Where do you see yourself in 20 years?

[stevo]

What should I say when someone says: Where do you see yourself as being or doing twenty years into the future? I obviously hope I'm still alive and healthy.

[jusabarasida]

I see some pessimistic answers here. hhahah well I don't know about you guys and girls.. but I see myself living somewhere where its cold but not too cool.. sunny but not too hot.. and the beach is near by.. I see myself in a house in London with my mate..and I buy a house for my parents in California so I can visit them and my sister when I want.. I see myself financially independent and if I still have the energy, to pursue my first real dream.. playing professional tennis.. and If I have the same passion for that sport as I do now, you bet you'll see me out there in the circuits and the ATP tour.

I see myself with at least one kid.. a boy.. and I take him to school all the time and pick him up from school.. teach him important life lessons whenever teachable moments come up.. and I will try my best not to hesitate and think "well he'll learn eventually he's too young for that now".. No.. I will think "I will tell him before anyone else does and I'll never underestimate him".. because I know what it feels like to be underestimated..

I see myself with a beautiful wife who is loyal to me not because of my independence, not because of what I have but solely because of who I am.. She will be the one who will support me no matter what I aim for next.. granted.. not the criminal lifestyle hopefully. =) I see my grandparents and parents and aunt and uncle will be proud of me for marrying such a beautiful girl even though she might not be of my heritage.. I will convince them that she is all worth it..

I see myself enjoying my life but also taking care of business..I see that I've lost most of my college and high school friends but it's ok.. I have lost them for a reason.. Instead of pondering whether that reason was my fault, I will move on and put my family first.. and I will earn enough keep to support my children, their children and their children for the rest of their lives even without them working..

Lastly, I see myself raising my niece just as if she were my own child.. Her dad died before she was born.. sad that she couldn't see him.. but he was my uncle.. we were best friends... and if it was my kid, he would have taken care of her.. so now, it is my duty to take care of his daughter.. and so I will.. In 20 years, she will be a grown, mature woman who will probably be really independent and probably will forget all the sacrifices I made for her.. but that will still be o.k.. because I want her to enjoy her life.. I've done my part so she may do hers..

So, folks... in 20 years.. maybe I'll meet some of you in person and not even know it.. till then, best of luck.. accomplish anything you set your mind to.. there are many people in the world who are ready to tell you you're not good enough.. on occasion, some maybe right.. but don't do their work for them.. You are all you got in this world. Take yourself seriously.

[jbone79]

So far nearly every response I have read involves death or something terrible. So I have to ask where in the hell does all this negativity come from? If your life has no future to live for, then why not become the master of your own destiny? Why not take control of your life and destroy the things around you that rob you of the life you want to live?

Well, in 20 years my credit score won't be a train wreck. (It took a great depression, a switch to a part time job, and a full time commitment as a college student to ruin my credit , so I don't feel so bad about it). I'll be teaching Anthropology, Archaeology, and Political Science classes. I see myself having published a few books on some of my research interests. I also see myself living somewhere in the mountains of the Pacific Northwest on a few acres of land outside of a small town. ( I grew up in a city and I want a little space and quiet). I don't want to teach at one of the ivy league schools, I'd rather teach the sons and daughters of working class families. I hate the arrogance and sense entitlement that the sons and daughters of aristocrarcy feel the world owes them. I have no patience for the spoiled rich brats at Harvard.

I can't say I see myself married or with children. I'm hopeful and I would love to be happy with someone, but if not then that's just how life goes. Teaching allows you to the chance to do the same things you would do as a parent. You just get the luxury of not having to do all the stuff like clean up poop and waking up at 3 am to feed a hungry baby.

I also hope to be almost finished building my own home from the ground up. I don't want to finance some pre-fab overnight sh*tbox. I want something that can survive disaster and will last for 150 years. So the best way to do it is take your time.

I also have 5 things I want to do within my lifetime that are not on my bucket list. ( I'm not ready for that list yet).

1. Build my own home

2. Build a motorcycle by hand

3. Build all my own furniture for the home.

4. Visit all 7 continents. ( 4 down 3 to go!)

5. Start a non-profit organization education program. ( I have a good idea for this).

I feel sorry for those of you who have no hope for your future. It just prove the 2 things I have learned to be true about life.

