Girls, What qualities, things, hobbies or dress styles or etc attract you to a guy or even if he's a friend would you consider him?

[Anonymous]

Anything helps really, i need tips because without sounding bitter or bitchy every woman i date after while leaves me or wants to become friends no matter what i do, i can be loving, protective, passionate, families love me, siblings adore me saying i should marry one girlfriend i had and not one as ever had a bad thing to say about me except once when i was cheated on, i'm really at a loss as to where and why women lose interest in me so quick i know it may not all be the turth but i get told i'm good looking, fashionable, great personality, always make people laugh, always care, have good hobbies, make a great first impression, see people beyond looks and see their personality, am a good lover so to speak, and it's gotten to a point where i just feel empty not because of this really but it doesn't help me when i have no one or family left i can rely on as my mom passed away 3 weeks ago and she was the last connection i had besides friends but they can only do so much and according to two girls i'm the most adorable guy they've ever met because of how i treat them but just aren't attracted anymore both after about 4 month, i've tried been more outgoing, less outgoing, new hobbies or activities, i work i don't drive but surely that can't have that big an impact after all i live alone with no help what so ever and can't afford to drive despite knowing how and i'm aware this question gets flung around like a hot potato but i seriously ask for anything tips, advice just anything because despite relationships i'm having a terrible day and could use advice right now :)

I'm well aware it won't make me feel better but it will keep me occupied a little and that's beautiful and all i need really :)

As for the friend part i've recently helped a old friend through some really bad times to help her and to occupy myself but i'm starting to fall for her but i kinda don't want to because i don't have many friends and don't want to get hurt again or hurt her or our friendship plus she's seeing someone so i'm a little torn.

[muzzfin]

You sound like such a genuine guy :) honestly, someone who turns you down has issues haha. Anyways, as clichéd as it may sound, you don't need to change yourself to attract women because that's just deceiving yourself. In fact, girls like guys who approach them, it shows confidence and flair. But also, being genuine and not fake and not driven only by sex can take you far. We are all attracted by something that appeals to our eye and for some odd reason I notice a smile first everytime because I wouldn't want to be around someone who just appears to be depressed all the time :/ Hope this helps, good luck though :) x

[jd1234]

you sound like a really great guy, try finding someone that has the same qualities as you then try going from there. Remember to stay confident and never settle.

as for the attraction part, i like a guy that is educated, has future plans and goals, respectful, family oriented, and has a job/career. i usually don't find these guys first because it takes getting to know someone first to even find out about those qualities.

[Asker]

Thank you, like i say i know this question gets asked a lot just odd you know?
yeah I've got the confidence and such to a T someone else said perhaps i'm intimidating a bit with how much more mature i am for lack of a better way of saying it, where as i'm more settled for my age a lot of others are still on part time jobs, partying etc etc but unfortunately i can't help how my life has panned out thus far really yeah it sucks but you just gotta deal with it :)
i'm not the smartest fellow i'll admit but i'm not dim i don't think haha, i have some plans and ambitions but again as i say with fighting off life's crappyness i kinda haven't had the chance to pursue them or afford them i'm respectful always and about as family oriented as i can be haha i get on well with people and such and as i say have a job and yeah i believe in getting to know people beyond looks and such i can't just be like hey your pretty let's go somewhere else if you get me?
Thanks for the input though :)

[LaBellaNena408]

I'm currently seeing a guy who is into bodybuilding lifestyle he's so into it, he goes out and parties with us but he doesn't drink or doesn't smoke and he stays up late but most of the time it's to train! I love his decation and hard work ethic, he had motivated me to get into fitness with him actually saying babe lets go to the gym. I love his sense of fashion too it's super simple just converse, a nice pair of jeans and a v-neck t shirt sounds simple but he looks really hot in this outfit! Plus he get a pretty sexy fade haircut too! 😍😘 mmmm sexy, I'm starting to fall for my papi

[9mfeo]

Do you tend to break friendships/ lose friends easily as well? Just trying to get a gauge of what the actual problem is here.

[Asker]

No quite the opposite i have great friends and am respected among them, and can't really stand losing people, it hurts if do because i wouldn't want to only the one that comes to mind is a girl i know recently is moving to start a new life as she's recently lost her child but we will still be keeping in contact, meeting up when we can etc, this is what confuses me i'm liked without sounding big headed and minus the one who cheated on me have never had a problem, no arguments, fights or anything not a bad thing to say, they always loved me, we did activities, dates, trips/breaks, had family time obviously a bit into the relationship, nothing seemed bad, i guess i get attached fairly easy with having a bad childhood and no one left to care for me really without sounding bad, i don't crave attention or demand people care if you get me, i just can't understand the issue :)
Thank you

[9mfeo]

You might scare women away with your intensity and depth of feeling. That's the only thing I can really think of.

[Asker]

Hmm possibly i guess

i mean i am an emotional guy, but i'm not overbearing and like full on straight in wine and dine if you get me, i take my time and such i mean i see a relationship as that, not a status or hey look i'm dating someone, but as a bond to someone if you get me... i'm kinda more advanced for my age with having a shoddy life so perhaps that could be it I've never looked at that really, i mean i know most people my age its more action and drinking but i'd much rather spend my Saturday with close friends and relax or occasionally go out yeah but with not having loads to spare i can't i mean i'm outgoing and such but I've never been hit on, only once by a 47 year old, no offense to her but well it's not my preferred age :)

But may i ask how so like what would do that if you don't mind?

[9mfeo]

The tendency to ramble.

[Asker]

Speak or wander because i do neither really but thank you i guess :)

[Cjanes]

Clean wrinkle free button up shirt and dark wash jeans, simple nice and good for almost all occasions

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry about your mom. Why don't you just tell her you like her anyway. I'm sure other people would want to be your friend if you let them.

[Asker]

Thank you :)
the only real family i have left is my dad but he works all the hours he can to try to help me despite me telling him i'm fine, he see's how bad life has treat me lately and just wants to help bless him, i guess it's true i'm not bad at making friends and such i just i don't know really we tried in the past but, she was under so much stress and depression she just wasn't satisfied even though she was if that makes sense

i help her now as a friend but she's the only real woman I've been close to, but now she's feeling better again and she's there for me i don't want to bring her back down and besides she seems happy with her new date and i couldn't break up a relationship... i'm just lost i guess at the moment, never helps when cuts are been made where i work... if i lose that i'm buggered at least i can move in with my dad which is a bonus :)

[kelseyylee]

Laid back T-shirt, blonde hair, blue eyes.