Why do some women wear clothes that show off cleavage, but get upset if they see a man looking?

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I think it's kind of unfair honestly. I always try to treat everyone with respect, regardless of race, gender, religion or anything at all. But when I see a female showing cleavage, I can't help it... it's like my brain literally forces me to look and when I do I get accused of being a perv or called other things. Why do females seem to wear clothes that show off their breasts if they are going to get mad if people look? It seems like a trap in a way... Am I crazy? Do other guys have this problem? Is it just my age and I'll eventually stop caring? Females that show cleavage, why do you get mad if you see a guy looking?

Shafaq_Mahnoor96 · Accepted Answer

Well I think it's Just so the woman can sort of "feel good" about herself if you get what I mean. Sometimes I get cleavage, but it doesn't happen that much since I don't have any low-cut tops and dresses that much. I like having some cleavage because it kind of makes me feel "More of a girl" if you get what I mean. I feel more feminine and womanly. It's for my own happiness.

I think that's the reason for many girls / women. They want to feel good about themselves and feel more feminine. The other obvious reason is "Attention", I believe they do it to get special male attention. Though they realise the staring has become a little too much for their liking and it starts feeling awkward to them, which is most likely probably the reason why they get upset and mad. That's the way I see it, they like to show off the cleavage, but they get upset and mad for the guy staring for too long because it makes them feel awkward.

The other reason as I said earlier to probably feel good, makes them confident and makes them feel more feminine and womanly. And also they dont want to be looked at and Just want to "Feel good" and "Confident". It doesn't always signal an open invitation for guys to stare and look at them for too long though. But I actually wouldn't mind if guys looked at mine.

My cleavages have always been "Small". It's not because my breasts are small, it's because the tops aren't that low-cut. But there's definetly been some amount of cleavage visible there. No guy has even glanced at mine lol, probably because my breasts aren't showing that much to be stared at. But I still wouldn't mind if guys Just took a quick glance at mine.

It's cause I understand that you Men / Boys can't help it. You're eyes automatically shift there, and you don't really mean to come across as a "Pervert" or a "Creep". It's natural for you men to look, you're Just made that way. And I'll admit I've looked at other girls cleavages too if I noticed any, and I'm a girl too. I Just saw, but didn't constantly stare. And for all you men out there it's natural to look, don't worry, you're hard wired to look at female breasts and cleavage. Just try to do it less often and you'll be fine...😊

ChronicThinker · Accepted Answer

Here's the thing.

Most girls don't care if you look. They're there, we know it, if you notice, that's fine.

What's not okay is acting like a social retard and gawking at them with your jaw unhinged like a horny 12-year-old who just discovered playboy.

Look, appreciate, look away. Don't stare like an inept predator.

Kimberly-Bryant · Accepted Answer

Girls do it bc they want attention. They don’t understand that they’re getting the wrong attention though. There’s nothing wrong with you, I know guys are visual. I think it’s respectful to wear modest (not Grandma-like🤔) clothes, not only for guys, but also themselves.

naijagurl · Accepted Answer

I don’t think most sane women would care if it’s just a glance or a quick look. Even women do that. What women don’t like is when guys stare. Also showing cleavage isn’t always for the sake of attention.

EpicDweeb · Accepted Answer

My parents were very conservative and basically said never look at a woman in a bikini so... due to how I was raised I kind of get embarrassed if I so much as look below a woman's neckline. So yeah, I don't tend to notice cleavage or dresses and such. It's just not what I look at. That being said... I agree that it's ridiculous that women are like "I'm going to wear a very revealing outfit, let's hope no one looks." If you don't want anyone looking them cover up and you don't have to think twice about it. Then again maybe they're just trying to make other women jealous of their bodies? just... you know... never men.

