My boyfriend called me a cow?

[Anonymous]

Yesterday my boyfriend "caught" me eating a piece of chocolate and got really angry and called me a fat cow! I always eating healthy around him, even for my birthday! I wasn't "allowed" to have cake, or ice cream, or anything special. I just ate my fruits and veggies like any other day. I'm 5'9 and I weigh 105 lbs, which is far from being a cow. My doctor even told me that I was underweight and that I have to gain some weight. I really love him, and he's really sweet in general, but when it comes to food, he becomes another person. I don't know what to do? Thanks! :(

[ekc8295]

"he's really sweet in general"
I find this hard to believe. Somebody who is controlling and abusive like this usually doesn't limit it to just one aspect. And this behavior is definitely controlling and abusive.

He 100% can't "allow" you to eat certain foods or "catch" you, as though he's your parent or supervisor and you're doing something wrong. That is so far from normal or acceptable relationship behavior isn't almost funny. But it's not because this is the type of shit abusive people do. And it WILL get worse the longer you stay with him. Furthermore, insulting and name calling is not ok. When you're in a good relationship your partner won't try to control you or put you down.

Ask yourself: are you ok staying with someone who abuses you like this? Someone who insults you and calls you names? Who thinks they have the right to tell you what to do with your own body? Is this really how you think a good person treats their partner?

[spuitkaas]

This sounds familiar. My sister used to have anorexia and one of the ways she acted on this was controlling other people's eating habits and bashing they if they don't eat healthy. She even did it with our pets. Removing food from their eating trays. I'm not directly implying that your boyfriend has anorexia, but is he focused on his own eating habits? Sometimes even obsessively? It sounds a bit OCDish from him.

[Curlybeauty17]

Break up with him. You don't need someone in your life that will treat you that way and promote that you become even more underweight. If he really cared about your health he would be helping you try to gain weight in a healthy way and not treating you like a child and limiting what you can and cannot eat.

[Pyrofox]

Your boyfriend sounds anorexic... Or just a health nut xD. Should have taken super offense and started forcing him to eat the cake and then giggle away saying whos the cow now... OuO huh? (watch him as a response like flip the table and say "I'm out you win") xD Well at least thats what my other half would do if I called her a cow. lol she a sassy little girl. (In her case she would feel bad later knowing I'm not a huge sugar fan.)

For me personally I dont really care what my other half eats so long as she remembers to eat a healthy diet.

[Chico_brah]

Lmao he is probably just messing around dude. At 105 lbs I don't know how you could take it so seriously. Whenever my friends eat fastfood or something I always call them fatasses. Every morning in the chowhall I have some cookies with my coffee.. My roomate tells me I'm a fatfuck every time. If I'm dating a chick, then she is my friend as well.

Lmfao @ these people saying he is a jerk or this would be considered verbal abuse. Just lmfao. Stop being so damn sensitive.

[Asker]

He was yelling at me, trust me he wasn't joking.

[BeautifulPromisesx]

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So why are you with this abusive weirdo again?

[Wonderer89]

😂😂 holy crap, that face

[BeautifulPromisesx]

@Wonderer89

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[bang678]

Your health should come before what your boyfriends ideal image is. What he said is just flat out mean and not ok. Just focus on being healthy and if that means gaining weight, so be it. I also believe life is too short to not enjoy good food. So eat what you want, its one of life's simple pleasures.

[TadCurious]

I think you should try to gain weight like your doctor said. What your boyfriend said was very wrong, and I say "screw you!" to what he said. He's not in charge of what you eat, and if he's trying to exert this kind of overbearing control of you that's a bad sign. You don't deserve that kind of treatment and name-calling.

[CyberToothTiger]

Well, you either got to take control of your own decisions
or he will continue to control your life which you don't want
unless you don't mind. Myself i think you deserve much better
I could never see myself putting a girl down in any way when
I'm in a relationship, I love a girl with all my heart it makes no
difference what she eats or what she looks like as long as
we love each other is all that matters to me.

[JCT666]

For eating chocolate? What an asshole. You should go find someone better than him, I highly doubt "he's really sweet in general" from what I'm reading. He shouldn't have any business in controlling your diet either, especially since your says you're underweight.

[jwuuulia95]

Don't you understand what he's doing to you? that my friend is called abuse... vocal abuse. LEAVE! or else you will start eating less, get REALLY underweight and maybe even get sick, if you leave now, you're lucky ! LEAVE !

