Is this a normal brother and sister relationship?!

[ChocolateLover]

I have been dating this guy for nearly three years now and we have had quite a few problems but they always get sorted. The main problem that is not going away is how he is with his sister. As I am an only child I do not know what is normal brother and sister behavior. When we first started going out she was at university so it was never a problem but he would always say how attractive she was. Then one summer when we went on holiday he would constantly check her out and just stare at her bum all the time. He would even rearrange 'himself' after walking out the room. At first I thought this was just a coincidence and tried to forget about it because its his sister and only his sister but then I noticed this happened a lot and I started to feel really sick about it and I had to say something about it because I couldn't be near him and he said that it was disgusting that I thought he was checking out his sister...which is true...it really is disgusting but it was what he was doing! anyway after that he didn't seem to do it as much and nothing more was said about it. His sister has now returned home from university and he has started to do it again. The other day we were on webcam and his sister walked into the room with a very VERY short tight dress on and started posing for him and kept turning around to show him her bum and he sat there smiling with his chest out and his arms crossed just staring really disgusting and I just don't no what to do about it because I feel very very very sick about it but I don't feel I can say anything to him because it seems ridiculous. They are a year apart in age, he is older in his 20's and she is very fit and has a good figure but has no curves or anything. I am a normal girl not over weight but have curves but the way he looks at her makes me want to change the way I look because he obviously finds her very attractive. I am meant to be going on holiday with them this summer but really don't want to because of this situation...especially with her in her bikini. We had plans to go off and do things together on holiday as we haven't seen much of each other lately and he has now invited her along to all the things we have planned for just the two of us. Also since she has been back, the way he acts with me has changed a lot, he isn't as affectionate and he doesn't seem as interested. Am I being completely ridiculous? and what would you do? Thanks :D

[HearttsandQuestions]

I have two brothers and 2 sisters including myself. I can tell you this it is NOT normal at all. Me and my siblings fought as children then growing up we got closer, but lemme tell ya it was never that close. I don't know exactly what's happening here but from what you've verified this seems out of the norm. I agree with you. This behavior of his with his sister is just ridiculous I'm all for "love who you wanna love" but a brother and sister .? That's a little out there. Clearly there's something wrong with him (and her). In any case what you need to do is drop him like a bad habit. Before you do however I think it would be only appropriate to tell him why your dumping him. Explain to him how you feel then please do yourself a favor and get the hell out of that relationship. There's better guys out there trust me. :)

[ChocolateLover]

Thank you :D brilliant answer! its just so hard after three years to just dump him

[HearttsandQuestions]

Thanks. And I know it's hard trust me I dumped my boyfriend whom I was with for almost ten years once. We just have to do it for our own happiness, I know it seems selfish but it really is int and you'll start to see that. There's other guys out there and sometimes it's better to make new relationships with people who are worth it. Good luck (:

[Brianna987]

No, you are not being completely ridiculous at all. Sweetie - break up with this guy immediately! He obviously has strong incestuous feelings that he can't or doesn't want to control. That is not a sign of well-rounded personality and would probably translate into more heartbreak for you down the road. His sister most probably has the same type of problem, as she plays into his fantasies. And he wants to take her to vacation you planned for only the 2 of you? And the way he acts with you has changed a lot, he isn't as affectionate and he doesn't seem as interested - well, I think you know what you should do. Leave. This situation spells disaster in the future if you stick around, heartache and confusion. Spare yourself the pain and move on

[amazingalissahh]

I have four brothers and this is definitely not normal brother sister behavior I could maybe see if they were step but if they are blood that is just sick . I would never be trying to show off in front of my brothers or anything like that and if your boyfriend is really checkin her out he has some issues. When he saw her in the short dress a brother thing would not be to stare but tell her to put some clothes on . I wouldn't be jealous if I were you but this definitely is not normal.

[jpmenu_3]

Well I suggest you really express your feelings to him,and if it continues its up to you to decide whether you want that sort of sh*t in your relationship...incest=gross and disgusting

[RealDeal]

That does sound a little off.

I tell my sister to buy longer shirts, "Ain't no one wanting to see that butt around here".

[MUSiCxLiFExLOVE]

Um, yeah. That's definitely not normal, it's creepy. I would break up with him because trying to change him or ignore the fact will just end with more frustration and confusion. It sounds like he is not doing too much good for you right now. My advice? Kick him and his completely inappropriate behaviors to the curb--there are so many other decent guys who you deserve to be with, not this freaky dude.

[sweetheart20]

No its not normal but what can I say I'm in a crock of my own with family.

[Booboo210]

What you have against cyber ashamed of rubbing your pussy for self pleasure

[musicsweetyy]

ew, that's so gross...

dump him...

[keboses]

GET OUT. IT'S A TRAP!