Have You Ever Been In A Relationship Where You Are Used And You Don't Mind?

[Anonymous]

I met a woman on Tinder and I enjoy her company.
She doesn't work and doesn't have a job
So, I pick her up at her house and I take her to nice places and restaurants. I pay for everything. We have had 6 dates and we are still in the stage of getting to know each other. So far it's been only platonic.

Lately, when we go out on a date, she has me drive her to different places, that she needs to go. For example, one time she needed to visit her health insurance place. Another time she needed a ride for a job interview.

We are going on a date tomorrow. She texted me,
"I need your help. Please take me to two places and then we can go to have lunch and visit some interesting places. We can have lunch in some Chinese city."
[She is from China and has been in this country for less than 1 year.]

For some reason, it doesn't bother me. But I think it should bother me.
Has anyone else been in a position where you felt used by the other person but didn't mind?

[Finchie40]

Usually not a good thing to be constantly used by someone , relationships need to be give and take for the most part or you will eventually feel like you are just a convenience , if you allow yourself to be constantly used , when someone constantly uses you , they get comfortable using you like it’s no big deal and will expect you to be there for them on their terms, if you fail at being there
For them , they will hold it against you that you don’t appreciate them anymore and pretty much use that to their advantage to get one over on you , So you are best to make it clear to her that you can’t always be her chauffeur and just be honest with her that is what you are feeling from her , if she gets mad an upset at you , then she doesn’t truly value you , but if she doesn’t get mad and upset she will see things from your point of view and try to give back as much as she is receiving from you

[JHNS98]

My ex friend with benefits sort of used me as a love dump, and I sort of used her for sex. It was a really weird arrangement l, my parents told me not to trust her supposed feelings because of who she was.

[likeacat111]

She is chinese and in her culture she expects to be treated like that. At first you say she doesn't work and later you say she asked for a ride to job interview so to me it looks like she is doing something about it. At the beginning it seemed like you tried to make her look like someone who never works and leeches of other people but then she asks to be taken to job interview. She obviously is looking to be employed. I don't know the full story obviously but these are my few observations.

[Alli39]

I don't mind doing favors for friends etc even if it's not entirely reciprocated, but I'm not sure I'd vibe with your situation. Eventually it gets exhausting when people start thinking they can ask for more and more and start getting upset when you only have so much to give. That's lowkey why reciprocation is important, because why is someone asking for more than they would give were your situations reversed?

[BoopBoopBeep]

I've been used for sex. You don't get access to my wallet.

[Asker]

Have women tried to access your wallet?
In what ways do they try?

[BoopBoopBeep]

Want me to pay their bills. You're an adult. Pay your own bills.

[sheenagwapa]

i will always mind because i don't like beinh used that's why i also don't use other people. my intention is genuine

[Billlewis]

Oh, always -- that's honestly the only kind of relationship I'm interested in.

[LiamJHayden]

Nope. I do not mind spending, but the minute I get the sense that THAT is why she is around I end it.

[Cheerfull009]

Once such girl tried to use me without return but I clearly told her, that I believe in :give and take, No money, No Honey :so she ran away

[Anonymous]

If she lets me go balls deep i will spoil her


If she doesn't im cheap with it

[WhitneySnow]

No. If I felt used I would mind.

[serious_miss419]

Sounds like give and take.

[DreamLife7]

No..