Like... I don't think it's a good thing for guys to go gawking but it's not like women are trying to train men to not gawk by wearing skimpy clothing and then telling guys they shouldn't look.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

1. You insist on being told the logic behind women's behavior? Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha!

2. You recognize that life is unfair? Get accustomed to it. . . and welcome to adulthood!

3. Perhaps this will give you some insight. There are women who insist on wearing matching panties and bra, and then they will spend time and effort to make sure that no one else ever sees their matching panties and bra.

Why do they do it? The best answer I have heard is that they dress for themselves, to feel good about their appearance so that they feel confidence in themselves as a woman. Having said that. . . it still makes very little sense.

CurvyPryde32 · Answer

So here's a different answer for you. I and I believe most women are more attracted to men who don't get blown away by or gawk at our breasts. Look around. Most of the men actually getting with us are the types to not show any interest in our cleavage or sexiness. At least not in a noticeable way. It is more mature to maintain eye contact and focus on the individual. This will get you noticed. Secondly, we don't do it for you. We do it because we like the way we look.
Now if I have my tits popping out I see no reason to get mad that guys look or stare. I did put them out there. If you walked around with your dick out I'd be looking too.

PositiveNote · Answer

This is one of the best questions ever! I'll say this, when polite women look at men, they do so in a way that is not so obvious. My best lady told me I was being looked at after we were dating, but I never knew until she clued me in.

When polite men look at women, their eyes become dazed, their grip on reality becomes to slip a bit... They auto-lock in on cleavage like an F-18 fighter laser lock, their appendage begins to give their jockey shorts a challenge to see how far they stretch, and before the men know it, they've revealed every last sex neuron they had in their brain. Worse, it's all followed by a huge sea of regret when the cleavage floats out of sight, and they can't stop thinking about it... until they scan the horizon and lock on another terrific set.

truthbeknown · Answer

This is one great example of "female privilege!" Women show off their bodies to empower themselves. They want to feel confident and sexy. It isn't always to attract men, but also to over compete with other women. Women hate men looking at them, except the one guy they have a crush on. Women hate attention unless they are able to over power other women by looking sexier.

Moonchild714 · Answer

I show cleavage from time to time. I look good. I don't mind when guys look and notice it's when they stare or we are talking and they are just staring at chest, I catch them by say something off the wall because, I'm short so I ha e to throw something out there to prove tgeyvare being an idiot... I'll say something like so you killed the President right he'll respond yes, I then give him a finger flick and say really like you never see this. They always apologize because they know they shouldn't be gawking a glance is fine...

Arielbubble · Answer

I dunno. Its probably because its generally considered rude to stare. It's when it comes to being considered lewd or leering. I'm s girl n i stare at guys all the time but i remind not to in certain situations etc coz of it being inappropriate lol

Shuri · Answer

As someone who recently discovered she is a 36DDD now...

It's because boob sweat is a thing and it's also uncomfortable to wear clothes that cover our chests all day long especially when it's really out. The shirts are restrictive and uncomfortable.

Men are so far up their own ass though that they think we have them out to bait you.

No, bitch, we have cleavage because it's physically more comfortable. Get over yourselves.

PS: Most women don't care if you look. It's when you stare like a creepy stalker dude that makes us uncomfortable.

princesslibertarian · Answer

If a pedophile sees a child and decides to look and claims that because they're a pedophile who is attracted to kids and he can't help it is that okay? no.

Not all women wear revealing things to draw attention so if you're staring and your excuse is that you do it because you are a guy, well then you've just stereotyped yourself.

