Is it creepy that my boyfriend's mom stalks my social media?

[squeelz]

My br and I have been dating for a year and a half. We love each other I've met his parents and he has met mine. My parents like him and he has told me that his parents like me. However he recently told me that his mom checks my Facebook page from time to time. Mind you I have nothing to his but I honestly find it strange he's a mommy's boy and everything and I completely respect her role as his mother. But my mom doesn't do that and it creeps me out. How would you feel if your SO mom was cyber stalking you? P. s my page is private do I'm not sure what she is looking for.

[Rawrzz]

"From time to time," would be the key phrase there, I believe. At minimum she's curious about you; at max, she's protective of her son. You put yourself out there for all to see. She's supposed to be creepy for checking out your page? Either you friended her on facebook, or your profile is open to the public--unless she's using her son's FB, in which case, that's a bit creepy. As for him being a 'mama's boy', nothing you've mentioned says that, to me.

Considering she's older, she possibly wouldn't understand the implicit social rule that just because you've friended someone, doesn't make them your friend.

The internet is like a crowded marketplace or town square. Your shit doesn't just disappear, and you're basically screaming to everyone a bunch of personal information. So, the way I see it, you're in this town square screaming things, and your boyfriends mother takes a few steps forward to hear what you're saying, and you go, "Ohmaigod, creeper." While there might be an implicit social rule that you shouldn't lurk on people online you're not particularly close to, I'm presuming she's older and is unaware of that implicit rule and views you putting your shit up for all to see the same as I do: fair game. Like you've never creeped on peoples' FB, tho, honestly?

As for how I would feel, it would depend on her mom. If I thought she was alright, I wouldn't mind--and, like I said, I put all my shit up there for anyone to read, so I can hardly complain if someone is actually looking at it. That's sorta the whole point. If I really didn't like her, I would just never have accepted her friend request in the first place, and my profile is already private, so she wouldn't be able to see shit. Unless, again, she was hijacking my account just to look at your webpage, in which case your boyfriend is a baka. Or your boyfriend showed her your page, in which case, I imagine he has a goal in mind to get his mom to like you further. I imagine.

Finally, there's nothing wrong with loving or being close with your mother, which I'm guessing is the anti-euphemism you were implying. A 'mama's boy' is someone completely dependent upon their mother for anything and everything: a boy, as opposed to a man.

[annoyymouse]

its a little creepy

[peachblossomluck]

That might make me wonder too. I think that's too nosy. It would be one thing if you had added her or something. I mean, if she is interested in getting to know you as a person, why doesn't she ask you to lunch or tea or something? I don't meddle in my son's life like that!

[Cmasterson]

I would feel slightly weird and change my profile to private lol. I mean yeah the internet is strange and we only put up what we want to, so by no means does it reflect your whole life and the person that you are.

[squeelz]

See you get it!! Thank you 😊

[RansomDraven]

As a mother, heck yeah I will checking out my son's girlfriend and my daughters boyfriend. Down vote all day but mothers do that... I would say 100% of the mothers that I know do this.

[DanteSparda]

I agree with you here completely.
Actually that's what I wrote in my opinion but some girl down voted me 😕

[squeelz]

I can understand checking it once or twice but if you checking it from time to time you have too much time on your hands

[squeelz]

@DanteSparda down votes are a part of this forum you will be ok

[RansomDraven]

@DanteSparda Haha well I gave you an upvote, I agreed with yours also. No matter how old your kids get, its your instinct to protect them.

@asker Didn't you say it was Facebook though? That's what facebook is, "friends" stalking the crap out of eachother.

[squeelz]

She's not my friend though

[RansomDraven]

Well just be glad he doesn't have parents liks me and my siblings... my parents are private investigators... our serious boyfriends got background checks that they never knew were run 😛

[pplnt]

I'd find it kinda uncomfortable..

[Hans222]

Either she's protective or just curious. In the end you may one day become your mother in law so she may want to learn quitly what kind of person you are.
If it continues like that I'd use the chance to show your guy "hey look, that's your mom!". Just "by coincidence"... tactics haha 8)

[chrisbigman]

I'd be a little uncomfortable about it, but I actually understand. She's just trying to look out for her son. She doesn't want her son to be mixed with a bitch/slut. I'm not saying you are or that she thinks you are. She just wants to make sure you aren't.

