How do you deal with the "peer/social pressure" of NOT having a BF/GF, especially during teens? 😇 💕?

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Jaiyde29 · Accepted Answer

Your a very pretty girl. The only time you should be worried about having a boyfriend is when you decide to get serious with someone but after you have achieved an education and a career. Girl don't waste your time on these assholes. You can fuck and play all you want but don't fall in love until you finish school. The last thing you want is to focus on getting a boyfriend to find out that your life has passed you by and now you are old, have no money, a horrible job, kids take all your time and money and your "boyfriend" is cheating on you or left you all alone with all the baggage.

Point blank. Take care of yourself first before you focus on boyfriend's or you will regret it like the rest of us.

I'm 31 and still in school. I have no kids but I wish I didn't spend most of my time chasing guys and wanting a "boyfriend" like you. It's not worth it. I'm just glad I woke up before it was too late.

newbie2015 · Accepted Answer

I dated a few guys but did not have a serious boyfriend or even sex until my 20s. I also was the first of my close friends who got married and i find now I'm single again no shortage of attention from men. Teen years are awkward and isolating for 90% of teens. And then the other 10% who loved high school find the rest of their life, the important part post high school, is pathetic and a failure. So don't pay mind to others. One day you'll meet a great fit for you. And remember you have a LiFETIME to do this. There is no rush. Who wants to kiss frogs anyway if you know a prince is out there?

BaileyisDarcy · Accepted Answer

The point of the selfies is?

And you deal with it by literally doing nothing.

Who cares what they think? They can go through their meaningless relationships made only to say theyre in one. Then their meaningless breakups that hurt. What do you need that for? To impress people? You can't impress everyone, by making one happy, youve made 20 upset, by making 20 happy youve made the one important person upset.

So just do what YOU want to do, because either way all the wrong people are going to be upset. No way around it.

MLGbreezy · Accepted Answer

It's can be tough to be honest especially if your a virgin as well people made fun of me for it and it really killed my confidence and made me feel like females didint want me but since then I've made incredible frienda that have helped me realize that you don't need to rush things and just go at your own pace. Always remember that its your decision to do something you want or not. It's not your friedns decision or anyone's choice to make for you and stay strong. And also if you find yourself being peer pressured into anything AT ALL then maybe you should revauleat the people your hanging out with ya know look for people that want push you into doing something you truly don't want to

dragoljub · Accepted Answer

I only have one thing to say about society as a whole.

Society does not matter, their opinions, their choices, their lifestyle.. It all doesn't matter, because when the day comes that you die, you won't be thinking of them but you'll be thinking of all the things you wish you had done, or wish you hadn't done.

So always make your own choices, and don't live a life of regrets

Some_Goof · Answer

You don't have to "deal" with it when you know you're smart enough to stay single than to come into a meaningless relationship just because its trendy.

Sawyerblu · Answer

If I understood the question correctly lmao I kinda just learned how to be alone I guess. You gotta be able to love yourself fully before you can love someone else. Besides, most relationships that you have in your teens just end in heartbreak, it’s super rare that you end up with someone that you dated as a teen

NatalieLove777 · Answer

Girlfriend! You might think that a man will satisfy or make you cool, but let me tell you, he will not make your life any better. Until you learn to love yourself, a relationship won’t make you feel better. And fuck the peer pressure. Do what got got to do to survive. Lean on your gals, make guy friends. Don’t make tomorrow problems, today problems. Enjoy being young and single while you can. You’ll look back and miss this freedom.

Just_a_human · Answer

i never experienced peer pressure, but for those that do, if you don't want to do something don't do it, everyone is into different things, but if you decide to try something, do it because YOU want to, not because you're trying to impress someone or "fit in" that's stupid.

maddog998 · Answer

Have fun, enjoy your teens years :) my friend been with someone since she 13 and growing up they were always on and off. While I was free, wild and young always drinking and having fun. Once I got older I settle down with the wrong guy and got pregnant. Now I'm at stay at home mom to a 9 month old baby

lomimore · Answer

My friends and other people knew that i didn't care much about relationship i was not the type to have a relationship and it could be seen just by looking at me so they never bothered even teasing me so no pressure. I was just the crazy one they couldn't see in a relationship and pwrsonally i found being single could be entertaining
And i was single by choice so i was really happy about it

MissCappuccino · Answer

Make it clear that you are single because you want to be. Focus on yourself and be the best version of you you can be. At the end of the day, people are going to judge anyway. The people who think relationships and stuff are everything are also the people who can’t function on their own.

alinakhanx0x · Answer

Don't really care about what others think about it. And stay true to yourself. And most importantly love yourself.