Staring is rude regardless of what someone wears period, male or female.

elizamichale1 · Answer

Well i always wear low cut tops and show cleavage but i never ever get mad and i think most girls dont mind it unless someone is just keep staring at them then tbh it gets annoying...
There's a huge difference between looking and starring and looking is fine but starring with some weird expressions make things uncomfortable
Every girl knows that people are going to look at them so if you just keep it to looking i think it will be fine

KezHarris · Answer

I cover myself up when im out in public. I was in a kebab shop earlier and i was wearing long, baggy clothing, yet a creepy man kept glaring at me (in a psycho way) and he wouldn't take his eyes off my ass. Now, THAT'S what makes me uncomfortable! When i cover myself up and dont want people staring, thats when they stare the most, surprisingly.

manmeat · Answer

Lets face it its not about guys staring is all about if they guy whos looking is the guy the girl wants to look.

if a guy who is hot and the girl has crush on he can stare as much as he wants. if its the geek that she is not interested in then all hell breaks loose.

look women if your gonna go out in public then the public will look thats why its call going out in public. just like if u went out naked in public and showed off people would look.

get over it if you out and showing skin then people are going to look and stare you can't then choose whos allowed and whos not!

yucychan · Answer

You see, you have to understand. It's not that females get mad when they show off their cleavage and guys looked at them.
It's that they want certain guys; guys that they like to look at their breasts. They are trying to attract a certain someone. So when other guys, specifically guys that they dislike or have no interests in, looked at them instead, they may find it annoying.

rylielovessoftball · Answer

I voted B. I do sometimes show off some cleavage. I don't really get angry or anything if a guy glances at my boobs. I do get mad if some random guy is just oogling my cleavage or is just staring at it and not paying any attention to anything going on around him. Or if he hounds me because I'm showing a little.

PinkMichae · Answer

I don't mind you looking. But if we are having a conversation have the ability to look me in the eyes lol! Also some think say it's for attention but it's the wrong attention. Tbh I disagree with that. If a woman thinks it's the wrong attention for her, fine. Doesn't mean it's wrong for every woman. I'm ok with a man admiring my assets when he physically see's me. He'll still get to know my personality and intelligence once we start talking. No big deal.

Anonymous · Answer

I say I have the right to my own body and can wear what I want, and I think guys have the right to their bodies, which include their eyes, and they can look where they want.

Dav1ss · Answer

I personally only let it be seen if I have to but its comfortable it's cool it's nice to wear but the looks you get that's why I basically don't outside of sports swimming or a private area lpl

GreatSworl · Answer

They are just wanting attention and when they get it they feel like they are in power so they start saying stuff like that. Secretly they want that attention lol. Why else would someone dress revealing if they dont wanna get hit on

berrybush · Answer

Women are like that. If they like a guy, its ok. If they don't, he's a pervert and a maniac.

You get wiser with age and you can notice these types of women or guys from a mile away.
Just run, don't look back. They will yell at the next guy looking at their cleavage while feeling
hot and desirable. Don't be desperate for these women. They are never worth the journey.

Aidelwaish · Answer

We know ure looking at it.
Im ok.
We are ok.
I enjoy if the guy look at my cleavage once a while. Bcoz thats natural. U guys love it. We girls feel flattered and sexy in fact.

I think what bothers us is the WAY they look at it, and uncontrollable or too many times, surely it will be very weird and make us question.

But never once did i experience that unclassy behaviour from a guy when they are looking at my cleavage, butt, breasts shape from the side. All guys i know did know how to behave.

FlutteringFeelings · Answer

Because it’s their boobs that they want to show off but not be specialized for having boobs. Boobs are not just for the eyes of men and if that’s the excuse for a man to sexualize a woman for he God given boobs than he’s sick.

No one bother a guy when he’s walking around with he shirt off flaunting his muscles.. but when a lady or plenty approach him he’ll boast off of it or call them thirsty.

Renee93 · Answer

It doesn't make any sense. Women want to know they can attract a man, but he better not make any disrespectful comments. If you don't want to be harassed or disrespected don't dress that way.

I also hate the saying "It's not what I wear, it's what's in my heart." That's stupid what you wear is an outer display of who you are, sorry. Also women are lying when they say "I dress this way for me" no one dresses just for themselves.

pervertedjester · Answer

The trouble is sometimes we linger too long and start to show off our other hungry face. Want proof? Go think about boobs in front of a mirror. Like really think about all the great boobs you've ever seen til you feel that grin on your face, then look in the mirror. That's what Women see.

