I think it's kind of unfair honestly. I always try to treat everyone with respect, regardless of race, gender, religion or anything at all. But when I see a female showing cleavage, I can't help it... it's like my brain literally forces me to look and when I do I get accused of being a perv or called other things. Why do females seem to wear clothes that show off their breasts if they are going to get mad if people look? It seems like a trap in a way... Am I crazy? Do other guys have this problem? Is it just my age and I'll eventually stop caring? Females that show cleavage, why do you get mad if you see a guy looking?
I'm a female that shows cleavage and I get mad if guys look.
I'm a female that shows cleavage and I don't mind/enjoy when guys look.
I'm a female and I don't show cleavage.
I'm Male and I have trouble not looking at cleavage.
I'm a male and I have no problem with not looking at cleavage.
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Why do some women wear clothes that show off cleavage, but get upset if they see a man looking?
Well I think it's Just so the woman can sort of "feel good" about herself if you get what I mean. Sometimes I get cleavage, but it doesn't happen that much since I don't have any low-cut tops and dresses that much. I like having some cleavage because it kind of makes me feel "More of a girl" if you get what I mean. I feel more feminine and womanly. It's for my own happiness.
I think that's the reason for many girls / women. They want to feel good about themselves and feel more feminine. The other obvious reason is "Attention", I believe they do it to get special male attention. Though they realise the staring has become a little too much for their liking and it starts feeling awkward to them, which is most likely probably the reason why they get upset and mad. That's the way I see it, they like to show off the cleavage, but they get upset and mad for the guy staring for too long because it makes them feel awkward.
The other reason as I said earlier to probably feel good, makes them confident and makes them feel more feminine and womanly. And also they dont want to be looked at and Just want to "Feel good" and "Confident". It doesn't always signal an open invitation for guys to stare and look at them for too long though. But I actually wouldn't mind if guys looked at mine.
My cleavages have always been "Small". It's not because my breasts are small, it's because the tops aren't that low-cut. But there's definetly been some amount of cleavage visible there. No guy has even glanced at mine lol, probably because my breasts aren't showing that much to be stared at. But I still wouldn't mind if guys Just took a quick glance at mine.
It's cause I understand that you Men / Boys can't help it. You're eyes automatically shift there, and you don't really mean to come across as a "Pervert" or a "Creep". It's natural for you men to look, you're Just made that way. And I'll admit I've looked at other girls cleavages too if I noticed any, and I'm a girl too. I Just saw, but didn't constantly stare. And for all you men out there it's natural to look, don't worry, you're hard wired to look at female breasts and cleavage. Just try to do it less often and you'll be fine...😊
Lets face it its not about guys staring is all about if they guy whos looking is the guy the girl wants to look.
if a guy who is hot and the girl has crush on he can stare as much as he wants. if its the geek that she is not interested in then all hell breaks loose.
look women if your gonna go out in public then the public will look thats why its call going out in public. just like if u went out naked in public and showed off people would look.
get over it if you out and showing skin then people are going to look and stare you can't then choose whos allowed and whos not!
Girls do it bc they want attention. They don’t understand that they’re getting the wrong attention though. There’s nothing wrong with you, I know guys are visual. I think it’s respectful to wear modest (not Grandma-like🤔) clothes, not only for guys, but also themselves.
I don’t think most sane women would care if it’s just a glance or a quick look. Even women do that. What women don’t like is when guys stare. Also showing cleavage isn’t always for the sake of attention.
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I'm not trying to argue, just understand. What reasons do women show cleavage for other than the sake of attention? Please don't take me as being rude.
I don’t think you’re being rude, don’t worry. In my case, it’s because my boobs are kind of big. Sometimes the cleavage is literally unavoidable and even if I pull the neckline up, it’ll just slide down later. Another reason is, sometimes cleavage simply looks good. If a woman has an asset, she may want to show it off because she knows she looks good and not necessarily for the sake of getting attention from others.
I kind of get what you're saying but at the same time I don't know. I feel like I'm an attractive guy and if I wear something that shows off my biceps I'm not doing it for myself, I'm definitely doing it so that ladies will notice. What is the point of knowing you look good if it isn't for letting other people see that you look good?
