Why are men bothered by revealing clothes on women?

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Investigator · Accepted Answer

Straight men like looking at attractive women generally, so a woman in revealing attire is just pleasing to the eyes. However, there's a difference between clothing that accentuates but still hides the body and basically being naked. Men take umbrage with too little clothing, not because they dislike women's' bodies, but because they are no longer driven entirely by sex-seeking hormones, and see the woman as less a sex object and more a realized person to be protected. As such, her attire is re-contextualized from "she likes the way it looks" to "she wants attention". There is good attention and there is bad attention; you only get to attract it, you don't get to choose it. The audience is self-selecting.

Now, you might say "maybe she likes how revealing clothing makes her feel, because it makes her more confident", but that's wrong. Unless she's using her body to promote something, the fact that she's using skin to solicit interest means she doesn't believe her clothed self is sufficient. There's a lot of women will cripplingly-bad self-esteem because of our hyper-materialistic focus on perfect appearance and lifestyle, so a woman who's barely dressed probably feels that provoking lust is necessary to be noticed. It's better to be used than to be ignored.

From the man's perspective, being seen with an almost-naked woman can be demonstrative of an external locus of control; men who know their worth don't typically like their women to be so scantily-clad, because he doesn't feel the need to constantly reaffirm his desirability. The ones that do are essentially using their woman's body to instigate fights, because they feel they have something to prove and every contender is a chance to reassert dominance. Just being out in public, a man that feels a compulsion to "be seen as an alpha", by peacocking the hotness of the women he bangs, is not one; just like going to the gym, it's self-evident if it's true.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

We aren't. It's just that some women are upset by how we interpret what they wear.

Women know better than anyone that your clothing choices, along with things like hair styles, makeup, nails, tattoos, piercings, etc., are all an advertisement to the world of who you are and what your values and priorities are.

If you were in a room with 100 random college students, and I asked you to point out the jocks, or the hipsters, or the Woke activists, you could easily do so with 90% or better accuracy just based on their looks. That's because they intentionally advertise who they are by their appearance.

Women who wear revealing clothes out of context (meaning, not at the beach) are advertising who and what they are, and mostly enjoy the attention they receive. But some get upset when they are treated as the things they advertise themselves as - not because they don't know what they are doing, but because they want the benefits of both and the liabilities of neither, and are upset that the world doesn't work that way.

It's also true that the majority of men do not want their wife or girlfriend dressing in revealing ways because that is advertising that she is sexually available. It's the same reason a woman doesn't want her husband/boyfriend buying things for other women.

Life is not an a la carte menu - you don't get to mix and match, picking only the benefits and avoiding the responsibilities and sacrifices that come with those benefits. Instead, you have just a few packages to choose from - and some of those choices have a time component (available for a limited time only!). When you make a choice, you are choosing both the benefits and the liabilities together. A different package will have different benefits and liabilities, but there are no liability-free choices. And some choices, once made, cannot ever be changed.

FreyaRed · Accepted Answer

Different reasons.
If they want to brag with you as their prey to boost their ego are "revealing" clothes okay but if you wear such outfit to attract male glimpses and to boost your ego while your man starts to fear he couldn't be the only one, then suddenly it's not okay.
Fathers are sometimes rigorous in matter of clothes, in their perception you're still their little girl and when men gets boners just because they see you, this creates some cognitive dissonance in your fathers mind.

IslaTheWitch · Accepted Answer

because some of them are insecure AF, and revealing clothes make them excited and at the same time, their insecurities tell them, "you have no chance"

so... it's not nice... but they can't tell themselves, "I'm insecure AF, so it's not the girl's fault that I feel this way" so they blame everyone around, mostly pretty girls that make them excited :D

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

I’m calling bull$hit on this one! Men aren’t bothered by revealing clothing on women, we love it. If anything I think women are bothered by men looking at other women in revealing clothing.

MLGbreezy · Answer

Men weren’t for the most part the only ones really bothered are probably other woman aka Karen’s what bothers men is the woman who wear revealing clothing then get mad at men and go on rants about men sexualizing woman when they sexualized themselves to begin with woman live to pull out that care anytime something involving mena me there body is brought up I got into and argument with a female friend like a few days ago for just this. Mind you we had a previous sexual relationship she knows what I like she didn’t send me videos of her naked or in revealing clothing but her turning around and showing of her ass tow videos of her doing that front and center then had that audacity to get mad at me for likening that and well commenting on it I didn’t even comment on those videos in particular but stuff like that you can do stuff like that or wear clothes that do what they are supposed to do and show off the female figure to look SEXY or create SEX Appel which is usually done to Appeal to men and then get mad at men for liking it.

