Have you ever been in a relationship where you lost yourself?

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Yes, I often adjust myself to him coz I know he won't understand me. That feeling he was unstable and I have no choice but to adjust myself to him. That feeling you are buried of tons of masks. It was suffocating and harder to breathe. If I express myself about frustration. He would get mad and think that he was not good enough.. he even think I cheated 🤦‍♀️ it is pointless to talk with him, i dont even feel safe emotionally. all I can do cry every night just to let out my emotions until I become numb... then lose myself. I don't even feel I'm his girlfriend. I feel im his therapist 🤷‍♀️

Smoke-n-Growls · Accepted Answer

Leave him. You are this therapist and mother right now, and that's who he needs and deserves - not you, a girlfriend.

My past two boyfriends were both like this. Couldn't do their jobs or manage their mental health without me making to do lists or appointment schedules.

I left them and will never date men like them again. In fact, will probably never date men at all period, lol.

I've been in relationships like this, too. It feels so good to get out of them. Live for yourself.

Something I discovered recently in therapy is a phrase I'll keep in mind when I start dating again: "my should partner SHARE my life, not try to be it".

Meaning I will have a life, my own life, and they will have theirs. The magic happens when we meet and share in each other's lives together. I'm not living for them, they're not living for me. We live for ourselves and joyfully share the stories of our lives together.

Sandeeppingping · Accepted Answer

Yes, the one I was finally released from a few days ago, ironically one doesn't notice how far someone has hurt them and alternated with their behavior until it's all said and done, now I resent her greatly, ironically she broke up with me over something I didn't do, we had a huge 3 hour long fight that involved screaming at other people, in her mind she's the victim and I'm the bad guy, I'll take that any day over me being the victim although in reality I am so pissed off like pissed off and done and disgusted because she's the one who wronged me but it's fine

Light909090 · Accepted Answer

No I’ve never lost myself I know where I’m at everyday every night even when I’m sleeping I know where I’m at and I know I exist even when I’m unconscious asleep.
I never Been lost in a ocean of emotions because I’m not drawn to whatever darkness that people think is so alluringly that they Self destruct in I’m not a self destructive person I’m a Good person I don’t Abuse myself by letting people walk all over me I don’t abuse myself by crying 😭 every night I choose when I wanna cry and I decide when I don’t wanna cry 😭

Googlemyahoo · Answer

Yes my ex had me wrapped around her finger. My friends used to point it out and I stopped hanging out with them. The sex was great she was the first girl who would be ready to go anywhere anytime never said no. Sometimes she’d come by on lunch saying she wanted my cum in her. Just randomly show up unannounced pull down shorts & underwear and be like lets go. Eventually we split after going to different universities and I woke up.

Anonymous · Answer

That's never happened to me, but it sounds scary.

Aerolyn · Answer

Yes, but it doesn't matter now.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Fortunately, no.

d3n0939 · Answer

All the times. I mostly miss myself

Iron_Man · Answer

No I don’t lose myself

baserunner611 · Answer

No, love is ❤️

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