He was mad so he....slammed me against the wall?

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend of almost 1 year was really p*ssed off the other day. I'm not actually sure what he was mad about but I was supposed to meet him at his house after school and let myself in as he would be home from work later on. So I was just sitting on the couch watching TV. and he came in and he was absolutely furious...he was like yelling and throwing things around. I wasn't sure what to do and I was really scared because loud noises and stuff just scare me, I'm a very jumpy person to say the least and I hate it when people yell so I let him have his little temper tantrum and when he calmed down a bit I tried to ask him what was wrong and he continued to yell and scream (not at me...just about whatever he was so mad about), and so I stood up and I was going to go get him some water and he just like walks over to me slams me against the wall and he started um really I guess roughly making out with me. It hurt when he did that. I'm pretty..submissive I guess like I don't know I'm shy I don't do much, I'm still a virgin I'm 16 and all that so for me being slammed against a wall like that was just...i did not like it at all and it hurt my back. I've made out with him before but yeah I was very uncomfortable with this situation, I really did not know what to do and I kind of just froze I mean I was scared and shocked so I just froze and cringed. and then he stopped and just went and sat down. I'm not sure what to think about this, I mean he didn't rape me or sexually assault me or anything so...was that okay? I mean he didn't beat me or anything so...is it okay for him to do that? I'm really confused about this whole thing and ill admit I'm sort of freaked out. help would be greatly appreciated but please don't be super harsh towards me, thank you.

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Id like to hear what guys have to say as well please just because I want to know what you think he was doing and if you think that its okay

[ilovelegs]

That was soo NOT okay! There's never an excuse good enough to justify a guy doing that and scarring the hell out of his girlfriend in the way you described. My say on this is that if you stick with him, he's going to be an abusive boyfriend and you'll see this sort of thing repeated time and time again. He does NOT need to take out his frustrations in this manner, least of all against you. What you should have done is immediately left after you said you'd talk with him later.. and then just got out of there, and then asked him on the phone what the heck that was all about. Who knows how far that might have gone. You don't sounds like the type of girl that likes that kind of behavior and to be treated that way, and most all normal girls wouldn't. If you seriously like this guy, you need to demand a complete explanation to your satisfaction as to why he acted that way in front of you, and if he's acted that way before. If he hasn't, then make him promise to never do it again. If he says he has, my suggestion for you to break up with him because you'll never have a stable relationship and one day in the near future you will get hurt. BTW, one our of four girls are abused by the boyfriends, so be very Leary about that. Always immediately walk out on a situation like this. Never hang around to wait until he settles down. I hope this helps.

[Curlyfries316]

ive done something similar a while back, I was very angry about getting fired at work and I grabbed my ex-girlfriend and kissed her (not hard though) she was surprised but kissed me back and just having her kiss and touch me calmed me down. he was stressed out so he wanted some affection from you.

i doubt he wanted to hurt you. I think he probably kissed you harder than he meant to cause he was angry.

good luck! :)

[Anonymous]

omg I love when they do thaaaaat

sorry if you don't like my comment.

I guess he was so mad and then he just wanted to take it out and he gave you this aggressive kiss !

From my own experience I do this when Iäm really mad too and then to just forget about my problems I take it out on my boy and it feels great like you throw a rock away..guess he had the same feeling

nothing to be scared of really maybe u'll like it one day =)

but if ure not comfy with it its not okay, tell him you didn't like it and that it scared you!

[girlsaskguys93]

What he did made you feel uncomfortable when he tried to dominate you physically. That is NOT okay. It's okay to feel confused because you did nothing wrong, but that just makes his role in this worse. Anger is no excuse to scare you or potentially harm you. No woman deserves to be in a relationship where her partner tries exert physical power over her; it is never excusable.

[Anonymous]

I personally like it when a guy gets a little rough but if he throws you so hard it hurts afterwards then tell him and if that made you feel uncomfortable tell him and did he even apoligize? if he didn't and finally does and says it will never happen again and has he ever hurt you before because if he had this seems like he might just be a abusive boyfriend

[Bruce]

Slammed you against the wall, huh ? Well, that is a good start.

The You o V female laCrosse player was slammed against the wall, until she died.

When a guy puts hands on you...and slams you against a wall...that is the shape of things to come...I don't intervene in that *&^% anymore...because girls / women let that happen and then ask someone else 'what they should do" ?

Think about that for a minute. Does that make any sense to you ?

Your life, your fractured skull.

Bruce

[azzhole725]

If you are not comfortable with something, let him know. It is not okay for him to do something that makes you uncomfortable. I think he was trying to spice things up by being rough. Some girls like that; if you don't, let him know.

[Anonymous]

I actually think that's so hot when I guy slams me against the wall and starts making out with me. But if that really scared you, you should probably let him know.

[Bruce]

Wonderful site...That is supposed to read " University of Virginia.

[Reonde]

Leave him! That just proves he has the potential to violently abuse you. Don't take the chance, please get out!