My girlfriend is bigger and stronger than me. Should I try and out perform her?

[famguy112]

My girlfriend who is 21 years old, have been together for about 6 months. We both attend the same college. We have a very strong sexual relationship and have sex around 3 to 4 times a day. I am 6'0" tall and weigh about 145 lbs. I am rather small built mainly because I run cross country and track and field. My girlfriend is about an inch taller than me and outweighs me by about 50 lbs. She does a lot of crossfit and power lifting and plays volleyball. Everyone can clearly see the difference where her legs, thighs, and butt are like 3 times the size as mine, where my butt pretty much is non-existent. So, whenever we go to the gym and workout together, she always outperforms me in pretty much every exercise. She tends to lift like 4 times the amount of weight as me. So, pretty much she is the dominant one when it comes to working out.

Also, when it comes to our sexual relationship, she also tends to be the most dominant. She is always the one to initiate having sex, and most of the time outperforms me.

I don't feel embarrassed about how she can outperform me physically and sexually. I just don't know if the male being the dominant one over the female is the right thing to do in a relationship? Should I try to outperform her?

[Pyrofox]

Just do what works for you and don't care about what society says. Cause most of the time modern society only makes drama out of relationships when they don't fit the narrative society wants. Most relationships are ultimately the people involved. NOT what is for the good of society. MUCH of social stigma is just full of bs and what fits a narrative that fits the social climate for that time.

Gay couples are kinda perfect example of why not to trust society. For the longest time there were bs hyperbole statements that homosexual/gay/lesbian couples would be like the downfall of society. Only the irony is gay or homosexual/ same sex couples have a like 90% higher chance to not only not end in divorce but if it comes to divorce they also have an unbelieveably high chance they separate with the intention of being sane human beings and not destroy the family over the divorce. AND same sex couple adopt. Something that most hetrosexual couples almost never consider unless the couple can't themselves have kids.

With ^ stats like that I say screw the sterotypes and social climate those who try to be outdated claim we should live by. LIVE how you want to live if thats what makes you comfy, happy and satisfied doing. True love will survive even if society decides that its the time and place to collapse cause love if you really are loving one another is truly forever.

[MarcusBorino]

That’s hot! And yes try to outperform her!

[Carsongrettler]

Very hot I love when girls are stronger than me

[kaylaS91]

Whoever is the 'dominant' one in the relationship has nothing to do with size or physical strength. It's in reference to the dynamic between the individuals, with the 'dominant' one being one who, by nature, is more headstrong. More of the 'leader' type, whereas a sub is the one who receives more pleasure from obliging the requests of those they care about, versus being the one to dole out orders.

[OlderAndWiser]

A relationship is not supposed to be a competition. Your partner's happiness is supposed to be as important as your own happiness. If you approach something as a competition and you win, then that means that she loses. . . and that should make you feel sad.

[Tomcat68]

Working out and going to the gym should be about personal gains and accomplishments. You shouldn’t be comparing yourself to anyone else. Consider yourself lucky if she initiates and has more desire for sex… you may never meet another woman who is like that. As long as she is satisfied with your performance that’s all that matters… ask her about what she likes and doesn’t like. If it bothers you that she is bigger and stronger… you could easily surpass her within a year if you put in the work. Testosterone is a very strong hormone that gives you a big advantage.

[Saramad_Hill]

I think the better question is does she make you happier? Is your relationship good?
The high amount of sex sounds like y'all get along I think.
You don't have to prove a thing to anyone. No one gives a crap if you're weaker than her besides assholes. If you want to train with her, ask how to start.
If she likes you and you like her that's all that should matter. Don't ruin this by being insecure. Did she ask you to go get swole? Honestly to hell with gender roles.

[Randalama]

Clearly underperforming. I'm not saying "The Brotherhood" holds you in low regard because there is no such thing as "The Brotherhood". I'm just saying. Can't you take that stuff that Barry Bonds took? I read it made his skull change shape and density. Maybe that would work.

[Iron_Man]

I hope that you’re not telling me that she can kick your ass.

[Spellfire22]

Sure, why not? Competition is fun...

[Ms_Facesitter]

Do what makes you both happy.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Just do it!

[WizardofDarkMagic]

That’s hot!

[RaceAgainstMachine]

Yes!

[DarthGameRuler]

That’s super hot!