[skullly]

Just because he said she checks out your fb from time to time, it does not imply in anyway that she is stalking you. You paranoid freak! 😬

~The world has too many freaks~ ... 🎵

[squeelz]

Being creeped out because this 50 year old woman checks my page often doesn't make me a "paranoid freak". She has too much time on her hands and my mom doesn't do that to him so.

[skullly]

No, ... however, saying she's "STALKiNG" , you, just because she's visited your page from time to time, IS being a paranoid freak. That's not stalking, unless you're paranoid.

[squeelz]

Do me a favor get off my question you are pissing me all the way and I don't want to turn left on so I'm gonna give you the benefit of the doubt because you don't know please exit stage left. Thanks 😁😒

[DanteSparda]

She's making sure that her son made a right choice by choosing you for dating.

[DanteSparda]

@Asker - Assuming from the MHOs you've given for your question, you chose them because they're supporting your views?
That's pretty biased, don't you think?

[squeelz]

Absolutely! However I chose them because even after reading all the comments I received I still felt uncomfortable about the situation. No disrespect but I can chose whoever for an mho.

[DanteSparda]

None taken.
You're allowed to choose whatever you think is right for you.
Sure it's creepy to some degree but I've told you the reason why she's doing that.
I'm just curious about why my opinion has offended an user, that's all.

[squeelz]

I'm not offended I'm a little angry about the situation because if she wanted to know who I am then talk to me like person. I have done nothing to show her that in not a good person. There is no point in visiting my Facebook because I'm not posting twerk videos I'm not talking to random people who are not my friends I'm not taking pictures with bottles of liquor or my ass and chest showing. I'm actually pretty boring.

[DanteSparda]

Some people just have cautious personality.
It's similar to OCD and they can't do anything to prevent it although they think it's wrong.

[zombiebabe]

i guess its kinda normal (even if a bit invasive) she just wanna make sure to know in depth the person her son is dating

[Octavius]

I don't think it's that strange. She's really curious about how her sons life and you're a major part of that now. Then again I don't use facebook so I'm no expert.

[Jayded1]

Could just be trying to know you better, see what you are about. I don;t consider it stalky to check someones facebook.

[TheSmithy]

Not creepy in my opinion. she's making sure that you're not a slut or a porn star or something like that.

[Applefan1]

She is protecting her son. Making sure you are not going to use him or treat him badly.

[Applefan1]

I don't know why a girl down voted me. I never said you were like that just that she is worried about her son. She would be like this no matter what girl he started dating.

[squeelz]

I get that but my mom wouldn't do that to him so I am a little confused as to why she would think that I would do something against her son

[Applefan1]

Who knows, maybe a girl has done something bad in the past to her son.

[swornfavorite98]

Because it's weird she has no business looking at her things. She's not HER daughter

[Applefan1]

@swornfacorite98 haha I never said she should not do it. I think the down votes are silly to all I am saying is why she did it and people down vote me because I am honest about it and don't give some lie about why she did it.

[Applefan1]

@swornfavorite98

[RansomDraven]

Agree with this statement completely!

[Applefan1]

@RansomDraven Thank you. Also I can't help but think the 3 women that down voted did it because they do not want to admit that just like men girls can also do things wrong. I am pleased you can see what I am saying though.

[RansomDraven]

Yeah as a mother, I'll will be checking out girlfriends/boyfriends. Call it what you will, stalking, creepy, whatever lol.

[Applefan1]

@RansomDraven I think it is something most people will not understand until they become a parent.

[RansomDraven]

Exactly!

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't say he's a mommy's boy because she's checking it unless she's checking it for him at his request. She's probably wanting to make sure he isn't dating any hookers.

[TrooperD007]

Wow why is she hung up on you? I feel sorry for you and your boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

His parents seem overprotective. Just be sure to cover your tracks

[takumii]

She's looking out for her kid. Not creepy.