MackToday · Answer

They get upset because the man looking isn't the one they want looking. They're just don't have enough going on upstairs to put two and two together and realize that men are going to look if they walk around like that. Somehow they live in a world in which all men will ignore them except for their type. You're just dealing with someone too damned dumb and immature to look down the road any further than the tip of their nose.

kitso21S · Answer

You're right about this question i'm a girl and also considdr my eyes looking so it's not weird if we see guys looking... me as a girl i think that woman who show they want attention and even if they get upset but they feel happy inside... so they keep going this way to have more and more attention by screaming at you and by catching u looking... they actually wait for u to look...

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I've been wondering that for decades!!
They're answer is going to be something like, "Just because this is what I feel comfortable wearing doesn't mean you HAVE to look at my tits!!"
Okay then, just because I feel comfortable wearing pants with a hole in the crotch so my balls can swing freely doesn't mean you HAVE to look at them and play with them!!
And, why is it okay for a girl to play with a guys balls, but it's a HUGE no-no for a guy to even accidentally BUMP a girl's tits?

BrookieCookie0422 · Answer

If I had cleavage I would show it. Girls show cleavage for attention but don’t like the attention? They find it disrespectful.

Low key it may be a way for them to feel power over others around them.

But I could be wrong.

Anonymous · Answer

Because believe it or not - The world doesn't revolve around you and how a woman dresses has nothing to do with men. For all you know she could be a lesbian.
When I dress sexy I do it for my own confidence sake unless i'm going on a date with one particular man that I want to look at me and think i'm sexy. Women also do it a lot to compete with other women. However I don't dress sexy a lot because men are creepy and they do stare, usually it's old men who stare the most.

Mailo · Answer

To be honest, I'm a booby person, I just like them so much and I prefer a woman with decent ones over a woman with nice ass. For some reasons, women with low self esteem tend to show their fruits for the sake of attention when their facial features fails at attracting men. Whoever, there's still a mental side to this behaviour as some of them are literally whores who consider being exposed sexually is fun (teasing men)

mistixs · Answer

Looking is fine; staring is not. Regardless, some women have big enough breasts that it's borderline impossible for them to not show cleavage

Dinklex3 · Answer

Looking/glancing is fine.  Staring? No. They're breasts. People act like they've never seen them before.  No one likes to be stared at.

Anonymous · Answer

They are advertising to specific guys, but not everyone.
When someone they don't like, looks, they get offended.
I love it, when they ask, "What are you looking at?" Not going to post my 10 responses
Clothing isn't a smart-bomb, targeted to some specific one. If you dress slutty, you are going to get a lot of guys looking.

Anonymous · Answer

I check male asses all the time. As far as my nerd appearance goes, guys don't even notice it.

On the behalf of women I'd like to clarify that not ALL OF US do it intentionally, the most it can get us is an indirectly degradeful image of ourselves. Who wants that?

One night stands are damn good but we all wanna settle down at one point.

normalice · Answer

It's a test. Girls don't want to be sexualized, so they put their sexuality on full display to weed out the guys who can't help themselves. And if they happen to attract someone they find attractive in the process, that's win-win.

katjana21 · Answer

I dont mind at all ift he doesn't stare for too long and thinks its the only part of my body

Kas19 · Answer

I don't see anything wrong with looking, it happens. My only issue is staring

adirleeng · Answer

Same thing for me. I don't stare but I take like quick looks and then I get mad when I do cuz I know I'm not supposed to. It sucks when they see me look cuz they always make a grossed out face and I feel bad.