1. You have to be the change you wish to see in the world.

2. Get busy living, or get busy dying. - j

[jusabarasida]

Good one... finally a positive person.. that's what I'm talking about man.. I didn't know teachers felt that way also about ivy league.. hahah ya some people see too big of a picture.. like we are gona die anyways so why bother.. but that's no way to live. congratulations on the continents.. I've been on 2 -__-.. =)

[jbone79]

Thank you jusabarsida. Not all teachers think like I do. If they did, then colleges would never offer Business or Management degrees. I just have a very personal hatred for wealthy people and I will never do anything to benefit them or their spoiled children. I'd rather teach the children of the poor, they need it and deserve it most.

[stevo]

Um..... what happened to jbone79?

[Joy_B]

I like the way you think it’s helpful

[Anonymous]

most days I feel awful for feeling this way, but I wish I was never born. my family on both sides are a bunch of a-holes and they will never change. I have never had any adult figures (grandparents included, they are awful as well) to look up to and I feel so lost for that reason. never had any proper adult advice given to me. I literally had not a single relative who I could get close with. my parents could not have cared less who I am as a person and never bothered to show any interest in my life and what I want to do with it. I have had to go through a ton of painful experiences and it seems they keep coming. I am scared to wake up every morning because of the possibility of another crisis happening to me or my family that will directly affect me. why couldn't I have had a good family?! I have always tried to be a good person and still I get sh*t on. why?!? I have met some of the best friends that I could have ever hoped for and I get a bit emotional just thinking about them, because in a way, they really saved me from going to a bad place in spite of what was/is going on my life with everyone around me spinning out of control. they helped me gain some control back.

in 20 years I would hope I never have to deal with sh* t ever again and that my family will stop bringing me down and that I will be faaaaaaaaaaar away from all of them. I just want to live my life already...i would hope to have children that I can give my love to since I have no relatives I can be that way with. I would want to be the best person for my children. I hope that I am able to be with the first man I really fell in love with. that would make everything I went through somewhat forgettable. hopefully we can travel the world together, too. that would make me so happy! that is all I would need.

[bitesizedonut]

Life has never turned out the way I predicted - so I try not to think that far ahead. It is good to have a goal to aim for, but it is important to look at that goal realistically. I will be 41 in twenty years. Twenty years ago I was one... I'm pretty sure I had the right outlook then - I doubt I knew what the future was - I doubt I could comprehend that five minutes wasn't a life time; I merely lived in the present. Now that I'm 21 five minutes feels too quick; it passes by too fast. I find myself trying to cling to the lost time, when really I should be living as I did when I was one - in the present, as if every moment is a lifetime.

Twenty years ago, I lived 2011 miles away from where I live now, my parents were married, and FAO Schwarz still existed in San Francisco. If I try to predict where I will be twenty years from now, that place may not exist.

That is why I don't care so much where I am or what I am doing - I care more about who I am and the people I am with. So long as I strive to be a better person and am surrounded by the people who love me, in my book, I'll have been successful.

[sweet17]

Married to the man of my dreams, living in a pimped-out, bangin house on a quiet hilltop.

Money is no longer an obstacle. My husband and I will dote on our two wonderful children, son and daughter.

I'll have my horses and a luxurious barn. The complex will all be sitting on at least 100 acres of fertile earth.

My diploma from Texas A & M University will be affixed proudly to the office wall.

We'll host parties and spend time with friends and family often.

Every christmas a huge douglas fur will adorn the living room.

:)

[jennifer_bloom]

Either married with kids or running a charity or volunteer organization, or sewing sweaters in retirement or married and socializing with grandchildren.

[koloblicin]

In 20 years, I picture myself either killed during WW3, a natural disaster, or other catastrophe.

Baring that. I picture myself as 1 of a couple things, a high school teacher, a structural engineer, possibly a doctor, or any number of things, as I have no idea what I'm gonna do. Or I could be in the military drafted during but having survived WW3.

Honestly I believe 100% that there will be another world war in my lifetime. Either China is gonna go on a rampage, Russia is gonna have another revolution, or economic upheaval will create a a new super power out of african nations. Or the OPEC nations in the middle east will mereg to form a superpower. Worst case scenario its WW3 over ISRAEL...

I have hope it won't become a nuclear war...

[stevo]

Well, if there is a third World War, I hope I'm dead.

