Guys, Do you spoil your girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

Are you also willing to do favors for her such as giving her rides if she needs them?
My ex never spoiled me, yet everyone I know has boyfriends who spoil them :(

[samhradh_leannan]

My ex did spoil me a bit, in terms of gifts, favors, and generally doting on me. (While our relationship was good, anyway). It was my first relationship, so I got used to that, and thought it was normal behavior for a boyfriend. But my current boyfriend isn’t like that at all. At first, it was a difficult adjustment period for me. I thought it meant that he didn’t value me, or didn’t care about me, because he wasn’t constantly giving me flowers and showering me with favors. But my relationship with him has actually taught me a lot about what it means to have a truly healthy relationship. He is a caring, compassionate person. He respects me as an equal, not a possession or someone to infantalize and spoil. He does favors for me when he can, he does give me gifts occasionally, but most of the time, he shows me that he cares just by being there for me and giving me his time, attention, and affection. Favors and gifts always go both ways, and we both do things to care for each other and support each other. I actually feel much more valued and supported than I did when I was with my ex, and I also feel healthier and stronger as an individual within the relationship.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't call giving her a ride as a favor, it's just a simple thing to do for my girlfriend. On the other hand , spoil her yes. Mini vacations or getaways. Wake up early before she did and go fill up her car with fuel, just so she wouldn't have to worry about the money or running out of fuel ( God only knows that gas light can only be on for so long, lol)
You go out of your way to make her feel special, plain and simple

[Asker]

I wish I could find a guy like you. My ex couldn’t even give me a ride to school.

[Opinion Owner]

Why a ride to school? Your parents can't drop you off, no public transportation, walk? And we are talking about what kind of school , college or high school?

[Asker]

College. My parents aren’t responsible for me anymore. Of course I could get public transportation. I just think it would have been nice if my ex took me to school since public transportation is expensive and he had nothing to do during that time of day. Yet, he took his ex to the airport 4x a day.

[Opinion Owner]

Well he is your ex now, so no need to worry about it nor be depressed thinking about it

[Explorer911]

Yes. Currently dating a girl and im such a loser for her. And I've been told there must be limits (maybe never spoling her or doing everything for her like I do are two extremes). But yes.. I do. Because I want to be supportive and reliable. which takes me to the point of being over available and taken for granted.

So... something half way would be ok.

[D1991F]

Depends on spoil? I'll give my girlfriend rides occasionally but I'm not a taxi service.. I will also take her out on dates but as long as I pay 75% of time it's turn off to pay 100% of the time.. gifts? I will occasionally buy something you want but not anymore if you never surprise me with gifts .. as you can tell I don't like one sided relationships

[Westy616]

I used to. It’s pointless... because after they breakup I feel like it was a complete waste of money and effort. I almost feel like they used me for free stuff. I’m not spoiling a girl again for that reason. I’m fed up with women and their childish behaviours.

[kaylaS91]

.. you do realize that there are plenty of ways to spoil your s/o that don't involve buying things, yeah?

[Westy616]

@kaylaS91 You bet! But like I said it seemed like a waste of time and effort.

[Asker]

@kaylaS91 I actually like to be spoiled with money since it shows that he really does care about me. There are too many guys out there who love their money more than their girlfriends.

[Westy616]

I think what KaylaS91 was getting at was that you can spoil without money. I’ve been on too many dates where I pay for stuff and the girl just doesn’t seem to care when deciding to continue with dating. So it matters when I’m trying to show that I care, but not when they don’t want to continue? It’s a double standard. I’m not wasting money anymore.

[kaylaS91]

Double-standard?
I fail to see what's unfair in how you're using money in hopes of buying women's affection.

If you want pussy, spend money on prostitutes and I'm sure you on't be disappointed.

[Westy616]

@kaylaS91 You just supported my point lol... the fact I should spend money on women... thus no prostitutes 😇. You’re silly!

[Westy616]

*Shouldn’t *

[kaylaS91]

yes. 'supported your point' as in called you on thinking girlfriends are like vending machines which you pay to keep you company.
It's amusing how confused you are at the age of 24.

[Westy616]

@kaylaS91 I said they shouldn’t be treated like one because they will eat your money. Why do you keep arguing against no one? Are you okay?

[kaylaS91]

'they shouldn’t be treated like one because they will eat your money'
hahhah. You're obviously unwell.

[Westy616]

@kaylaS91 You didn’t answer my questions. Classic misdirected of someone who doesn’t know what they’re talking about 😂

[kaylaS91]

'Why do you keep arguing against no one?'
Oh, cool. Nice to meet you, no one.

Are you okay?
yup. Peachy keen- thanks for asking.

[Westy616]

@kaylaS91 More classic misdirection! You’re a classic clinical study 👍

[kaylaS91]

I'm a personified version of a study?
Wow. truly fascinating.

[Rooster764]

Yeah I do.
She is my one and only and I do almost everything for her.
I even carried her on my back while we were hiking, because she was to exhausted to walk by herself.

[EpicDweeb]

If I could I probably would buuut... I probably shouldn't. I'd fall in love too quickly that way. I don't want to fall in love until AFTER I know they're the right person.

[MikePanterisn]

I've spoiled every one of my girlfriends and to be honest I still will, even though I'm going to end up with nothing everytime.

[greNader]

If I had a girlfriend I'd treat her like the queen of fucking England

[D_Bone_Steak]

She spoils me... I'm better looking so it is the way it should be.

[IceSaffroN]

No. If you spoil a child they become a brat. Same thing with a woman.

You should only get out what you put in. Case closed.