I guess let me ask this. If it is only for yourself then do you get dressed up and looking good and showing off your assets just to stay in? Or, do you do it only if you're going out in public?
Sometimes it’s moreso a matter of self satisfaction. It feels nice to get validation from others but the best form of satisfaction is when you reach a point where you know that you look great without needing to hear anything from others. I’m kind of on a road to regain my confidence and ever since I started doing things for myself, I’ve felt SO much better than when I’d do things to gain validation from others. As for your other question, it just depends on how I’m feeling that day. If I feel like it, I’ll dress nicely whether I’m leaving my house or not. If not then I’ll dress down even if I’m going out in public. Anyway don’t get me wrong there are definitely some women that show off cleavage for attention, that just isn’t always the case.
Lets face it its not about guys staring is all about if they guy whos looking is the guy the girl wants to look.
if a guy who is hot and the girl has crush on he can stare as much as he wants. if its the geek that she is not interested in then all hell breaks loose.
look women if your gonna go out in public then the public will look thats why its call going out in public. just like if u went out naked in public and showed off people would look.
get over it if you out and showing skin then people are going to look and stare you can't then choose whos allowed and whos not!
My parents were very conservative and basically said never look at a woman in a bikini so... due to how I was raised I kind of get embarrassed if I so much as look below a woman's neckline. So yeah, I don't tend to notice cleavage or dresses and such. It's just not what I look at. That being said... I agree that it's ridiculous that women are like "I'm going to wear a very revealing outfit, let's hope no one looks." If you don't want anyone looking them cover up and you don't have to think twice about it. Then again maybe they're just trying to make other women jealous of their bodies? just... you know... never men.
Like... I don't think it's a good thing for guys to go gawking but it's not like women are trying to train men to not gawk by wearing skimpy clothing and then telling guys they shouldn't look.
Yeah, not gonna lie it's actually it makes life a lot easier at times cause I just don't have the same instincts I think a lot of guys do. It's not as much of a temptation so it's not something I find causing me trouble.
1. You insist on being told the logic behind women's behavior? Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha!
2. You recognize that life is unfair? Get accustomed to it. . . and welcome to adulthood!
3. Perhaps this will give you some insight. There are women who insist on wearing matching panties and bra, and then they will spend time and effort to make sure that no one else ever sees their matching panties and bra.
Why do they do it? The best answer I have heard is that they dress for themselves, to feel good about their appearance so that they feel confidence in themselves as a woman. Having said that. . . it still makes very little sense.
So here's a different answer for you. I and I believe most women are more attracted to men who don't get blown away by or gawk at our breasts. Look around. Most of the men actually getting with us are the types to not show any interest in our cleavage or sexiness. At least not in a noticeable way. It is more mature to maintain eye contact and focus on the individual. This will get you noticed. Secondly, we don't do it for you. We do it because we like the way we look. Now if I have my tits popping out I see no reason to get mad that guys look or stare. I did put them out there. If you walked around with your dick out I'd be looking too.
This is one of the best questions ever! I'll say this, when polite women look at men, they do so in a way that is not so obvious. My best lady told me I was being looked at after we were dating, but I never knew until she clued me in.
When polite men look at women, their eyes become dazed, their grip on reality becomes to slip a bit... They auto-lock in on cleavage like an F-18 fighter laser lock, their appendage begins to give their jockey shorts a challenge to see how far they stretch, and before the men know it, they've revealed every last sex neuron they had in their brain. Worse, it's all followed by a huge sea of regret when the cleavage floats out of sight, and they can't stop thinking about it... until they scan the horizon and lock on another terrific set.
This is one great example of "female privilege!" Women show off their bodies to empower themselves. They want to feel confident and sexy. It isn't always to attract men, but also to over compete with other women. Women hate men looking at them, except the one guy they have a crush on. Women hate attention unless they are able to over power other women by looking sexier.
