Ladies, is it okay to call your male friend "babe" while your in a relationship and call your boyfriend babe as well?

[Profess_g]

I know it's terms of endearment but Is it okay to do this?

[FlyingTurtle]

It really depends on how you communicate with people in general. I know several women who call anyone and everyone by terms of endearment, just because that's how they communicate. Some people save terms of endearment only for people they have affection for.

[Profess_g]

Even in a relationship? And calling their male friend and bf the same nickname?

[FlyingTurtle]

Heck, I call my girl friends babe just like I call my boyfriend babe. Personally I wouldn't call a male friend "babe" unless I'm in a relationship with them, but some people would and it would be no big deal.

[Yeatts]

No just no. Give your bf another nickname or stop calling your male friend babe. Talk to your gf if it bothers you and it should.

[Profess_g]

I didn't feel comfortable... She was honest with me that he's just a friend and will stop but I couldn't take it and end the relationship.

[Yeatts]

That seems like you jumped the gun a bit if she said she would stop but you dumped her anyways it could be something she is used to for whatever reason and doesn't think much of it. If you told her it bothered you and she didn't stop then yeah.

[Profess_g]

I was hurt because it happened to me before 😔

[Profess_g]

And I was cheated on

[Yeatts]

I can understand the feeling I was cheated on too but if you are always thinking about your gf cheating you will never be able to get close to someone again. How to help prevent cheating is open communication from both sides. I am not saying trust blindly but let them prove their loyalty. To trust is to doubt you cannot trust if you never doubt. Once someone proves themselves after you doubt them then you can slowly trust.

[SomeoneImportant]

I know girls that call guys babe, hun, sweetie, all that stuff. It's just part of their lingo, and yes it's fine.

[Profess_g]

While their in a relationship too and call their bf babe as well?

[SomeoneImportant]

Yup, is it your girlfriend you're describing here? If so, don't worry about it man. Trust me, not giving a shit will greatly benefit you in the long run. If this isn't your girl, you shouldn't care anyway

[Profess_g]

I sadly broke up with her because of this 😔😔😔

[SomeoneImportant]

You stupid bitch. I understand why it bothered you, you thought you might lose her to one of these guys she's calling babe. This is a lesson learned my friend, never fear anything a girl says or does, whether it's something like this or even if she threatens to leave you or whatever.

One question though, did she always refer to guy friends as "babe" or was it only recently?

[Profess_g]

It's my first relationship and the reason I had to end it was because this same scenario happened to me before and I was cheated on. It all happened through text

[SomeoneImportant]

Well you shouldn't jump to conclusions and assume you were being cheated on. Kinda shitty that it all happened through text, but I'm curious. Did this girl recently start doing that? Or did she do it before you showed up?

How about the girl before that cheated on you, did she always do it, or did it start during the relationship?

[Profess_g]

Yeah , my first ex did it during the relationship and my ex that I recently broke up... Idek when but she told me she says it too everyone.

[SomeoneImportant]

I see, so it started during. You know what that was? A tactic they use to put fear in you and so they can gain some power in the relationship over you. If you didn't give a shit, because I'm sure you asked about it, she would have stopped. Remember one thing, the only power a girl can gain over you, is putting you in fear of what they might do. In this case, you feared her moving on to one of those guys she called babe.

Like I stated before, you will be surprised how much not giving a shit will benefit you in a relationship.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't call my guy friend babe. I find that weird.

[aamy811]

I call everyone babe, honey, sweety, etc

[Profess_g]

Even if being in a relationship and you calling your bf that as well too?

[aamy811]

Yeah, for me it's the same as saying "you" or "insert name here". If it's my SO it comes with more care behind it, but if it's just a random person it means nothing

[aloha23456]

She might be into leading guys on