Anonymous · Answer

This isn’t going to be a popular opinion but let me just be blunt, billions of people around the world believe in one God, God set rules for human beings, men and women. There are many different laws God ordered such as don’t steal, don’t kill (unless fighting an oppressor in war), be kind to neighbours, your parents, etc, but one is be careful of lust and for men to lower their gaze. I am not perfect as a guy but why is this question why do guys/men have issues with women and girls wearing revealing outfits?

Females complain men and guys are after one thing and women/girls know how to manipulate the male mind. God ordered that females and males dress modestly. As a guy, I have 3 sisters I don’t want to see my sisters dressing like sluts and getting attention by weirdos. And for girls/women why do you want that attention anyways? Be sexy for your man.

Problem is, society today with social media, influence of movies, feminism has distorted the minds of females to act a certain way but I’ve read reports that more women around the world are suffering from depression and anxiety so if feminism is about liberation is that at a cost that women hate themselves.

I knew a girl, don’t speak to anymore, she liked me but things fizzled out, she was very sexy and beautiful but all of a sudden she disappeared, she’s like 30 now and I don’t know what she’s doing whether she’s married, has a boyfriend, single, happy, sad, busy with life but she told me she got annoyed guys hitting on her on IG, I can only assume she wanted to leave that side of what she presented online and live a low key life style and not want that attention.

Lliam · Answer

I'm not. I love the sight of beautiful women. Form-fitting outfits, legs, cleavage, braless under a tight top - I think it's fine.
And that applies to my partner. I was always proud of her looks and admired her self confidence. She was proud of me, too. That applied to all my girlfriends from the time I was 16, as well as my wife.
I didn't care if other guys checked her out or complimented her because I knew she was loyal to me. I was her man. She chose me. She wasn't dressing to attract other men and she wasn't tempted by other men.

It's a matter of loyalty and trust. If I can't trust her, I shouldn't be with her in the first place. It doesn't make sense to me to think that the only way to hold onto a partner is to keep her on a leash or keep her hidden from sight.

At the same time, I will protect and defend her against aggressive ass holes because my job is to keep her safe and secure.

Summeroflove · Answer

I mean really…. I don’t care what someone does. If someone isn’t my kind of person then what they do. Oh well…. I don’t have to be their friend.

If it was my daughter I would be a little more concerned. Hopefully I could be a better father figure then that and marry a better mother figure. I wouldn’t want a woman I was dating being like that but then again I wouldn’t pick a woman like that. It’s not how I am either.

However some people are projecting. Some are men who have Whored around. But anyways that’s another story. There are women who do this too.

Peter_Penetrator · Answer

We are men. ALL attractive women we see we look to lay. The more revealing the clothes that a woman wears, the harder our “member” gets.

To us, if a woman is wearing revealing clothing, we men feel that you are still looking for someone better than us. That something about us isn’t making you happy. We feel that if you are committed to us that you have no more need to “advertise” the goods, you should dress more conservative. Not like a nun, but conservative enough not to draw so much attention.

I will say this, where l am from, l have verbally expressed interest in married women; now that I am single. All have refused my invitations. I am not some creepy guy that has let myself go. I am attentive enough that l see that women do find me attractive.

Anyways, l have developed more respect towards married women truly being committed to their husbands. It has changed my perceived idea that all married women are looking for something better.

RavVid · Answer

It is not very complicated. We do indeed like looking at naked and semi naked women to the degree we will pay for that. We are quite happy to have sex with random women in bar toilets if we can.

If we are investing in a relationship with a girl than we have different standards than for an anybodies quite obviously.

In that case we don't like her to be advertising sexual desirability and availability. Nor for her to be willing to have sex with anybody.

Some men feel they get status from their girl dressing hot but that is a minority.

It is not complicated.

HighValue · Answer

It is inappropriate when in a relationship. It shows disloyalty and intentionally encourages others to flirt with her. It is telling others that she is available sexually. Often, immoral and unfaithful women do that. Her publicly posting revealing/provocative pictures online when in a relationship is cheating too.

BruceJender · Answer

Ironically, the criticism directed at women wearing revealing clothes, more often than not, tends to come from women themselves.

It doesn't bother me in the slightest.

