Can a relationship without sex before marriage work out?

[Anonymous]

Yes

No

[Canuck37]

Absolutely; my marriage is one where we didn't have sex before marriage, and we have a good marriage.

Most people refrain from having sex before marriage for religious reasons nowadays, but taking sex out of the equation leads to some benefits for the relationship.

Because at least 95% of the time you're together, you're not having sex. In a marriage, there will be times in your life when you're not able to have sex, such as during a serious illness. Your relationship needs to be built on something other than sex to survive, and taking sex out of the equation allows you to focus on those other relationship aspects.

You have to be able to get along as people. You have to be able to make joint decisions. You have to be able to resolve disputes amicably. You have to be able to live together and live with each other. You have to have similar values, morals, and ethics. Your respective families have to like you. You have to respect each other's careers. You have to be able to make joint financial decisions. You have to communicate with each other.

That doesn't mean that sex isn't ever going to be a part of your relationship. A marriage is, by definition, a sexual relationship. A marriage isn't going to survive if one partner decides to withhold sex just because they don't like it.

But bad sex doesn't ruin a good marriage. Good sex does not save a bad marriage. As such, a relationship without sex before marriage can absolutely work out.

[Reaper1985]

some studies show that if both people are virgins one leading up to their wedding night it increases their chances of a long happy marriage.

some studies also show that even if the couple has sex together before they get married. so long as they are each others first and only it increases their chance of a long happy marriage.

however a healthy and active sex life between partners in a relationship is a keystone to a healthy relationship over all. but if their sex life fades away and was not a mutual decision it can cause a rift between the couple.

[Anonymous]

when that happens, people usually marry young just so they can have sex. but they find out that all they wanted was sex and they don't like the relationship, feel like they missed out on sex with other people, so they get divorced. very common divorce stories...

[Apple1996]

I don't think so even tho the stats show it does is because those people live in denial about the truth and say they are happy with their sex lives when they really aren't. It's always best to make sure you are sexually compatible before marrying.

[AviatorTom]

Sure, so can a marriage with sex before marriage.

[es20490446e]

Good sex is just the consequence of a good relationship.

Now if the relationship is good, you will be VERY tempted to have sex.

Hence I think weddings should be simpler and sooner.

In a few months I can tell very well if I like someone to stay with them indefinitely. It's something is off I simply don't like it.

[Jamie05rhs]

Of course! You don't have to actually have sex with someone to test them out. If you're worried about sexual health matters, just have joint doctors appointments with his doctor and her doctor, and discuss any questions you have. Sex is a natural part of human biology, and the doctors should be able to help you with anything you need to know. You can definitely get all of this worked out before you get married.

[Anonymous]

Of course. It has for GENERATIONS. Because anyone with any sense knows that while sex is an IMPORTANT part of a relationship. In the grand scheme of things it's a vert small component. If this is a problem for you it's probably because you're focusing too much on that aspect.

[Razp_Sorbet]

Yes it can, but doesn't mean it's a good choice. Sexual compatibility is very important in relationships.

[NamerOfStars]

Yes- but it requires even more willingness to adapt and roll with the (metaphorical!) punches than a regular marriage does.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

Yes, as long as both people are wanting that it can work out.

[kinggeorge007]

In real world, yes totally!! In real world anything is possible. It's just a preference. If the both parties agree with it, it's possible.

[CateM]

I myself don't want to wait till I'm married to have sex, but it can work for other people

[Anonymous]

It can, but it rarely does. You are just setting yourself up for disaster.

[BarryLiverstone]

I said yes but my question is how long of a relationship are you asking about?

[BarryLiverstone]

Because if you mean more than a year it can get challenging

[Jamie05rhs]

How would it be challenging?

[rachel776]

if you can find a guy who will wait

[WellGreetingsISay]

It can but it is not for me

[Anonymous]

Yes if religious.

[Zayed_]

Absolutely that’s what I do

[Guardian45]

Definitely possible, but unusual nowadays.

[slatyb]

Some do.

[spartan55]

Not for me it won't.

[Anonymous]

Yes, they usually do work out better.

[LiamJHayden]

Of course.

[ThomasDavid1989]

Nope