Is it disrespectful when friends date or chase each other’s exes?

[Finchie40]

Some of my friends’ will chase after one of my friends’ exes , Basically Keeping the same ex in the friend group , Me personally finds it messed up and disrespectful to do to your friends’ and it’s something I will not do to a good friend. Why I don’t bring whoever I am dating around them whatsoever , It’s happened so many times amongst them to the point I lost respect for those friends and do not invest much of my time into them anymore because of it , like go get your own partner instead of going for your friends’ exes. It’s pathetic to me that the same girl is still in the friend group after dating 4 or 5 guys’ from the same friend group and acting like everything is fine and dandy Basically you are having sex with a girl that has had sex with your other friends’ as well? Have you ever witnessed this amongst your friend group?

[Lliam]

In high school and my 20s, I ran with the same circle of friends. We hung out together and partied all the time.
I met a couple of my girlfriends because they knew people I knew.
If I got a new girlfriend and moved on from the previous one, I expected her to move on and find a new boyfriend. It didn't matter to me if he was someone I knew.

When I was 16, I had a year long relationship with my first girlfriend, Donna. who was friends with some of my close friends. She was really good people.
She had been in a short-term relationship with a guy before we met. The guy was wasn't a close friend but I new him.
When I got a new girlfriend, Donna was still part of our group of friends. She eventually wound up marrying one of my closest friends years later. They had two daughters and I remained close friends with both of them. In fact, I am Facebook friends with her. She's a happy grandma now.

Donna and my second girlfriend, Alice, who I met at work, became friends. There was no animosity.

When I moved on from Alice, she still hung out with our circle of friends. I know for sure that she wound up having sex with one of my very best friends. I was okay with that. She was looking for a new boyfriend. Later on, she wound up joining the military.

So I don't see why I should be upset if an ex got together with one of my friends. She's an ex. It would be different if a friend poached her and she left me for him. I that case, I would be super pissed.

I think calling it sloppy seconds is bizarre. It's not like we were passing girlfriends around.

None of my girlfriends were virgins. A couple of them left boyfriends for me.

So I have zero problem with a friend dating one of my exes. My exes were hot and they were good people. I wanted them to be happy. And it made perfect sense for one of my friends to hit on them once they were no longer with me.

And why should an ex have to go find a new circle of friends just because we are no longer together?

[ohsheeT]

For me this is just a golden respectful rule

Yes it's very disrespectful there's 5 billion single people out there why in the world would you want to chase after a friend's ex that's ridiculous and just rude

[choco-latte]

A little bit, but I don’t really care about my exes so I wouldn’t care that much. Mainly it would just bother me that they want to hang out with someone who hurt me at some point.

If someone goes after their friend’s ex when the friend still has feelings for that person then it’s very disrespectful though. I think they should ask their friend how they feel about it first to at least get their perspective.

[Finchie40]

I agree that would be the respectful thing to do , but most people aren’t respectful these days

[Kassandra1994]

Disgusting eww so many woman and men around why date thebfriends ex. Eww thats gross.

[Finchie40]

Tell me about it , it’s sadly
One of the most pathetic things I have witnessed with friends, well they aren’t really My friends anymore because of this , I lost respect for them because of it , My one friend from that group tried getting with a girl I was dating behind my back and told her all this bullshit about me , thankfully she immediately told me what he said , and I was hurt and pissed because I thought he was a good friend , so the next time I saw him , I immediately knocked him the fuck out for trying to backstab me that way when he came to his senses he apologized to me and said he was wrong for what he did ,
I accepted his apology but I no longer trust him or respect him for what he did , That is something I have never did to a good friend And would never done unless I had his content to do so , but I don’t chase after
My friends’ exes I go and find my own girls’ instead

[DishLady]

Yes VERY disrespectful!

[robocop666]

its a cheating fetish. these men are idiots called pick up artists but one of them had it.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/8rz-pwWy1f0

[Finchie40]

They definitely have that fetish then because I was shocked to see them do this to each other , it’s disrespectful and pathetic in my opinion , it shows their true character that they can’t go get their own partner , like they are desperate losers. It’s why they aren’t really my friends’ anymore , and you are right my one friend tried going behind my back and tried getting with a girl I was dating and she immediately told me the truth about what he was trying to do and she told me the shit he was talking about me behind my back , so the next time I saw the backstabbing POS , I knocked him the fuck out for going after my girl behind my back and talking shit. After I knocked him out, he came and apologized to me and said he deserved to get hit for his actions Him and I are cool now but I still don’t trust him 100 percent and no longer bring my girlfriends around him and them , they are all disrespectful losers that can’t get their own girls’

[robocop666]

I am glad you knocked him out. he is a moron.

[Finchie40]

Yea now he is with a girl that’s been through 5 of his other friends’ I just shake
My head

[sage2021]

I believe that is very disrespectful unless they are all totally okay with it.

[_Jenny_]

@Finchie40 yes, I think it is disrespectful

[Twodogs0525]

I'm know of a girl on here that won't only fuck her friends exs but will fuck their dad's, uncles, neighbors, dogs, cats...

[Pterodon]

Yes it is. It’s extremely disrespectful. I would never. . .

[Kelly6]

@Finchie40 Not at all.

One person’s ex is another person’s treasure 😊

[DryGermanGuy]

Lulz. 😂😂😂

[Finchie40]

If your friends’ sloppy seconds is a treasure , I find that hard to believe 😂

[dudeinohio]

I dont think so. An ex is an ex. Fair game for anyone.

[Micheal6918]

Yes it is because sometimes it causes cold war

[Iron_Man]

Yes, it is. I don’t recommend it

[WhitneySnow]

Luckily no

[Cidknee]

Usually.

[Cidknee]

If you like the person talk with the friend and it'll be cleared.

[Alexson_stormzy]

Probably