100% worst thing you can possibly do is wait til marriage for sex. You raise your divorce chances from 50% to about 90%. Your going to ruin your wedding night. It is just a really really bad decision. You cannot know if your sexually compatible unless you have sex. I have broken up with women due to sexual incompatibility. SOme things can't be "learned". You can learn to suck cock, you can learn to eat pussy. you can't learn to love some screwed up BDSM or thing. You can't learn something that turns you on or doesn't turn you on. And there is no way to know what will or won't turn you on unless you try it or until you get to that point. It is true that, over time, you might change your opinion on things. The thought of anal sex when I was 20 and inexperienced was "gross". But by the time I was in my late 20's and very experienced I wanted to do it more then anything other then oral. But that took years.
Don't be stupid... have sex...
Of course... waiting is just an Archaic Belief.
If you are that religious... than wait until you are engaged... then You has some guarantee of intent/ and commitment.
I've had relationships that we physically couldn't have sex... other times where she had NO sex drive vs. my High libido. A marriage "First" between couples like that only ensures that both will be miserable and the marriage won't last/ there will be infidelity.
I'd rather find out before marriage/kids/a house that we aren't right for each other than after and have to split you and have shared custody and a messy divorce.
For me it would be a deal breaker. I don't even know if I want to marry lol.
Personally, I think it's a lot better to experiment those things before. That is part of knowing each other. If I'm gonna marry, I want to know the full package of who I'm signing to live forever with.
Basically I believe in the reverse order: dating, having sex, living together and after a lof of years together and totally knowing each other, marry.
I respect other people's opinion though. Everyone should live their life as they want to.
Not a deal breaker, if you truly care for someone and love them, then waiting for them should not be a deal breaker. If it is, it just proves people put physical pleasure before love and to me that's sad. There are other ways to express love other than having sex, sex gets put on a pedestal cause people cave into their own lust.
It's a deal breaker for me. Sex isn't necessarily the most important part of a relationship, but I don't want to marry someone, only to discover that we're not sexually compatible. I've seen that cause many problems in other people's relationships and I don't want to risk that.
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it's a deal breaker if he isn't willing to wait.
Sex is a fundamental part of a healthy relationship. If a girl won't have sex until marriage, she's got kooky religious beliefs and isn't my type. I don't want to marry someone I'm not sexually compatible with anyway, and I can't find that out if we don't fuck.
Sex is important in a relationship, so for me, it would be a deal breaker if he would wait till marriage.
Sexual compatibility is crucial for a successful relationship.
No... I wouldn't wait.
1. Marriage is no guarantee of a good sex life anymore.
2. Why wait? What if a year from now she gets bored and ditches me and I didn't have sex for a year?
3. Women get WAY more attached to you after sex.
It is a deal breaker. I can respect their desire for chastity and 'purity' per se but I see it as misguided. I do not want to settle down with someone with whom I can't even know if I'll be compatible or not.
well waiting for mariege will be waiting few years why not wait only a month? just use condoms
I'm a virgin, and I've really considered waiting till marriage. So I'm fine if my future partner wants to.
Know. Quite the opposite. I can get a gauge of what she will be like in bed by how she kisses. Every woman who was a bad kisser was ultimately bad in bed. Would definitely wait to know that another penis wasn't in my playground.
not a deal breaker! as long as she doesn't mind doing other stuff lol na for real if your feelings is what you saying it wouldn't matter
Nope. I don't believe in waiting. I will not marry a man I haven't lived with or fucked.
Fine by me. I'm not that into sex in the first place lol. It's been boring. Kinda sucks, though, since I still get the urges.
I'm a virgin, Catholic, and gonna wait 'till marriage, so... I hope my SO knows that haha <3
I'd prefer to wait. There were other ways to be physically intimate.
Deal breaker. I'm saying because I tried it. Although it might have been because the person made me feel like I turn them off rather than they are waiting for marriage.
Instadealbreaker. I would be so put off that any feelings I may have caught would evaporate immediately.
I don't see how it would be a deal breaker anymore. When you have the majority of the female population. That prefers to date men that are not virgins.
I don't mind waiting. But sex isn't that important to me though
I can wait and i got old fashion morals i live by, no sex until after marriage.
I'd prefer to see if we vibe sexually more early on.
i´m not signing a contract to stay with someone forever before i know them completely...
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