Have you ever used someone or been used by someone in a relationship? How do you feel about it now?

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Either used for sex, money, or whatever else? How do you deal with it if you have been?

Hulkette86 · Accepted Answer

Yup. BOTH of the last dudes I dated used me. And it took me 10 months to see it. However I was still reeling from my divorce so I think that's why I ignored it. I just wanted to feel something so badly. But after those I decided to stay single for a while & get myself together. I'm over it now & many valuable lessons have been learned. It does affect me in the fact that I can't take either one back because they were such awful mistakes. But I refuse to live in regret. Moving forward is my best option & advice to anyone else in the same situation.

tnkgrl · Accepted Answer

I was in an abusive controlling relationship for 8 years. He controlled for power out of extreme low self esteem/he's a sociopath.

I got out. I got help through my family ( I still live with my parents while ai sort out

Loulouchuchu · Answer

depends on what you've been used for.. My past 3 relationships. All long term. I was used to boost their ego or as the trophy girlfriend (It feels like none of them cared about what I had to say). You get over it.. Everyone has an agenda weither it's positive, negative or selfish x

Anonymous · Answer

I know my sister used her first husband just so she can have a kid, then she dumped him and she used her second just to get over the first and now she is with her third... and I think she is settling. I have never used anyone, my husband is my first and last. But I'm sure it is painful, and sad to go through break ups and realized that you were being used. My sister did not feel sad for using these guys, she demonized them and then pretty much feels that she was right and they were evil.

Anonymous · Answer

I see things differently. Relationships I was in, were both good and bad, used or being used or loved or being loved. Depends how you see it.

I do know a guy I think he was being used, but he may not see it that way. So I don't know.

How about you?

Pepperbox23 · Answer

Not really used, but I have been abused and quite terribly, mentally and physically. It hasn't damaged my views on love though. It just made me learn about myself and what I really want in relationships

existing_not_living · Answer

Both. How do I deal with it? I move on to the next guy. I'm really fucked up therefore emotions about guys don't affect me the way they "should". If one guy doesn't work out there's always another one around the corner so it doesn't give me much time to mourn something as stupid as a guy who didn't deserve me.

Machiavelli · Answer

Used in every relationship and feel bitter about it. Now I am called gay or crazy or inadequate because I stopped dating. I'm sick of giving and getting nothing.

mooky06 · Answer

It's made me aware of the signs of not making those mistakes again. Even made me cautious, but not all guys are like that. So I'm very open minded when I meet someone new

little_bird1 · Answer

I have been used both for money and sex. How it makes me feel now? Rich and attractive. ;)

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly I did not allow it, when a person uses you it's crystal clear from the get go, usually it's the GUT instinct that tells me that there is something wrong, and I automatically leave, i don't even stay to see and wait what happens no...

LolaB13 · Answer

My last three exes have used me for money and it has left me jaded and heartless. I don't give shit to anyone now.

whitedahlia · Answer

I'll never ever trust anyone quite like that again...

Fitness-Fanatic · Answer

I've never been used. I never give without taking from people..

Anonymous · Answer

Yes my ex used me just to get a visa. What a twat. can't believe I dated him. he's long gone now. Now im dating an amazing guy

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Yeah I helped my ex with his company without getting a dollar or a thank you.

tasushi · Answer

It ruined the way I see love

alice55 · Answer

I never been in a relationship so no.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes that's one of the reasons I broke up with him.

margismith · Answer

I got used by a guy and now I totally hate him

SunnyCaliGirl · Answer

No I have never been used

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