Have you ever been in a relationship where you felt like you were tolerated?

[Wild_princess]

Its not about your partner but also in friendship or family. have you ever feel you are just tolerated by that person just to not hurt your feelings.

[D_Bone_Steak]

A side chick I had for about 6+ months. We had an agreement to be friends with benefits's as she was engaged and I was married, both separated from our SO's because of military stuff.

Anyways it started out fine, there were even romantic feelings at first. Something changed about her though... she suddenly started trying to change me and grind me about anything I'd say or do. Like I started to feel like I was walking on eggshells around her. I honestly felt like the only time she was nice to me was during sex... and hated me for most of the time outside of that. Like constant shit-testing. I think she started feeling guilty about the cheating, but for some reason wouldn't just call it quits and just move on, and I was just like, WTF... I hope she doesn't come over today.

I was being used as sex on tap and getting psychologically abused outside of having sex. It finally ended and she started sleeping with all sorts of dudes... got a bunch of tattoos and I feel bad for the dude she was with. He knows she cheated before me, but then there was me dumping my load in her two bottom holes for months (she had a creampie fetish), and then all the dudes after me... I kept track of her doings on fb, but she finally blocked me... her situationshit wasn't looking good.

That's when I felt tolerated in a relationship. I served only as a living dildo to be honest. It started out great and then it just changed into something I didn't want to be a part of anymore.

[IAmAzzurra]

When you have a side chick, and you are hers ( I‘m not sure of the correct term for the male equivalent). You already know that you are using each other to an extent. It’s the same with friends with benefits. You are agreeing to use each other to fulfil a need without any emotional attachment or obligation.
You weren’t committed to one another. You already weren’t faithful to each other. If you or they are going to have one side person, you may as well have six. You don’t owe each other.

Also, there were two other people here who were unknowingly being treated unfairly. Usually, what goes around comes around when you play this game. It’s not nice, but it’s the way it is.

Next time you have an affair, remind yourself that all bets are off.
Good luck

[D_Bone_Steak]

@IAmAzzurra You're right. To add depth to my situation, the wife had cheated and me doing other chicks was part of the agreement for me to stay (she begged me to stay). The agreement I had with the side chick was we can do other people, but then it's over between us. So we just happened to choose each other instead of moving on to others... for me, I was just done with the idea of getting sex and for her (the side chick)... well, she went ape shit for dick to be blunt.

But like I said, you're right... especially what a friends with benefits's should've been. She dragged that emotional stuff into it and I wanted nothing to do with any of it. It started with her trying to get me to be religious (I have no interest in that), then it spread to what I should do for work (I have no interest in working and have plenty of free money)... and then it became just slamming me for being this or doing too much of that... like my drinking, for instance, became something she felt she could police.

Is what it was... I'm just glad I don't deal with her or any other woman except my wife now. Too much work... too much drama... and I'm just here to shoot guns, make lots of money, and I only do it for the hookers and the blow. 😂🤣

[noohair]

Men will see a relationship as 80% good and 20% not so good and accept what they have to deal with the 20%. Women see the same relationship as 80% good and go to work trying to fix the 20%. The only person that you have any chance of fixing is yourself, so you destroy the relationship trying to do something that is impossible. Every human is a whole person with no spare parts, so don’t break anything.

[itsalyssaagain]

Yeah with a lot of my past relationships. I didn’t always feel that way. Like til this day I know I added a lot of value to their lives. But sometimes they did make me feel like I was too much. That’s why I’m not friends with them anymore :) they text me they get no reply lmao.

[Anonymous]

Yes , i felt in the past as i was left out in the cold. Putting a lot of efforts but in return received nothing.

[sheenagwapa]

my last relationship when he wanna leave it made me realize that he is angry at me because he felt i was the boss in the relationship

[EpicSnail]

Yes, that is life in the friend zone. Have also felt like that with my parents a lot. And some friends.

[Spade_01]

Not in close friendships or family relations but with some acquaintances, maybe yes.

[FilmGuy93]

I felt that way in a number of old friendships. I don't have that problem anymore.

[Anonymous]

Constantly I worry that's the case with everyone in my life.

[Hanrej]

Once maybe. That relationship is in the past though.

[Anonymous]

Not for very long. I would never tolerate that for long.

[Nikki1989]

A couple of times, but I can be too demanding at times.

[Danny_dan92]

What do you mean by “tolerated” ?

[Wild_princess]

Like you feel like they are tolerating you just cause they don't wanna hurt you

[Danny_dan92]

Ah… possibly yeah

[QuietVerbena]

I have not, fortunately

[NathanDavis]

nope.. and I would never stay in one like that

[TacosRAwesome]

Like most of them probably.

[Greenbins]

Yes my last girlfriend..

[Rohaan2020]

Yes i was exactly in such a relationship

[riverrat3]

some members of family

[magiusX26]

as a guy, 100% of them all

[BrookeS]

Yes i habe

[EaterPeter]

Yes.

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for like!