If they were close to perfection, sexual satisfaction wouldn't be an issue. But yes, bad sex is a deal breaker for me. If I'm not happy in the bedroom my interest declines and I get tempted to look elsewhere. We're all human and we have needs. I want to be faithful and not cheat but when you're REALLY horny and your other half isn't trying to make it work, morality starts to slip. I don't want to be put in that position. I don't want to have to make that decision. I don't want to be tempted to cave in and give into carnal desires with someone else. I want to be happy with my one. Sex is not everything but it is a big part of relationships and intimacy. If he's willing to try new things and improve I would stay and work it out because he's worth it.
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Depends. Would it just be not quite ideal, or would it be terrible or absent? In the last 2 cases, it might be a dealbreaker. Would I be allowed to get satisfaction elsewhere? Would it possibly improve in the future?
For example, I just had a date with a virgin and would be perfectly willing to wait until he's ready, supposing it wouldn't take ages. But if it were someone asexual who wouldn't be okay with an open relationship, I'd see it as a dealbreaker and would probably leave.
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For me "yes", but "bad sex" to me is sex without a connection, like masturbation with a body. It doesn't have to do with mechanics or physical pleasure.
The chemistry isn't there that kind of allows us to meld and read each other's thoughts. I've often tried sticking around because I found the girl attractive, found her personality charming, but it's not something that improves with technique. Sometimes the connection just isn't there in the sexual moments.
Usually when that happens, I'm incapable of really developing intense feelings for the girl (and probably her for me as well), and it's usually time to end the relationship.
I tend to discover my true feelings for a girl and how compatible we are inside the bedroom.
Generally, no. There is a minor exception. If she was involved in some horrific fire accident, or was in the military and was blown up be a road side bomb, and as a result, had "aesthetic limitations." I feel like I should not have to sacrifice my sex life just so I can still love and remain emotionally loyal to the same woman (in that situation). I'm sure in that situation, she would be okay with a permanent hall pass.
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Defently, I'm asexual so for me that sure isn't a problem
If you are having 'BAD SEX' you need to figure out WHY!!!
If you aren't getting your needs satisfied, as a woman, YOU need to SHOW him what you want, and HOW you want it!!
There is no 'GOOD' reason for a woman not just being totally loved and fulfilled, with every sensual desire, AS LONG AS SHE TELLS HIM, OR TEACHES HIM, how to give her that joy!!
What guy is going to say 'HELL NO!!' when the lady he adores wants him to do, uh, whatever?It depends, if she is willing to try other things and improve, than I could definitely wait. If she flat out refuses to get better or even try new things, then it would depend on how close to perfection she is and just how bad the sex really is.
If I wasn't satisfied because I wasn't attracted to them or because their sex drive wasn't enough to satisfy me, those would be deal breakers. If the sex wasn't great, I believe that can likely be improved with time.
If the person was close to perfection, then one really can't complain! Besides, that is where communication comes into play!
If we are both open and honest with each other, we would help each other to improve.A man should learn how to please & always get his partner off first ( several times if he can !! ) this is a pleasure in it's self !! The biggest complaint from the male side seems to be lack of libido in women , the genders are wired completely differently sexually , this is a big source of inter-gender friction. A woman that never wants sex will be a deal breaker to the majority of men
Deal-breaker, unless she's OK with me having side action to do what she can't.
Bad sex is a deal-breaker for me. I could not stay in a relationship if I were sexually unsatisfied, unless my partner just didn't care if I had sex with others.
Not happening. I can work with someone towards getting there, but if it just isn't happening, I know I am just setting myself up to cheat, and that's unfair to everyone.
you have to evaluate whats most important in the relationship, and if the person can improve sexually. If you feel that you can't deal with them because of the bad sex, then it is time to find somebody else
No, I'd just talk to her about and we'd decide how we could fix it. If she didn't want to change anything then that might be a deal breaker.
I have bad sex too many times and it is a deal breaker for me
I will dump a man in a heartbeat over some bad sexMe = serial dater = bad sex is always a deal breaker.
I like to try before I buy... But yes, it is a deal breaker. Only because I'm not to enthusiastic in bed and I need someone who knows what they are doing.
D00d, that's just when you start their training!
https://i.imgur.com/8PtCzP1.jpgBad sex isn't a deal-breaker, however, him not willing to improve and try to make sex better definitely does break the deal. I don't wanna spend the rest of my life being sexually unsatisfied.
There's something called ***communication*** that if done right can help "bad sex". You have to talk about it like adults.
What exactly do you mean by bad sex? I mean my boyfriend has never made me orgasm in all he year we've been together but that doesn't bother me. But not finishing isn't bad sex to me.
Potentially 'bad sex' could be improved by practice and learning, so not necessarily.
No, I don't care, sex doesn't mean a whole lot to me anyway.
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