[jusabarasida]

Sir.. you look like you havn't seen the world for what it is.. and I don't blame you.. you are too young.. do you why there was a WW2?.. because instead of resolving issues the humane way, people like you but who had authority said "There's going to be a World War 2".. and they gave reason similar to yours for WW3. You see what I mean? Don't hope for the worst because you'll get it.

[koloblicin]

I don't hope for the worst. I simply expect it...world war 2 came about because of WW1 and the treaty of versailles...WW1 came about because of a system of alliances and militarism.

I see ww3 coming simply because whether people are good or bad, we're at a breaking point in too many places to avoid conflict in the future. we're working for peace, but world peace is just a dream...it won't happen unless we encounter aliens who we go to war with, war is just human nature.

[Europa789076]

I can also see revolutions in France also and the U. S and Israel and Iran. Shits gonna hit the fan, with all the sabar rattling that's going on. All it takes its NK doing something on the korean peninsula, Israel Iran and other stuff.

[Cool-Relax]

I found a lot of the answers upsetting...

In 20 years, I'll be 40. I might have a family, might not (don't especially care either way, whatever happens happens). I want to be working in the film industry doing something with sound, and making documentaries on the side. And I want to travel.

[mike5150]

Well I would like to have a wife I love and a couple children living in a medium sized house with an average job.

Realisticly: Probably living by myself in some sh*tty appartment that doesn't have in door heating and feast off dead rats and cry myself to sleep every night.

[Anonymous]

well if I make it in 20 years I hope I am good with a good career. I want to be a P.O hopefully I do I just want to help people that are in bad situations and give them what they couldn't have. and also I hope I have kids or married. but who noes what can happen. I just hope I don't get shot in the streets...lol.

[drummerdude25]

Hopefully married to the girl of my dreams, having a great career that I love, being well off financially, some kids (and by some I mean 2 or 3 at most... lol), living in a nice home, and just living the good life.

[koloblicin]

The american dream huh? 2.6 kids a white picket fence ect....sounds like a plan

[drummerdude25]

Yeah pretty much I guess lol

[justeve]

I see myself in a sweet beautiful small home studio living by myself and don't have the worries of friendship-politics and family politics. Successful in the career of my own choice and not forced upon.

[jusabarasida]

Nice way to word it.. honestly.. any type of politics can feel like a burden =)

[justeve]

Politics is just something that is a burden and all of us will be happier without all the tensions between loved ones. :D

[Anonymous]

i see myself still working with animals as a vet technician as I am now. hopefully relocate. make sure my daughter can come to me with anyproblems still in 20 years. own a house instead of rent an apartment. have all my loans paid off for my vehicles.

[Enishi]

20 years? That's actually only about 5 years short of where I intend to kill myself. Made kind of a deal with myself a long time ago that I didn't want to get old, and I drew the line at between 50-60. Earlier, I guess, depending on how well I age.

[Enishi]

Lol But yeah, I'm betting on a menial labor job, and some crappy apartment.

[drummerdude27]

i see myself playing in the mlb as a pitcher, having a great son and maybe daughter who I would adore, a loving wife and great marrage, nice house, pretty big with a pool.

[jacquesvol]

Dangerous question.

I once asked that question to a girlfriend.

We had been together for months and we met everyday and evening, real good friends

She wasn't dumb, she was nice and very good looking.

but...

Her answer ended our relationship.

[jamesgoldman]

45 so based on my medical records still possibly alive and paralysed

Still dealing in gold and worked towards the crowning glory of a bottle of 50 year old Glenfiddich

[JustDance]

im hoping to be with the girl of my dreams and living life like tomorrow never comes

[Dela1111]

I'm going to be president and some of you will definitely have to be worried. HAHAHAHA

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Alone, like I am now. Probably dealing with cancer again or something unexpected. I don't see a happy future where I have a family consisting of a wife and kids any more. That dream died.

[Anonymous]

I will either be revelling in the $12,000,000~ (possibly larger than that. by then) my parents will leave me, or I'll be lying dead in an early grave.

[Anonymous]

I see myself in London working in the music business.

[shadwspeeder]

Married, kids, and a fulfilled dreams and career.

[MadHatterni]

6feet deep due to my illness

[coolguy93939]

i see myself stuck in this cold,cold world.