[Asker]

A girl who turns into a brat after being spoiled rather than valuing you more as a partner was never in love with you to begin with. A parent-child relationship is different. Parents are obligated to take care of their children and regardless of how "bratty" they may get, the children know that their parents will always be there. On the other hand, being bratty to a boyfriend puts you at risk of losing him.

[IceSaffroN]

If you spoil anyone they become a brat. In this case there is no difference between parent child and between lovers. You give people what they earn. You treat each other with mutual respect.

If you spoil someone they become bratty.

[Asker]

There is a difference and I already explained to you why.

[Asker]

Re-read what I wrote.

[IceSaffroN]

Your difference doesn't make any sense. Just because you have to look after your child doesn't mean you have to spoil them.

[Asker]

All I'm saying is that your analogy is flawed since there's a reason why children become bratty after being spoiled by their parents. Parents can't break up with their children like couples can, even if the parents don't like their brattiness. On the other hand, a girl is less likely to become bratty after being spoiled out of fear that she might lose her partner.

[IceSaffroN]

No it's not flawed, it's perfect.

I'm saying is that it doesn't matter. If you spoil anyone they will become bratty, so why spoil them? It doesn't matter if it is a child or not. Overindulgence and leniency can cause anyone to become bratty, it is not a strictly child phenomenon.

You are assuming that the female would fear losing the man - not always the case obviously. And you are also assuming that the spoiling in and of itself wouldn't lower the respect the female has for the man.

I don't understand why you keep pressing this point. You are flat out wrong. Case closed

[Asker]

Your analogy is very flawed because children’s brains are not yet developed. They don’t think rationally like adults do. Children and adults may have similar patterns of behavior for completely different reasons.
You’re the one who’s making an assumption that every child or woman who is spoiled by someone is destined to become bratty, which is not necessarily true. That’s why often times, two siblings who grow up together with the very same upbringing turn out to be completely different from one another.
You have no idea what you’re talking about since all you’re doing is making generalizations and assumptions. Take this from someone who has a minor in Education and had to take all sorts of childhood and educational psych courses.

[IceSaffroN]

So now your argument has changed to a strawman, saying that I was talking about all children and women... That's clearly not what I was referring to. I was generalizing. The intent of my words were clear. It's not my fault you don't understand them and didn't ask to clarify.

Not only that but you have no idea what my qualifications are... you are making yet another assumption and also a fallacy. The argument stands on it's own merits. Don't be making an argument from authority.

Seriously, no need to spoil you, you're already a brat! You act like you're right about everything, yet can't demonstrate or logic at all. Typical woman.

[Asker]

You started off this whole argument based on what you’ve observed in children, correct? I just explained why that example you used as an argument was not only irrelevant, but also flawed in itself given that children respond to spoiled treatment differently from adults. I even explained why. You justified your generalizations off of what you’ve observed in children, which makes no sense because children and adults are two completely different groups of people.
Do yourself a favor and go back to school. You really need to. That way you’ll learn how to argue effectively without making up bullshit. You’ll also learn that the sources from where the information comes from does matter. That’s why only qualified experts are allowed to testify in a courtroom. It’s not my fault you are too narrow minded to understand that.

[Asker]

Another piece of advice: Don’t ever use generalizations in an argument. Even on the LSAT, a generalization is considered a flawed argument. Have a good day :)

https://www.powerscore.com/lsat/help/lr_flaws.cfm

[IceSaffroN]

Again. That's a strawman. That's was not the original intent of my words. I'm not saying because you see it in children it happens in adults. I'm saying you see it both adults and children. Regardless, you would need to demonstrate your claim is true. I'm not just going to believe you unless you can cite something that backs you up. There are lots of things you see in children that carry on through to adulthood.

And generalisations exist because statistics and probability exists. That link doesn't disprove that to be true. I never said "all" or "everytime". I'm clearly generalizing because an argument of all makes no sense. Stop trying to bend what I am saying.

Stop being dishonest. You are one of the worst debaters I have talked to in a long time.

If you agree that if you spoil someone they are more likely to become bratty then you agree with me and have no argument. Your argument stems from you misunderstanding of my original statement. And intentionally it seems!

[IceSaffroN]

Quick example: if I said men are taller than women, am I generalising, or am I saying all women are shorter than men? Is the generalisation correct in this context? Does it accord with what we see in reality?

[yourdarksecretx]

I give my girlfriend clothes shoes and all that stuff.. she never asks for it

[SagarAgrawal]

Yes. I would love to. Because that will give me imense pleasure. And about me, i am a person who can do anything and everything to keep my girl happy😊

[HeAintMe]

I swear to God i'll spoil her, i put my hand on the Holy book.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I will treat them nice, but I'm not into girlfriend. I'm into wives. I will spoil my wife.

[OpinionatedBoii]

I'm single but I would never spoil my girlfriend. There's a reason it's called spoiling, think about it.

[Anonymous]

Yes I do, not in a ridiculous amount like “oh, you need a dollar? Here’s $500” if you know what I mean

[Anonymous]

Only if she was very into femdom and made it fun for me when she is bossy.

[Anonymous]

I used to.

But they tend to start to expect it, and become selfish.

[archiz]

I wanna be spoiled 🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️🙆‍♀️🙆‍♀️🙆‍♀️🙆‍♀️

[Asker]

I’m not a feminist, fyi.

[archiz]

And who said you were?

[theharlequin]

Yes, I do. Usually too much

[jacquesvol]

Of course. Since 1967. That's 50 years this month.

[SomeGuy965]

If I spoil a girl I get friend zoned.