Difference between being in love and having a connection with someone?

[Anonymous]

What's the difference between love and feeling that connection and emotional fulfillment with another person.

[Reddr]

It is hard to explain because someone just can't understand until they feel it. It is also very easy to confuse the feelings until you experience the others.
My take is this:
Loving someone is actually very easy. It can happen fast or sneak up over time, it can also be learned. We all are capable of loving many people, romantically or not. I visualize it as a bubble that surrounds me. When I love you, you are now within that bubble that offers my unconditional support, care, help, hope, protection etc.
A connection with someone can be felt instantaneously upon meeting. You don't know why or what it is but something just draws you together and tells you this person needs to be in your life. It's so strong it feels like people around you can can see bright yellow ropes of energy connecting you to the other person. (I once had this very strong connection with a schoolmate and casual acquaintance, a few friends would tell me you could feel the connection in the room when he and I locked eyes. Even when just passing each other in the hall saying hi) These people are usually the reason you learn very important and big lessons in life.
Emotional fulfillment with another is completely different and actually the most important in a long-term serious relationship. It's a very serene feeling when you can just be with someone and have 100% trust and confidence in him, everything he does, and his feelings towards you. You just wake up one day and know no matter what happens, that person will be unconditionally at your side. There's no logical evidence to prove it: you just know. For me this took 3 years, but one day I woke up and just knew. (after spending 3 years unsuccessfully forcing emotional intimacy and insecurely looking for evidence to prove he cared.) That knowing of unconditional love and acceptance gives you the ability to truly be open and share you life with another. When you find a person that makes you feel that way: you marry him.

[existing_not_living]

I have that connection with my boyfriend. It was like, as soon as we met we knew we were kind of meant for each other. We just... clicked.

[ObviouslyOriginalMe]

A connection and love can be one in the same but they can also not be. It's like squares and rectangles. All squares are rectangles, not all rectangles are squares. That said all love is a connection but not all connections are love. It truly depends on the kind of connection. I mean when you're in love is a connection you can just feel. I met te guy I love and I had no clue how I felt about him. I felt strongly yet I hardly knew him and I couldn't tell if why I felt was love, hate, a true friendship... I just knew that the connection was of significance and after a year that sugnificance was made clear. Follow your heart and don't jump on connections until they make themselves clear to you.

[Babaorom1]

You'll know when you feel it :)

You can have a connection with friends, a sibling, anyone.

But for example it won't be a disaster if you lose a guy you had a connection with. Love is built with time, attachement, moments spent together, and a terrible feeling that you won't be able to handle it if you lost them.

[Anonymous]

I think being in love is a lie made up to sell movies. Personally I believe love is an action. We have connections with everyone we meet. They all feel different but sometimes we meet people that we begin to care about quite a lot. We wonder if they're okay. We do nice things cause we just know they love it. We feel hurt when we see them sad. Those are the people we love. Now on to the next level. Occasionally if done in order and wisely we meet someone who develops those same feeling towards us. And either you end up dating or you continue dating depending on whether or not you let the relationship or the feelings come first. Over time you learn more and more about how well you work together as a couple. If you work well you get married And then here comes the hard part. You both keep changing and growing. When you hit that point where you've married someone and they've grown into such a different person and you still feel a desire to keep caring for them and making them smile and sharing with them and they feel the same way about you. That's when your in love. That whole process of growing from friendship to old partners is love. It's not something you fall into. It's something you think wisely about and walk slowly and calmly and happily through. That's being in love. You make love love doesn't just happen. Don't believe the fairy tales real loves much better. So the difference is the way you behave not the way you feel.

[lola-butterfly]

i love how you said it :)

[jamesma87]

I think I just realized what love was from the last relationship I was in. It was something that I hadn't thought about before and I think everyone has their own definition of love and there are many different types of love too... But I think true love, the kind you want in an intimate relationship is a love involving sacrifice, compromise and accepting your partner's flaws or finding a way to work around it. It's easy to be in a relationship when things are going well but love is put to the test when things aren't going well and the relationship faces struggles. I think of love now as a lot more than just the warm fuzzy feeling you get when your with someone, but a lot more as the commitment and sacrifice you do for your partner

[lola-butterfly]

i hate the word sacrifice
it's like why would anyone of us sacrifices something , instead we should just do good things to each other and if i love you then i can give up something for you but i rather always talk about things we want from each other and never let one of us do something he don't want just to please the other

[JamesMcJohnson]

Love is way more passionate, like way more. And just because you love someone, you don't always have a connection with them. Connection comes along with reciprocated love, but when it's unrequited or you hate the person you love (can definitely happen), you don't get the same results. Love Is basically, I'm doing this to make sure you're happy regardless of where I stand, and having a connection is like, "hey we both like each other and enjoy each other's company a lot. We can really progress with this"... if that makes sense

[scottmana]

Love is something of a solution to problems that would ordinarily break up a couple. It simply serves the purpose of helping to keep people together long enough to solve their problems. It is like a very strong and very popular glue.

"Feeling that connection" could also be referred in other ways such as "understanding" or "being on the same level". It is the presence of a similar understanding or outlook to your own and the bond of friendship that can result.

"Emotional fulfillment" is more a personal thing, under all relationships are reasons to have one, this is unique to everyone, it is literally what you WANT from the relationship and why you partake in it. Fail to get this out of the relationship and you will fail to feel fulfillment.

[emmaryc]

I think a connection you definitely are attracted to the person and you trust them somewhat but when you love someone, it is much deeper. You are committed and you fully trust them. You know they will be by your side in your worst moments. You are also not just attracted to their looks, you love their personality too.

[bunnyy]

if you are really in love it's really difficult to ever get tired of spending time with them like you can spend 24hrs constantly together and still get upset when you have to be apart lol and if it's just a connection you will probably find yourself needing more alone time.

[ambertaylor]

Having a connection with someone is there being a spark, such as things that make two people attracted to one another mentally, mutual interests, being physically attractive to one another, a bond over something - anything. Love is all of that in addition you have an emotional, deeper and more meaningful connection. You can have a connection with your friends and co-workers, love is something more unqiue and powerful.

[JackKerouac77]

A connection always has the potential to become love, but there are many types of love. Platonic, romantic, etc

[selinamariam]

we can understand love' only when we feel it... you can ask anything from love... coz nothing is impossible for love...

[loveskittens]

Love is not just a feeling but also a decision you make. If you've decided that the connection you feel feel towards him is the only one you want then it's love.

[linkywinky]

You feel the connection in your soul, you feel the love in your heart.

[bthomas89]

When you're in love you think about the person all the time and want to go above and beyond for them

[Anonymous]

Love is a choice. Feeling or having connection is involuntary.

[socialbeast]

The difference is one presides another. Connection first then love second. If you are just feeling a connection then you are on step 2/12

[Onegirlonelife]

Love doesn't fade. Connection and emotional fulfillment will go away after time or when you meet someone else. Just a guess.

[GamerX13]

Only thing I can say is that you have a strong bond with the other person, bonds are strong with the ones that you love and care for

[dudeman]

One word really. Commitment.

[ChyadChadington]

all connections can be love.

[rocelot]

Trust and commitment. You got one not the other.

[micheal727jovanie]

Its the same thing

[Asker]

But why is it that you can love many but can't find a connection with many then?

[micheal727jovanie]

I have a lot of friends (connections) that I got much love for. I only have one girl that I love and she loves me back both of us are (in love). It takes two people to be in love thus creating the conection.

[Ihav2fart]

No idea anymore...