Have you ever reconsidered someone you rejected in the past after they changed/ transformed?

[Anonymous]

Let's say a guy or a girl you rejected in the past, put a lot of effort into improving oneself physically/ psychologically and came back completely transformed. Would you reconsider going out with them?

Psychically they lost weight, gained muscle mass and just toned their bodies. Apart from that they worked on their grooming and hygiene, clothing etc..

psychologically/ mentally they became more emotionally fit (calm during stressful situations, not blowing up in front of you and became more confident, etc.)

Have you or anyone you know ever reconsidered anyone you rejected in the past if the person changed? I am just wondering if such cases ever happen.

[Shorty1991]

No, I didn't really know the guys who rejected me that well. They turned out to be douchebags anyway. One of them spends his nights getting baked (high on drugs). Not exactly the boyfriend material I was hoping for. If anything I'm glad that they rejected me. There was a guy who used to be a close friend, he kept asking me out everytime he split up eith a girlfriend. Im no ones rebound girl, so i yold him to get to fuck. I've learned my lesson not to dive in and tell them how I feel about them now. There was one guy who had a crush on me years ago and never acted on it. He followed me around for just over 2 years and whenever he stood next to me, he didn't even attempt to talk to me. So I got fed up of his carry on and avoided him. He still gets jealous when I talk to other men. Im not prepared to give him another chance even if he does ever decide to grow a pair and talk to me now. So there you gomy thoughts on guys who have rejected me, guys who I have rejected and one who liked me and never had the balls to act on it.

[Shorty1991]

Thanks for MHO

[Anonymous]

In my case, I was the one who 'transformed'. I use to be kinda overweight and was so unhappy and self-conscious that when a guy asked me out there was no way I was going to date him because I hated who I was as a person. A year later I am a totally different person, I lost 33 pounds and am now 100x more happy and confident. I never thought I would become a sport junkie but it happened. However I would never date that guy even now because it reminds me of the person I use to be and a time I hated myself, plus if he liked me then he probably wouldn't like me now because I am so different. Thats kind of also the reason I hate the body acceptance aka fat acceptance movement. If you aren't happy with who you are get out there and do something about and don't lower your standards just because you think you can't change it.

[WillowTree]

I've never known any grown person to change and become mentally stable over time. It just doesn't work that way. Maturity is one thing but insecurity and stability doesn't just appear out of nowhere and take over a persons personality. They may seem so on the surface but crack that shell and it's still there. No, I haven't accepted anyone back after rejecting them. I've given immature ones time to grow but overall there were more factors for me to stick with my choice.

[MusicMayhem]

No a person can work at it with the help of a psychologist. Look up cbt it works wonders. Takes a long time though.

[GinaEdwards]

I am sure there was a guy that done that with me that made me confused like seriously how are you suppose to act around someone who friend zoned you and made it clear they don't want you and then ones you changed your look and attitude and more people are around you , the guy started acting lonely and showed he wanted my attention, the more i did not care , the more he showed signs to me and the more attention i gave him the less noticed me...

[Anonymous]

No i havet reconsider

[Anonymous]

I have but more so because he was too young for my liking so I rejected him... then a few years later we meet again and wowwwww he's actually hot or cute.

We met in teens and I was a few years older, now we're in our 20s but I didn't try anything because it's kinda messed up plus I don't want to be rejected even if I kinda deserve it

[ladyinwhite]

it never happened to me, but my friend hooked up with a guy from her high school after he transformed. was a short relationship anyway, some things never change...

[kittykatbrat]

I have an immediate "accept/reject" gauge which is unfortunately very harsh.
I never go back on this.

[Anonymous]

Yes and i regret it to the max... i mean he wasn't fat or anything in the past, i just rejected him because of my friends and sisters. Now that i see how he's like, he is everything i ever wanted.

[Kayj192]

I was always the one who got rejected... now lost over 90 lbs and losing more.

[Anonymous]

No. I've never reconsidered. If I wasn't interested I have never became interested. I have a good idea of what works for me and you can't transform into it... you have it or you don't.

[Anonymous]

If it were hygiene and grooming why she turned you down, she might change her mind. And becoming more stable with his personality would be good too.

[Anonymous]

No never. I don't change my mind about these kind of things

[YaBaba]

nope, what's gone is gone.