[kickme]

vocal abuse, that is hilarious. Wait, there's a whole mean dangerous world out there waiting for you when you leave mommys bubble

[kickme]

he doesn't want you to get fat and is hypersensitive due to the state of things in the USA right now (99% of women end up becoming fat cows nowadays). He is not being controlling, but if you get "fat" this would be to him like him never having a job would be to you. A difficult situation. Talk to him abnout it and commit to managing your fitness in a world where the opposite is the norm

[TheDevilInside]

Dump him. The minute you have a pimple, trust me, he will verbally abuse you. Don't risk it. Plenty of other fish out there. You don't need an asshole-fish.

[MsHeidi]

Tell him how you feel... You must let him know that these words really hurt you. You already eat healthy in general so chocolate every once in a while should be acceptable.
If that doesn't work, I would consider breaking up with him...

[Supermosh1990]

First of all did you tell him about what your doctor says about you being underweight? Just try talking about it every now and then. Also how often does he get angry at you? Does it seem out of control?

[Because-I-Have-Too]

Leave him, he's obviously seriously affecting your health, and if I can't accept one part of you than he doesn't deserve any

[Zazzz]

Wtf! And you take that shit? Grow a vagina or something

[snowangle]

Leave him. That's super unhealthy, for both your mind and body.

[GingerGuy]

That's some boyfriend you got there! lol I'd be looking for a new one. Verbal abuse.

[Unit1]

Aaand you dump him.
He doesn't like you for what you like. No steady relationship needs someone like him.

[singlebee]

Hahaha omg so funny!!

anyways slap the fyck out of him next time when he calls you a cow... or call him a fat bull too

[BMN2016]

He either needs to seriously work on his issues or you guys should take a break.
It depends on how bad it has become.

[Bandit74]

Was that just a one time occurrence or does he have a habbit of insulting your weight?

[Casstiel]

Omg he just pissed off because you ate a chocolate? Dump him lol 😆

[Usersame]

I will never understand why do women put up with idiots...

[colourz]

Proving once again women love dating douchebags lol

why are you even still with him?

[CaliSoccerGuy]

kick him in the nuts and eat chocolate over him as he's on the floor

[Adigelunar]

don't care him , that's your body you can eat whatever u want

[Guy_No1]

he's putting you down, and he's being a bully.
He sounds like an immature jerk.

[Anonymous]

If it's troll it's funny, if it's not it's hilarious

[Anonymous]

What a jerk! You do realize that you are in an abusive relationship right?

[kickme]

abuse? I guess me and everyone else is abused too. I would hate to see if you ever had to leave mommys bubble

[Opinion Owner]

@kickme Someone who get that pissed at someone underweight eating is a fucking sociopath dude. I served in Afghanistan, I've shot more people than can fit in your kid's bedrooms.

[kickme]

I understand not wanting your woman to get fat in today's world where everyone is pushed to be fat by our culture. I assume he is hyper sensitive to this and unable to constructively deal with this fear, but this is far from abuse. Does he need to "do better", obviously. Compare it to daily life in Afghanistan?

Would it be abusive if he did not have a job and she was belittling him? Of course not because it is a gynocentric society. That is my complaint.

Thank You for your service by the way. We all should be humbled and grateful. Honestly, 100% serious.

[Chico_brah]

Lmao the only thing you are shooting are loads of cum into your socks. You never deployed to afghanistan stfu.

[Opinion Owner]

@Chico_brah i ain't gotta prove shit to u, ur a nobody

[Chico_brah]

@TheRebel69 Look bro.. we just met a spec ops dude the other day ahaha. Now we got this dude. Crazy right?

[Opinion Owner]

@kickme I understand and respect your point. But calling her a fat cow shows some resentment he has towards fat girls. There's something deeper about that specific insult.

[TheRebel69]

@Chico_brah I told you, Devil Dog, this is the new VFW. We have Spec Ops, I've seen a few legitimate Marines and Army guys around, and now we have this bad ass. Though I shouldn't mock him, he's killed more men than I can fit in my kids bedroom.

@Anon Veterans don't brag about killing on the internet forums, ya knob.

[Chico_brah]

@TheRebel69 Ahhaha Ayy. Semper fi to this salty vet right here. I definitely wouldn't fuck with him. He would probably kill me. I heard a he's shot more people than you could fit in a child's bedroom or some shit.

[Opinion Owner]

@TheRebel69 I'm not a vet or spec ops lol, i'm a contractor, few of us filled the ranks during the withdrawal so we had to... clean up.

[Chico_brah]

What company do you do contracting work for?