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I didn't think about it like that. That's very selfish of them if that's the case
I show cleavage from time to time. I look good. I don't mind when guys look and notice it's when they stare or we are talking and they are just staring at chest, I catch them by say something off the wall because, I'm short so I ha e to throw something out there to prove tgeyvare being an idiot... I'll say something like so you killed the President right he'll respond yes, I then give him a finger flick and say really like you never see this. They always apologize because they know they shouldn't be gawking a glance is fine...
I dunno. Its probably because its generally considered rude to stare. It's when it comes to being considered lewd or leering. I'm s girl n i stare at guys all the time but i remind not to in certain situations etc coz of it being inappropriate lol
As someone who recently discovered she is a 36DDD now...
It's because boob sweat is a thing and it's also uncomfortable to wear clothes that cover our chests all day long especially when it's really out. The shirts are restrictive and uncomfortable.
Men are so far up their own ass though that they think we have them out to bait you.
No, bitch, we have cleavage because it's physically more comfortable. Get over yourselves.
PS: Most women don't care if you look. It's when you stare like a creepy stalker dude that makes us uncomfortable.
If a pedophile sees a child and decides to look and claims that because they're a pedophile who is attracted to kids and he can't help it is that okay? no.
Not all women wear revealing things to draw attention so if you're staring and your excuse is that you do it because you are a guy, well then you've just stereotyped yourself.
Staring is rude regardless of what someone wears period, male or female.
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Well yeah it is a stereotype but honestly most stereotypes are what they are for a reason. I'm just wondering and seriously curious, not trying to be rude or offensive, but what reasons would women show off cleavage other than to draw attention to them? I don't think it's ok for pedophiles to look at kids and I don't think it's ok to stare either. But I do find it hard not to look. I'm not saying it's ok or trying to justify it. I'm just trying to understand why any person would do something that will 100% draw attention to themselves and then get mad when people pay attention to it.
@princesslibertarian I don't disagree with you, but may I ask... why do women wear revealing things and get upset when guys comment on it? Like... in a sense I guess I get why women get upset when guys comment on it, but then why do they wear that sort of clothing that so often provokes those comments?
AGAIN... NOT SAYING GUYS ARE JUSTIFIED IN DOING IT... simply asking why women do it if they know it's gonna result in men making those comments. It seems as though a very simple means of avoiding unwanted comments would be to dress more modestly. I'm saying that for the women's sake, not the guys. I'm not saying "oh i struggle with this cause I'm a guy, so please stop tempting me," or "guys will never stop doing this when wearing skimpy clothing so you should be the one to stop wearing provocative clothing." I don't want to justify indecent action on the part of men, but I'm actively curious as to why women choose to wear the sort of clothing that leads men to stare or speak provocatively. Since... I sincerely doubt women are simply trying to train men to stop staring by wearing revealing clothes and then saying "you shouldn't stare."
I don't know whats the big deal with women being secretive that they want validation or want to get hit on by guys. I mean thats the only reason i can think of that anyone would dress attractively
You're an idiot there is a huge difference between someone choosing to wear revealing clothes and a child not being able to choose to be a child, dont compare two things that are completely unrelated
I am glad you aren't fine with either because some people here seem to compare either or in worth so I appreciate you NOT being that type of awful human.
There are many reasons women wear things and it isn't always for guys trust me. I have a friend who lost a lot of weight and looks really good. she doesn't dress provatively or even fancy (shes more casual) but she has a figure and guys still stare so really there is no good excuse. I see shirtless guys go for runs all the time, however I don't gawk because I have respect for people... It's common decency :) I am also bisexual and enjoy women, however I REFUSE to stare and make a scene like an immature child
Well i always wear low cut tops and show cleavage but i never ever get mad and i think most girls dont mind it unless someone is just keep staring at them then tbh it gets annoying... There's a huge difference between looking and starring and looking is fine but starring with some weird expressions make things uncomfortable Every girl knows that people are going to look at them so if you just keep it to looking i think it will be fine
I cover myself up when im out in public. I was in a kebab shop earlier and i was wearing long, baggy clothing, yet a creepy man kept glaring at me (in a psycho way) and he wouldn't take his eyes off my ass. Now, THAT'S what makes me uncomfortable! When i cover myself up and dont want people staring, thats when they stare the most, surprisingly.
