What's your opinion on Second Chances in relationships?

[pervertedjester]

Just wondering where we all stand on this.

Everyone deserves one.

Kinda, Depends on what happened.

After a few years... maybe it'd be okay.

Never, If they did it once they'll do it again!

Results

[samhradh_leannan]

It depends on the situation. But when in doubt, I'd prefer to give someone a second chance, unless there is a high level of risk to doing so. For example, I would not give someone a second chance if they were abusive.

I have been in situations where giving someone a second chance was one of the best decisions I have ever made, and I have also been in situations where giving someone a second chance was an absolute disaster. But so far I have never regretted giving someone a second chance, and giving myself a second chance to make things work with them.

[PrincessBubble]

Perfect explanation

[lovelyhoneybones]

I completely agree. Second chances are a good thing, but only for those who deserve them. If your relationship ended for a minor reason i. e, you weren't cheated on. There was no deception. Then of course, if you want a second go. Why not? But if it was a bad relationship with a bad person, they don't deserve a second chance.

Though I do look at it this way, treat people the way you want to be treated. If you wouldn't give your ex a second chance, don't expect someone else to give you a second chance.

[vonasaurus]

i don't trust too many people or often. but i gave one person a second chance and he fucked up colossally; after that, i knew i'd never let anyone make an idiot of me again.

fool me once, shame on you; there is no "fool me twice".

[JosyJosy]

I agree with that quote. It's not for everyone.

A) You threatened to leave me and we got into a huge fight because I just have guy friends? Second chance, ok
B) You cheated? Game over

[America1st]

I didn't vote because what I would have selected is not there. I don't have a lot of faith in second chances because the majority of the time, nothing has changed. If you don't be honest and completely work out whatever caused the problems to begin with, you lose. Just saying you will change, doesn't mean it's true. A person can put on a good show for a while, but the truth ends up coming out. most don't do what it takes. They convince themselves they will change without doing what it takes to make that change.

[bloodmountain1990]

It honestly depends on what happened. If it's a little quirk or something someone does that's irritating then that's one thing but if it's cheating or anything that ruins the faithfulness then fuck no.

I mean sure some cheaters can change but it's like if you let it slide once, they'll probably do it again.

[Shadow44]

I voted for maybe it'll be okay but in general I think if things failed once then they're bound to fail again. If things aren't working out and ended in a break up save yourself the pain.

Though maybe in a few years if we have both changed a lot then maybe things might be different but still there'd have to be a discussion or something about why things didn't work out last time and if they'd be any different this time.

[Soremain]

I don't think anyone "deserves" to be in a relationship in the first place. If you deserve something, then someone is obligated to deliver it. And no one is obligated to be in a relationship with anyone.

Personally I would just break up for good. I'd never cheat so I expect the same from her.

[Soremain]

Oh it wasn't even about cheating. Previous question was about cheating so I somehow mixed it into this. I'm tired.

[AleDeEurope]

Second chances? Never. Unless the reason of the break up was because of distance, or something like that, something that wasn't a fuck up from her part.

[Rainie_]

Depends on what happened but I'm a very strong believer in second chances. Not more than that though.

[Barrabus_the_Free]

I don't do second chances. If something was fucked up enough to make me rethink being around that person, then they're done.

[Chanel1981]

Definitely depends what happened and if anything has changed since

[backonthelist]

do what you believe is right, follow your intincts, and at least see them through. if things don't work out, at least i tried. .. and Now I just need to act on the words that come out of my mouth.

[qwert1234]

It depends on what happened and depends on your capacity to trust the other person again.

[legalboxers]

50/50 thing. I dont believe in 2nd chances, because if you cared enough you wouldn't have broken up with me or hurt me

[Loversberg]

there is people who deserves second chances and the ones who don't.. depends really

[TayTay21]

Fuck no. I broke up with him for a reason.

[alice55]

Depend on what happened.

[cutemz]

I don't do them depends on what they have done

[__Victoria__]

I don't belive second chances what is done is done

[Dred1614returns]

For cheating, never.

[Pimop95]

It depends

[Asiantrash]

Just dump