress skimpy and revealing and let the girls hang out and show the tummy and have skirts that go up to your butt you two may need to discuss your boundaries.
If this is something you have to do whether it hurts him or not just let him know that... he'll just have to decide "I don't like it... it hurts but I can live with it" or he'll need to decide "this crosses my boundaries too much we aren't a compatible match" and you two may need to go your separate ways.
Just talk it out and figure it out.
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Guys sometimes do that because they know what other guy will comment on or stare at. So he is just being protective. Now its your choice how you take it. If he does that at every instance its better to have a conversation with him. If its only sometimes, then also it depends on multiple factors like how is your relationship with that guy and how much importance does it carry. If the relationship is good and both of you are equally committed and important in each other's life, then either of you needs to compromise to maintain the sanity of relation. Relationships are built on compromises from both sides: a bit him and a bit you. If none of you can't compromise then stay with your choice. He doesn't have a say in your life choices and none of his life choices have a say of you. And it would be better if you choose those clothes which are comfortable rather than revealing and also according to the occasion you will be wearing it. Everytime he can't be with you to protect you, sometimes you need to take your own responsibility.
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He is a complete control freak. Put your foot down. The whole "you're going to regret that" comment can go one of two ways. Either he is a psycho and will literally make you regret it by physically harming you (hopefully not the case) OR he will probably threaten to leave you if you dont abide by his rules and guidelines. Wear what you want. Chances are if he threatens to leave, he won't actually go anywhere. If he does? Good fucking riddance. This man sounds completely exhausting and you deserve better.
By the way- that skirt isn't even close to being revealing. Your boyfriend is a fucking idiot.
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LEAVE HIM. It is one thing to say, “babe, I don’t like the thought of other guys looking at you the way I do” and to have a conversation about it. It is completely different for him to make threats and try to control you and your every decision. He sounds very insecure and controlling. He definitely has his own issues that have nothing to do with you. I’ve dealt with this same situation before. No matter the relationship, no one has the right to tell you what to do or make you feel like you have to do what they say. No one has that right, unless it’s something you shouldn’t do. And wearing a revealing outfit harms no one. Also, there’s nothing wrong with your outfit in the picture. I don’t get how he considers that revealing. It’s not you, hun, it’s him.
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In your case, he may simply be a control freak who has anger issue's. As for why he said you regret that well mm could mean plenty of things but lets assume he's one of those tpyes of men who abuse women. That is more likely to happen but he also may just leave you. Yea well in any case the reason why I don't like dating a girl who shows off her body is simply because it doesn't appear to me that she actually belongs to me, not as a object but simply as a person. I thought lovers were suppose to only show the body to each other not the whole world. So its more of how I was taught, but than again I don't know. As time goes on my standards will change
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Yeah that's messed up. You should be able to wear what you like, when you want. My boyfriend is actually the opposite, he actively encourages me to look sexy as often as possible, whether we're out together or not. The only time he gets annoyed about is if I've refused him sex in the morning (like if we've argued or something) then wear something like a really short skirt all day just to piss him off. Yes, I'm a bitch, I know. lol
But in reality that doesn't happen all that often. - 325 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
My idiotic boyfriend is the same. I am not allowed to show any skin whatsoever and my whole body is meant to be covered and that too covered in LOOSE clothes so that my body shape is not visible. I am soooo sick of it and I feel suffocated. I feel my youth is wasting away and my life is a waste. I feel miserable all the time.
If you are unhappy then probably he is not the right person. I am unhappy but don’t have the courage for break up. -
Not every men get upset with their girlfriend wear revealing and sexy outfits.
May be in your case one odd, my girlfriend wear revealing outfits publicly, I compliment her and give encouragement for her choice and desired.
My sincere advice is keep away from him. - 1.3K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
There's nothing wrong with the clothing in the pic.
It's your body.
He can be proud to be with you or not.
If you wear skimpy stuff just to attract attention it shows disrespect to ur boyfriend when he's with you.
Ask him, talk it out with him.
Is he jealous and controlling?
Are you vindictive and manipulative?
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I do not worry, and that clothing in the photo is anything but revealing.
a girl should have her own choice on what she wears -
I've always thought that guys who complain about what their girlfriends wear do so because they are the same guys that oogle other girls when not in the presence of their girl. Also has to do with control.
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He doesn't want other guys to see what he thinks, "belongs to him". Wear what you want. As it's your body. He should respect your decisions.
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He is clearly jealous that he can’t wear them himself.
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That sounds like the kind of movie that should have a 0. Star rating.
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Sounds like some dumb thing. I wouldn't care if she were revealing clothes
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He shouldn’t stop u from dressing the way u want, plus that pic isn’t really what I would consider revealing clothing
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You call that revealing? Post a more revealing pic of yourself, please :)
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They can dress however they want.
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Insecurity and controlling.
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They don't want other guys checking them out.
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I don't. I find it arousing.
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Small dick energy
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