[TheRebel69]

@Chico_brah Oh, shit bro! He's Blackwater or some shit. I'm sure his file is confidential too.

[Chico_brah]

@TheRebel69 in b4 he gives me intro cinematic trailer speech to call of duty.

[Opinion Owner]

@Chico_brah that's part of the NDA, you never say who or where as long as you work there, don't fuck with my money bruh

[TheRebel69]

@Chico_brah These guys would get more people to believe their bullshit if they said they enlisted for minimum time as a NCO, came out an E-3 with no deployments and spent most of their time mopping up rain.

[Chico_brah]

Oh damn😉I'll keep your secret bro.

[TheRebel69]

@Chico_brah This is OP justinwrites.files.wordpress.com/.../...ghan1.jpeg

[Opinion Owner]

@TheRebel69 lol, you boys have a good weekend.

[Chico_brah]

Op is about to go on a mission rn. He's looking at us like this rn.
www.google.com/search

[Opinion Owner]

@Chico_brah lol you play too many video games. It's a disgusting gig cashing in on conflicts but gotta keep the lights on. And no i am not going for a mission or am i? point is fuck you and thanks for the laughs.

[Chico_brah]

Disgusting.. Damn but you still do it. you gatta feed the family some way or another. This is all you know.. Much respect brother. 👍 I definitely would fuck with a guy like you.

[Chico_brah]

Wouldn't *

[Chico_brah]

Please don't shoot me for that grammatical error.

[TheRebel69]

@Chico_Brah is a Marine, thus "Devil Dog" so it just makes your video games comment fucking hilarious. Dude, contractors don't be on Girls Ask Guys talking about killing people in Afghanistan or even saying they're a military contractor, fer fuck sake.

Plus, in the future, dudes who are lying are always Spec Ops, Seals, Contractors, or some shit because they think it means they are confidential and don't have to prove shit when in reality if someone were to trace your IP address, what you're doing is make claims of serving overseas which is Stolen Valour, my friend. You're lucky you ran into goofs like us who don't give a shit and are just messing with you, but there's dudes out there that would flame your ass.

[Opinion Owner]

@Chico_brah The fetus in that girl you knocked up can smell your sarcasm.

[Opinion Owner]

@TheRebel69 @TheRebel69 Trace the ip bruh, call your best hacker friends. Even though it would be easier to break into GaG and obtain my email then work your way from there. And besides you don't know the first thing about contractors, no such thing as honor or any of that corny ass bullshit of the marines. Thanks for your service by the way chico_brah.

[Chico_brah]

@therebel69 Like I was saying before. Gag members show every symptom of autism ahahah

[TheRebel69]

I'm not doing that man, I don't give a shit that you're lying I'm just saying there's dudes that were over there that don't take kindly to people claiming they were there when they weren't, let alone seeing combat and talking about killing. You in my experience the most hardened soldiers, etc, are the ones that you'd swear they wouldn't hurt a fly. It's the gung ho types that usually draw the suspicion.

LOL "Corny ass bullshit"

[TheRebel69]

@Chico_brah No kidding. Calls the Marines corny ass bullshit, then thanks you for being a Marine. LMAO

[Chico_brah]

@TheRebel69 lmfaoo

[Opinion Owner]

I love how you americans over glorify soldiers.

[TheRebel69]

@Chico_Brah OPs bed time song. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bCnzi6L_BsM

[Opinion Owner]

@TheRebel69 yeah not gonna watch that

[Anonymous]

He was out of line calling you that. You're really skinny and he shouldn't say anything for a single piece of cake

[Anonymous]

allowed? wtf. he sounds like a manipulative psycho. and you are still around him why exactly... ?

[SovereignessofVamps]

It sounds like you made this up.

[Asker]

I really wish I did.

[SovereignessofVamps]

If this is real he's cray Cray.

[Chico_brah]

lmfao this seems to be a common routine of words for you.

[SovereignessofVamps]

@Chico_brah People troll on here so much it's insane. IRL too people lie so much it's insane. It's a terrible routine and it's nonstop.

[jman46241]

Yeah, that's really sweet in general..

[TacosRAwesome]

Call him a cow fu ker and dump him.

[Autumn-Bunny]

He's being sarcastic.

[Americandream00]

Get rid of him

[hannahbanana11]

LEAVE HIM

[COCOCHANEL]

he has a disorder

[scooogy]

Better drop him

[Anonymous]

He is fucking mean..

[Opinion Owner]

I insert the food inside my girlfriend mouth, even when she tells me i am full.. lol