I suppose the criticism arises from how (some) women tend more attention to how they're dressed rather than the content of their character. Much like how (some) women resort to plastic surgery and over the top make-up.

Same goes for (some) men, who's lives revolve around money and influence, instead of improving themselves on a more personal level.

These, I'm afraid to say, are the results of a deeply materialistic society.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Maybe because they want a wholesome girl and revealing clothes don't spell "wholesome", they spell "Ho" who likes the attention. Even those who act repelled by the attention are actually digging it. In fact, I bet they would feel disappointed if no one looked at them.  LOOK AT ME! LOOK AT ME!!

Cherrylicious · Answer

Because there are narcissistic Hypocrites they will preach self respect on to women about wearing more "modest clothing" but never go after the girls who dress in a respectful manner and that covers her entire body but rather go after the "whores" that they speak so highly against. This is why I don't take men seriously.

onedarkcloud · Answer

There are ways of wearing revealing clothes and looking good or being bad while looking good Some girls look like tramps because of the way they present themselves. My wife always looked at first glance like a goodie two shoes. but with the heart of a HO! We would leave the house in her short dress prim and proper but she loved to give guys a look at her bald pussy after 3 or 4 bourbons that only the guy intended got the flash and when we got home it was worth the wait. It never bothered me that she showed pussy.

desidoll · Answer

I can understand if the woman is their partner, but to be bothered by what a stranger wears (other women) is kinda weird. I think they feel like losing power against women in general. They know women who wear revealing clothes get a lot of attention from other men (whether it is positive or negative) hence making the competition worse for them. I know this has nothing to do with the topic but I rarely meet rich/wealthy or the 666 men who are bothered by this 😅

Apple1996 · Answer

Probably because they cannot control themselves so they see a woman in skimpy clothes and automatically wanna sexualize her

UnusualWeirdo · Answer

Men are bothered by this? I feel the more that's shown the more we get used to it, desensitized if you must, and then it's not really a big deal, I don't understand how a man can be disgusted with it, it's kinda weird and it happens, like if you don't want to see that then don't look.

ManInChains · Answer

Because women know what they’re doing when they do it they’re playing to a man’s sexuality knowing men can’t help but look or stare and what happens when men do this? They’re deemed misogynistic due to cat calling. Women like being empowered when it hurts men.

EzraIsShy76028 · Answer

A lot of people in general like to police the clothes women wear. She shows skin? She's a "slut." She doesn't show skin? She's a "prude." So it's overall a damned if you do, damned if you don't sort of situation.

For men there's not really an equivalent to this. The closest thing is when he's dressed inappropriately for an occasion. But that's it. Women will often be judged even if what they're wearing IS appropriate for the occasion.

chilldude33 · Answer

I guess because of the awkward game where it's inappropriate to look at a woman's body, yet they do anything they can to show it off, but it's still implied that you are not supposed to look or get caught looking.

So advocating for dressing modestly resolves this issue.

soe11 · Answer

I agree with you, but not all men like that.  Personally I like my girlfriend wearing revealing outfits publicly. I complimenting and encouraging her. My girlfriend was trained by her beloved mum wearing revealing and exposure outfits  She is pretty much confidence wearing revealing outfits publicly.

Anonymous · Answer

It’s almost as if a woman is saying “all eyes on me, I’m available!”

And if you’re with that woman, what does that say about your relationship? Are you not good enough for her? Are you just there to fulfill her temporary needs? Is she constantly looking for a better option or situation?

And ESPECIALLY if you’ve had this discussion with her and she doesn’t respect your concerns… Why does she feel the need for more attention? Is yours not good enough? See?

Anonymous · Answer

men aren't bothered by revealing clothing on random women in the street

those are women, men don't care about

the women whom men care about is a reflection on the man himself based on how she presents herself to the outside world

presentation matters. reputation matters. only idiots don't understand this especially all these simps and white knights in the comments

if women don't wanna complain about objectification, then they shouldn't objectify themselves

morganherrel · Answer

Because it's often trashy. Also, most American women look terrible in revealing clothes... they don't have anything good to show.

If it's a man's girlfriend, then he doesn't want her to advertise herself to other men.

Otherwise, I think men actually like it.

Anonymous · Answer

Because women wearing revealing clothes in public is sinful. It invokes desires and feelings of lust in men... forcing Christian men to turn their heads away, to prevent those feelings of lust. At least that's why I believe men would be bothered by it.

