What it means when a girl asks a guy for some space/time?

[ManinLove]

I have a question; I've been dating this girl for about 3 months and recently, she asked me for some time; she asked for some space. She had just broken up with her boyfriend a few days after I met her and had said she wasn't looking for a relationship. We started to go out and things progressed, to the point where she would be out and texting me that she couldn't stop thinking of me and missing me and that scared her. Eventually, I would be spending the night at her place ALL the time. I met her family and things of that nature. She was the sweetest and wouldn't change her for the world. We went to visit her grandparents out in the desert two weeks in a row and spent the weekend there. Yeah, we had some issues along the way, but managed to somehow work it out.

Over this past weekend, she sent me a text late night if I wanted to go over and I said YES! She was with her cousin and the guy her cousin is seeing at her apt. When we were about to go to sleep, I saw some text messages in her phone when she handed it to me that was asking this guy if he was gonna come over and if she was going to see him. I felt horrible when I saw those text messages. I asked her about it in the morning and she was nervous and didn't know what to say and avoided it. She had always said that we weren't together yet and that I could go out with other people if I wanted to, but just don't tell her because it would hurt. We weren't officially together. It was just this weekend that she acted weird.

She sent me a text Monday saying that that maybe we could talk after work and we did. She said that we might have rushed into things and that I was an awesome guy and timing just sucked (text). I called her and she said she had been thinking a lot and that she would want some space to work on her and plus, she would be busy these upcoming weeks for about a month and I already knew that. Her cousin seems to have a lot of influence on her. So, she asked for some space. I told her that was fine. I told her that I had a problem, that a few months ago I met a girl. I went out with this girl and got to know her and fell in love with her... I told her I fell in love with her and told her I loved her... I could hear her exhales and she said why I would tell her that now when she's asking me for time? She began to cry and would not stop. We kept talking and finally telling her how I felt and she kept crying...



My question is, why would she cry? Secondly, when someone asks for time or space, is there hope? From what I know her, she would tell me hey, we can just be friends and nothing else for now.. We had a mini fight before and had said that maybe we should just be friends for now annd nothing else, but if I didn't want to that was okay...just let het know...but she wanted to know me...or something along those lines. But she just asked for some time that was it. I told her that I wouldn't bother her at all and I told her that she knew where to find me when she was ready...she

[flyergrad09]

She only wants space because she's scared. There's a big difference between dating someone who just got out of a relationship and being in a relationship with someone who just got out of a relationship. Even though you say that you guys weren't together yet, you did a lot of things that people in serious relationships do.

She cried because she has a lot of strong feelings for you and she doesn't know what to do with them because she's scared of being hurt again. (regardless of if she ended the previous relationship or her ex did, there's always a little bit of fear when something ends).

There's completely still hope. Stay in contact with her, but not every day. Maybe every couple of days, especially to start off with. That will show her that you respect her wishes enough to take them seriously. When's she's an emotionally ready person to give her heart to you, she'll come back.

[ManinLove]

She said she would be busy for a few weeks and I told her I would not look for her at all... That she knew where to find me when she was ready... It hurts because I'm in love with her and just told her... Is it best to just wait til she looks for me? what should 5 honestly expect to happen? thank you

[flyergrad09]

As far as pursuing a relationship, yes, you need to wait for her to contact you. I wouldn't let her slip too far away though. Send her a text or Facebook her every few days so she doesn't forget about you.

[azzhole725]

You should be able to answer your first question ,but I'll be nice and not be condescending. She told you once that if you were going out with another girl, don't mention it to her. She obviously has feelings for you and out of jealousy, she started crying. There's always hope; someone asks for time because he or she is confused about what he or she wants. They need to figure things out. Don't worry about her. Focus on the girl you are in love with. If you want to be a nice guy, be friends with her and apologize for telling her about your other girl. If you don't give a damn, why even bother talking to her or even worry?

[ManinLove]

I think you misunderstood.... the girl I said I was in love with was her.....

[azzhole725]

Oh,you are a nice guy. Well this changes everything. She's crying because she's definitely confused and probably hates herself. She probably wants to be with you, but after a hard break-up she can't. You should probably do what the girl above said. It's a sound strategy. However, sometimes as a man you have to fight for what you love. Sometimes you have to tell her that all you want do is make her happy, and you would rather die than see her cry. Best of luck!