Do gay couples get along better than straight couples?

[peachblossomluck]

I'm asking curiously because maybe they are the same gender so perhaps they understand each other better, think more alike? It seems like the gay couples I know get along better than the straight couples. I think all of the couples (gay and straight) love each other pretty equally.

[Anonymous]

It's about the same. I have several gay and lesbian relatives and hang out with other people they know.

Some have great relationships and others difficult ones. Most have some of both kinds - like straight people.

Basically, to me, your childhood upbringing seems to affect your relationships most of all. People who seemed to have felt loved do better, whole people with traumatic childhoods seem to do worse.

One thing I have seen - especially with women, is that bisexual women often cave to pressure to ultimately be with a man. At least where I'm from in a rural/conservative area. And that most men in particular, move away to a bigger city while they're still young. It's hard to be gay in backwards areas.

[Opinion Owner]

For the record, there is even physical abuse in a few gay relationships. I had both a male and female relative face it (as well as straight ones, for that matter, though).

[Analinda1999]

no. i dont think so. if understanding how you are, meant you understand others easily, then everyone would have simple relationships across the board. people are learning as much about themselves as they are about each other, all through life.

important thing in relationships is respect compassion and interest in learning, the sex of a person makes no difference. in my opinion

[Justacatlady]

I lived with my Aunt and her girlfriend for over a year, and I have lived with a friend and their SO, and to be honest, it was the same.
People are different no matter what gender and we all have differing opinions on how things should be done and how situations should be handled.

[ColoradoChick84]

It's about the same. I dated other women before, and we have fights like how I have fights with my boyfriend

It depends on the couple, not if they're gay, bi, or straight.

[ColoradoChick84]

Thanks for the MHO

[peachblossomluck]

You're welcome 😊

[hahahmm]

There's a lot more to a person than their gender. Otherwise it would also be easy for men and women to understand each other because it would all be very simple. So not everyone is compatible even if they think they are at the start of a relationship.

[peachblossomluck]

Do you feel their gender has any bearing on them having an understanding relationship though?

[hahahmm]

Not when it comes to deep relationships, no. Maybe on the sex side the odds are better. Still even there not all men think alike & not all women think alike.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Everyone as a couple gets along great in public.😂

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Haha thanks.😊

[peachblossomluck]

You're welcome!

[Anonymous]

Statistically there is more Domestic abuse with lesbian couples.

''The National Violence Against Women survey found that 21.5 percent of men and 35.4 percent of women living with a same-sex partner experienced intimate-partner physical violence in their lifetimes, compared with 7.1 percent and 20.4 percent for men and women, respectively, with a history of only opposite-sex cohabitation. Transgender respondents had an incidence of 34.6 percent over a lifetime according to a Massachusetts survey.''

www.advocate.com/.../2-studies-prove-domestic-violence-lgbt-issue

[rjroy3]

No lol. But I imagine if they've been lesbian a longtime and tried dating in heterosexual relationships for years, that when they finally date another lesbian they're ecstatic. So the contrast is super intense. I know women who have been lesbian all their lives and went on to fall in love with a man and marry him. I remember one example a woman said that if her husband died she wouldn't even date another man. She'd probably find another woman again and go back to being lesbian. There was just something special about him and he made her happier than any of her past lesbian relationships.

[rjroy3]

Stories like that reaffirm to me that while the sex of the individuals aren't as important when it comes to gay vs straight relationships. Masculine vs Feminine is very important. Because you never see or rarely see gay/lesbian relationships where both are masculine or both are feminine. There's always one who is masculine or more masculine than the other and likewise one is feminine. That masculine/feminine polarity is important to humans. I think most lesbians probably could be happy with a guy, but only if he's masculine or man "enough" for her. Especially when you see lesbians going after other lesbians who exhibit all of the qualities that they say they hate in men lol.

[thatgirl16]

I'm bi and when I've dated girls it's always been shorter but ended on better terms. my best friend is gay and he has the worst luck with relationships he's had 4 serious relationships and is only on good terms with 1

[peachblossomluck]

l am glad you were able to end on good terms! Not everyone can do that!

[naraku]

Good question but I do not think it means gay couples will have any more or less success in a relationship as anyone else.

The fact they are same gender will help somewhat but not drastically.
I mean if I imagine my male friends we still argue about thing's and so on. I am not sure if a romantic interest changes much or anything.

But, I could be totally wrong.

[TransButImStillHere]

well i get along really really well with my boyfriend. when i didn't know i was trans and i was female i had a boyfriend.

it was awkward af and i didn't know much about him xD

[pingiluv]

Yeah I have tons of friends who are heterosexual and they get along better or they cover up their fights better lol jk

[SarahsSummer]

Gay or straight, relationships are all individually unique in love, lust, and emotion.

[GayHowellMeme]

I think so. They are the same gender so they understand each their but it could also be that they don't really love each other. Like I have been dating a girl in internet and she was just boring and not exiting at all.

[Dr_Latex_McPeggin]

I think both couples have the same shot at getting along. Gay/Straight; I don't think that matters as much as getting to know the person you are with and having things in common and also things each like themselves as well...

[meatballs21]

I read an article somewhere saying that lesbian couples have twice as many problems as straight couples...

[worldscolide]

I'd say no, the percentage of domestic violence reported from gay couples is nearly twice what straight couples report.

[sp33d]

I doubt there is that much difference. As you say, same gender - potentially understand one another better..

.. understand what to pick on that is :D

[Jemini_Crocket]

I believe it's just like every other relationship. Some work better, some do not.

[RationalMale]

Considering that lesbian relationships have amazingly high domestic violence rates compared to male/female, id say no

[Anonymous]

well, they certainly don't have gender-related issues like leaving the toilet seat up (especially if they are lesbians)

[yoshi_wanna_ask]

How on earth are you going to get any kind of an accurate answer to that question here?

[peachblossomluck]

It's no more precarious than any of the other questions any asks or answers here.

[peachblossomluck]

Some people who are Bi may be more insightful even who knows? We're all on a learning journey.

[yoshi_wanna_ask]

Okay but even just to get the basic data you'd have to have a poll. Which automatically not everyone even on the website is going to answer. Then you've got the fact that people, any people, often can't give an accurate reflection of what a relationship they're in is actually like but the way they want it to be. *Then* the fact that people in general aren't scientists *and* what measure are you using? Are you talking about having more in common? How kind/understanding they are to each other? How well they blend & support each other? And you're going to get that from asking a single question to group of biased individuals?

[Deathraider]

I'd say it's pretty even with gay and straight couples.

[Anonymous]

They don't, I would say it's worse because they get a lot of hate by other people.

[Anonymous]

I doubt it since most females can't seem to get along with each other in the work place for very long.

[11dog22]

😂 no different as straight!

[clampfan101]

I think they vary in the same ways.

[jpick00]

No it depends

[peachblossomluck]

Depends on what?

[jpick00]

The relationship. All relationships are different. I don't think just because they're the same gender it means they will get along better

[Impregnator511]

Only if they are well matched.

[Prince555]

i think biiii...

[peachblossomluck]

Do you mean that two bisexuals in a relationship are more comparable?

[Prince555]

yup... u think sooo...

[Prince555]

yup i think so...

[realgrrrl]

No, they break up and cheat a lot more.

[jacquesvol]

No idea.

[disgustingweebtrash]

No they don't.

[boyka1]

I think yes

[Anonymous]

no it has no effect