SlightlyMental · Answer

It gets tiring seeing hot ass every two seconds because for some reason all womnen must wear yoga pants out because they all follow trends like it's going to kill them if they don't.

Then tell men how creepy they are for looking.

The two facedness of it all is the issue for me, otherwise IDGAF.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

The only time men don't like skimpy clothes is when it is on his girl. Not all guys obviously but the ones who do care its because they don't want every other guy eye fucking and seeing what should be only reserved for him.

Kelly6 · Answer

@chocolatetwopointo My husband is never bothered by wearing those clothes in public.

WhitneySnow · Answer

I think most guys love that. A few religious guys are bothered by that because some Christian churches say that’s sinful and a few old guys don’t like it because I guess they’ve lost interest in women at their age.

jshm2 · Answer

Because civility, decorum and style are a thing.  Why the hell should you be pleased with a woman wearing revealing clothes at a funeral, for example?

Jokerz711 · Answer

Because most people r unsecure about their own bodies an afraid if their partner shows hers off she'll get the attention she deserves rather than the attention he gives her! My own opinion is idc ur size or color it's ur body if ur happy with it show it

Anonymous · Answer

It's not the revealing clothes themselves that are the problem. It's what it says about the personality, mindset and character of a woman who wears them, and the type of attention she clearly seeks to attract.

Kelley1 · Answer

How are they bother unless you mean "Hot and bothered."

blueonblack22 · Answer

Why can’t women be honest that they crave attention and that’s why they dress provocatively in the first place?

Still-alive · Answer

control freaks. they probably also think you'll likely cheat or you sleep around if you aren't dressing conservatively

rgii55447 · Answer

Because I should be looking at my Soul Mate that way, not some random person.

Rachey1986 · Answer

I wish i knew! If you find out please let us all know!!

The_Confusion · Answer

We worry that the patriarchal wage gap makes you not afford warmer clothes.

avery58 · Answer

They don't care. Unless it's their partner, and even then some of them don't care.

HighlyQuestionable · Answer

No idea. Doesn't bother me. What bothers me is when they take umbrage with being admired. I said Admired, not ogled.

Sparking4th · Answer

The reason is because it simply makes our cock rock hard when we see a women in clothes where her breasts, ass, and other body parts are on display, and it makes us feel uncomfortable. It wakes up our sexual instinct. This is the real reason.

jojouzumaki · Answer

I guess Boys welcome it, Guys like it, and Men ignore/not bothered by it.

paledreams · Answer

As long as the woman is a legal adult - uhhh 👀👀👀👀👀

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Are we really, though?

DextroShade · Answer

They don't like being teased by things they can't have. They also know that they are doing it just to get attention.

DerekC321 · Answer

I'd let her wear them even though when I see others wear them I get a boner sometimes and I imagine other guys do too lol

Squatting_Slav · Answer

doesn't bother me at all.  These guys worry and get all insecure about getting cheated on just because she wears revealing clothes 🤦‍♂️

DrPepper12 · Answer

Bothered? No sir! Never!! Who could ever oppose or get bored with that?

RingOfFire · Answer

It's called  HOT  and bothered... not just bothered.

PaleDale · Answer

It's religion, they don't want to be drawn into temptation

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Men are attracted by sexual women but then when they have a girl friend they don’t want her to be sexual to other men avoiding competition

Anonymous · Answer

Because we know other Guys can see it and if we are somehow related to you or we know you we are embarrassed because it makes us look we have no influence on you at all, Which makes us look pathetic.

Anonymous · Answer

Not all men are heterosexual. So maybe some of the men who are gay may be offended by the competition?

JohnnyB123321 · Answer

I sure as hell am not! That’s fantastic to me!

jahaims · Answer

The only bothering part is pretending it isn't for attention

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

It looks inappropriate and something a hooker would wear.

red324 · Answer

Because we're not supposed to look, yet there they are

LiamJHayden · Answer

I'm not, but I grew up at and still live at the beach so maybe I'm just numb to it.

Anonymous · Answer

You mean hot and bothered? Because for the most part we love it. On an attractive girl, of course!

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Bothered? I'm bothered when a buxom broad hides her spuds from us boys' view !!!

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on what kind of revealing clothes. If they like it, it's because they like looking at some attractive girl. If they don't like it, it's because they consider it trashy.

Kattsnaiper · Answer

Couse it makes other people want you, and it feels like you don't take the relationship seriously.

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