Mamamialetmego · Answer

Here is the truth: Girls do want to men look at them that's why they die for attention and wear sexy clothes most of the time BUT they only want attention from men they find attractive. They hate when unattractive men look at them, they just don't like it.

morrowlow · Answer

this is the reason why women do that. they don't like you and i but they still like the attention we give them which is why i don't look at strange women on street or whatever. if you want me to look then don't act like a jerk. i've watched a lot of porn and these mosquito bites don't do anything for me anymore. i'm sure you'll feel the same in a few years. anyway if a woman hasn't made her mind up whether she want's men looking or not, we shouldn't cater to their ego

Guanfei · Answer

Most women will tell good that it's to "feel good about themselves, and sexy, not for the others". Which is only the end of the truth.
They do it to look good so other people look at them, men find them sexy, other women are envious, which makes them feel good about themselves.
The purpose of looking sexy is that other people find them sexy. And therefore that other people watch them. But they won't admit it openly, so they pretend they don't like it.

Anonymous · Answer

One of the funniest moments I can remember is a chick was flirting with me and I was just casually talking, making eye contact. After about 15 minutes of her constantly trying to get me to look, I finally said "stop trying to get me to look, they're nothing special". I think I ruined the whole idea of low-cut shirts for her

SexyAshh · Answer

I dont get mad. If im showing cleavage it IS intentional.

MissDawn7961 · Answer

because they are hoes and sluts ! they want you to have sex with them so they can get all your bank information and to steal you blind ! Thanks

Anonymous · Answer

yeah, it's kinda unfair. But some women don't mind or it's part of fashion. either way, if they don't like people staring don't wear it if it reveals cleavage. But some women can't avoid it cause their cleavage is big.

Just_someone23 · Answer

I like the power I have over boys. Like yesterday when this one fella walked into a door while staring.

the_imperfectionist · Answer

Just like how people don't always wear bullet proof vests, but get upset when they get shot.

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t show my breasts but what I hate is being looked up and down. Please, be subtle! Oh and my ass being groped, that is not attention that I want from strange boys or men.

Anonymous · Answer

Even chicks look at each other’s cleavage. I’ve caught so man. Nobody thinks it’s weird unless you stare for ages.

hahahmm · Answer

As you get older you learn not to give af & not even look 90% of the time cause you’ve see. It all before anyhow. Screw the attention whores

dragonmamma · Answer

Ok.. In all fairness.. Unless you wear tshirts, a LOT of women's clothing is designed to show off cleavage!

Caunsos · Answer

I find most women that act this way are not yet comfortable with there body or sexuality. If this not the case such a negative reaction is typical due a person seeing the way they dress as justification to objectify them.

Inneedofusername · Answer

I'm a female and I don't have a cleavage

Daniela1982 · Answer

Because women want to be looked at but unconspiculously. s

Anonymous · Answer

Quick looking & glancing is fair game. But starting dead on is just not what you should do. It's not your fault for looking a bit though.

CandacePerry · Answer

I don't even have tiny boobs. Way to show is my butt.

ImagineSketchy · Answer

I think it has to do with staring. Looking is fine, but having your attention solely on them is not what any want, even during sex.

janna_jcb · Answer

I have cleavage sometimes and I don’t mind if people look. Staring is a different story because that can make me feel uncomfortable or even unsafe. But this also goes when I don’t have cleavage.

Giggletr0n · Answer

It's just fashion, sure some flaunt it and then get offended but that's life. If you have to look then use some social grace and take sideways glances.

ChefCurry · Answer

I remember this girl in school threw her pen in her bra and said, "you'll have to get it now". I walked away cause she was ugly and told her she could have it.

I also used to play basketball ball with this girls cleavage and a penny.

MarshmallowFellow · Answer

Honestly, I've always had this question too. I know women should be able to wear what they like and men should control themselves but it is a biological response. Id be interested in what the women have to say about this.

Dongtai · Answer

Use your peripherals man. Don’t stare. It makes women uncomfortable.

Prof_Don · Answer

I have no shame looking at cleavage! The key is to not STARE! Two finger-snaps worth of time is a look. More than that is staring. 😛

Why do some women wear clothes that show off cleavage, but get upset if they see a man looking?

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