How can I apologize after accusing my boyfriend of cheating? Guys how would you feel if you were accused?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend has cheated before and yesterday he hadn't texted me all day like he usually does. At first I asked if he was okay but after no response in 7 hrs, and he's off on vacation I texted him accusing him of cheating.

Right after tet I did, he finally responds. He said he was sick all day and said I created a scenario and was obviously mad. I apologized and said I hope he feels better but he's again ignoring me :(

so How can I apologize after accusing my boyfriend of cheating? Guys how would you feel if you were accused?

[kat_gran]

I may be the only betch out here to say it, but why is he on holiday without you? Not to say that he can't but obviously and clearly you have trust issues AND for GOOD reason. True, he may have screwed up before but isn't it suspicious that RIGHT after you sent a text accusing him, then he answers?
And not only that, but he ALSO makes you feel like you're wrong about it?
Unless you are psychotic and twlling him this every day, i think it is safe to evaluate your relationship.
Sorry, people can say whatever and I may be judging too hard but once a cheater, always a cheater.
In addition, he only made you feel bad about your behaviour, what about his? If he was really sick... wouldn't he want the tender loving care of his girl and call her to make him feel better? Men are babies... instead he ignores u for 7 hours then blames u for acting psychotic? Hmmmmmm... sorry to say this but if i were you I wouldn't trust him too much...
I don't know ur relationship so im only judging on the few lines you wrote... but ARE YOU SURE YOUR BOYFRIEND IS NOT CHEATING?
You can say whatever you want, but at the end of the day, your gut does not lie ;-)

Good luck and I really hope for your sake it was all indeed just a mis understand ing! ;-)

[Frost_Byt3]

I'd give him some time to cool down before apologizing again. If he is still going to be on vacation for a while, then call him and apologize (but wait a bit so he cools down). But if he is coming home soon, then surprise him when he gets home and apologize.

How would i feel? Honestly, i wouldn't even be mad unless it was a constant recurrance. It doesn't necessarily mean that she doesn't trust me, everyone has doubts and that's normal. I'd rather her ask me if i was cheating to get it off her chest, than keep silently stressing over it. I'd do whatever i could to comfort and reassure her, so hopefully she doesn't worry about me cheating on her anymore.

I'd only upset if she was either constantly accusing me of cheating, or if when she accused me instead of simply asking me, she blew up about it.

[truthbeknown]

I would feel like I would have to break up and date someone else because with you I'll never get that monkey off my back and you will never be able to trust me ever again.

[ELGRECO]

Normally I would break up, since the trust is apparently gone.
But then again he cheated before.

Also somebody not responding is not really good evidence, if anything he would answer to make it seem like it was a normal day.

[Pyrofox]

Meet him in person not over texts and apologize and explain you over analyzed his actions and your own and ask without crying if it's okay to make up and move on

[Tromba]

If I had cheated before I would expect to be suspected. I would feel I deserved it. That's one of the reasons I would never cheat.

[Ihav2fart]

I'd have to serious evaluate the relationship cause she doesn't trust me. It does show that she's insecure but st the same time she loves me.