Lets face it its not about guys staring is all about if they guy whos looking is the guy the girl wants to look.
if a guy who is hot and the girl has crush on he can stare as much as he wants. if its the geek that she is not interested in then all hell breaks loose.
look women if your gonna go out in public then the public will look thats why its call going out in public. just like if u went out naked in public and showed off people would look.
get over it if you out and showing skin then people are going to look and stare you can't then choose whos allowed and whos not!
You see, you have to understand. It's not that females get mad when they show off their cleavage and guys looked at them. It's that they want certain guys; guys that they like to look at their breasts. They are trying to attract a certain someone. So when other guys, specifically guys that they dislike or have no interests in, looked at them instead, they may find it annoying.
I voted B. I do sometimes show off some cleavage. I don't really get angry or anything if a guy glances at my boobs. I do get mad if some random guy is just oogling my cleavage or is just staring at it and not paying any attention to anything going on around him. Or if he hounds me because I'm showing a little.
I don't mind you looking. But if we are having a conversation have the ability to look me in the eyes lol! Also some think say it's for attention but it's the wrong attention. Tbh I disagree with that. If a woman thinks it's the wrong attention for her, fine. Doesn't mean it's wrong for every woman. I'm ok with a man admiring my assets when he physically see's me. He'll still get to know my personality and intelligence once we start talking. No big deal.
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I say I have the right to my own body and can wear what I want, and I think guys have the right to their bodies, which include their eyes, and they can look where they want.
I personally only let it be seen if I have to but its comfortable it's cool it's nice to wear but the looks you get that's why I basically don't outside of sports swimming or a private area lpl
They are just wanting attention and when they get it they feel like they are in power so they start saying stuff like that. Secretly they want that attention lol. Why else would someone dress revealing if they dont wanna get hit on
Women are like that. If they like a guy, its ok. If they don't, he's a pervert and a maniac.
You get wiser with age and you can notice these types of women or guys from a mile away. Just run, don't look back. They will yell at the next guy looking at their cleavage while feeling hot and desirable. Don't be desperate for these women. They are never worth the journey.
We know ure looking at it. Im ok. We are ok. I enjoy if the guy look at my cleavage once a while. Bcoz thats natural. U guys love it. We girls feel flattered and sexy in fact.
I think what bothers us is the WAY they look at it, and uncontrollable or too many times, surely it will be very weird and make us question.
But never once did i experience that unclassy behaviour from a guy when they are looking at my cleavage, butt, breasts shape from the side. All guys i know did know how to behave.
Usually they will just look at it, and seconds after that, those guys will directly tell me: - u know what, u do have a sexy body - i have to say that u have nice butt - or being awkwardly cute by saying "umm.. i can see ur bra/breast and i can't really concentrate now"
Because it’s their boobs that they want to show off but not be specialized for having boobs. Boobs are not just for the eyes of men and if that’s the excuse for a man to sexualize a woman for he God given boobs than he’s sick.
No one bother a guy when he’s walking around with he shirt off flaunting his muscles.. but when a lady or plenty approach him he’ll boast off of it or call them thirsty.
It doesn't make any sense. Women want to know they can attract a man, but he better not make any disrespectful comments. If you don't want to be harassed or disrespected don't dress that way.
I also hate the saying "It's not what I wear, it's what's in my heart." That's stupid what you wear is an outer display of who you are, sorry. Also women are lying when they say "I dress this way for me" no one dresses just for themselves.
Lets face it its not about guys staring is all about if they guy whos looking is the guy the girl wants to look.
if a guy who is hot and the girl has crush on he can stare as much as he wants. if its the geek that she is not interested in then all hell breaks loose.
look women if your gonna go out in public then the public will look thats why its call going out in public. just like if u went out naked in public and showed off people would look.
get over it if you out and showing skin then people are going to look and stare you can't then choose whos allowed and whos not!
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