Jealous of other girls when my boyfriend goes to the gym?

[Anonymous]

Hello!

I haven't been feeling too confident and secure lately but my boyfriend understands this and we talked about this. He's very into gym and working out and introduced me into this world so since half a year I'm kind of addicted to the gym. We now go to the same gym too. Apparently there's this girl there whom he thinks is hot. How do I know this? He recently showed me a text his friend sent but a few texts above was this: "I just saw X again today, mmmmmmh xD... seems like she has a bit more of a belly now though" (I think he wasn't aware of this text showing when he showed his phone to me).
His friend is single and kind of a womanizer. I don't know if I should feel bad about my boyfriend talking about a hot girl like this or if I should just see this as "guy talk"? Because now I kinda feel jealous already if he goes to the gym.

Updates

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Little update: this girl is someone he knows for a while now, a few years back my boyfriend and that friend he texted to saw her and her friend almost every day in the gym. She used to be a bit bigger but now she's working hard on her figure.

[Katy33]

unfortunately I know you prb will not even get this, as I see it was posted a year ago. I think you should have broke up with him, its very disrespectful of him that he wrote a commet in a text to his pal about another women's body who goes there daily , if i was you i wouldn't even fuck the man now, its very sad that this world has came to what you see in these comments such as most of these males commenting on just guy talk. Like no its where talk, kid talk. These men think they can get away with anything these days including not being respectful of there women. It says in the Bible man shall not lust, im sure it would not be hard for your man to show some respect.

[Katy33]

*whore talk, its sad cause ain't gym time just supposed to be about going to exercise.. than come home and admire you... whys it gotta be about other women he knows at that or checking out women with the friends. Thats childish.

[selmo93]

As long as he looks but doesn't touch you should be fine. But its ok to be bothered, just dont take it out on him

[ROBERTHOOKE]

Of course by your words it seems to be more of a guy talk although I wouldn't want to say he's a player. Maybe you should look at his how much he does for you and how much he is willing to do for another girl. I mean, would he be hitting on somebody else?
Sorry to complicate my words a bit, but the solution is that every guy does talk about girls, I do too personally but I've assured my girlfriend not just verbally but emotionally that I love her very much. If you can manage that to see that 'emotional' link, you'd feel safer.
Hope this helps!
oh and sorry for the confusing words!!

[Asker]

Our emotional bond is very strong and he makes me feel loved every single day. Your post wasn't confusing :) thanks!

[SilenceMeansPatience]

Guy talk. This is even more likely because the friend is a womanizer.

[Asker]

Thank you. I thought that was something I should mention :)

[chriscouture]

It's guy talk. Just ensure you communicate boundaries hat you feel comfortable with if she's at the same gym. For example, my fiance would say something like, do not talk to her - not even small talk haha

[Asker]

Good idea, thanks!

[psychoticanimallover]

I mean I certainly wouldn’t stay with him, but it’s your life. He sounds like he needs to fuck around for a while before he’s ready for a relationship. If you want monogamy, you’re probably not right for each other.

[HaveNoName]

I hope he sticks to his limits but your being jealous is not healthy for the relationship.

[reptocarl]

Sounds more like guy talk

[Asker]

Thanks!