Puppylover_129 · Answer

... easy... Don't do it. Nobody can feel you to date besides you. You legit have a life time to find someone, and there's plenty of people willing to date others. You're young, enjoy your own life before you let someone else come in to it.

cth96190 · Answer

When I was a teenager and then a 20-something I was a TFL.
When I was compelled to attend various events I always had to go alone.
People were surprised that I did not have a girlfriend, but that was the way that it was.
My mother began to think that I might have been queer, until the night that she heard me sobbing and begging God to kill me.

InstrumentalMayo · Answer

You don't have to be in a relationship if you don't want to. Your friends should totally support you if that's the case. If you do want to be in a relationship and you need to deal with the social pressure, just have fun talking to other people and not being worried about what your partner would say.
(tbh im crap at this kinda advice so take this with a grain of salt XD)

chriscdi · Answer

Look señorita that if you are single you should be single and proud😎, not only do you avoid heart breaks and drama but you are much more free and not to mention available😏😎, its a good thing in my eyes, you might just be being careful who you fall for 😊

Dzokson00 · Answer

I worry about it because of my low self esteem and the fact I've never had a girlfriend
it makes me think im not a boyfriend material, that im unwanted, undesireable and i sometimes try to get a relationship going but it either gets to a rejection or she juwt ignores my messages

i dont know if im ugly, or doing something wrong

Fred0 · Answer

You got more bigger problems than not having a boyfriend girlfriend in your teen years. You will know as you get older that it dosent mean anything. Its just a "social status" that no one really cares about when your in your twenties. The only opinion that you should focus on yours.

fallen_wings · Answer

I don't really care tbh. Yeah it feels sad when it's the age where you have to have a boyfriend and see everyone else´s relationships in school, but i'll take one pace at a time and concentrate on school (to pass lol)

Dchrls78104 · Answer

I'm not a teen, but I still deal with it. Knowing first yourself and then the qualities you look for in a prospective partner helps you to ignore the pressure to couple up just for the sake of coupling. Remember, just throwing bricks and mortar together on the ground doesn't build a house. Every house is an investment of time and skill and is built according to predetermined specifications.

pumacheetah · Answer

use that to build you up, that can make youa girl with standards and thats good

FinalVow · Answer

ignore them. Most of the people trying to pressure you who are in relationships will fail miserably in those relationships anyways. the majority of teens wouldn't know what love is if it came up to them naked and introduced itself.

Wu-TangJedi · Answer

As a guy, people thought I was gay for a very long time for not having a girlfriend, or dating anyone. It hurt, and wrecked my confidence, but I'd rather live by my principle of not getting involved with someone unless they are special to me than partake in the dating culture of dating someone just to date them. Do you.

mmmmmmmkk · Answer

The key is to not give a fuck.. There is always going to be some peer/social pressure in life in general.. But whats important is that you react to it properly.. In this case.. I have found that its best to just not give a fuck.. Trust me and wait till you find the perfect gf/bf and dont go into a relationship just because of social pressure.. Its bad for the both of you..

JutaJia · Answer

I never have girlfriend till college but yeah even without relationship during teen i can hangout with anyone and even better with no relationship = no drama and everyone can still be friends ;)

There were some moment that feel the same as you do but i would say "confident in yourself" will help you a lot with this problem.

daynamariex · Answer

I was never bothered. Probably cause I did have options. If you allow peer pressure to get the better of you, you get desparate, and the smell of desparation drives everyone away!

Anonymous · Answer

be happy to not be in a relationship... it can be way worse than being alone, I've been in an abusive relationship for over a year and I can't manage to break up, because I'm too scared of her doing some fucked up thing...

Leon_Wtk · Answer

Honstly , Being Pressured by is never good , but how too deal wiht it is as esay as how you say it too your self , if you dont have a its bf/gf okay , mabye you didn't find the right one yet , Realy mabye just try too ignore it and try too say your self "i dont need too hurry" thats how i came truh , esaly becuze i didn't let anyone puch me. I will wait till i find the Right one.

Mazzurehman · Answer

Trust me, that's be best thing to be single, specially in you teen era.
Instead of figuring out about how loser you are by not having a GF/BF (which is a totally false statement), one should be focused on his/her goals in life and start planning for that. Don't worry about GF/BF, they'll come eventually... There are other things in life far more important than GF/BF.

Rickardolow · Answer

What do you like? Remember this you are responding for you. You drink , you get wasted and you get taken advantage of. Your boyfriend is going to tell you that you want to. That's to late. To prevent anything you didn't want. You have to be reserved in your activities.

DeterMind · Answer

I don't get pressure for being single, I just explain that relationships are expensive and time consuming and I would rather spend my time and money on more important things

anon4us · Answer

By reinforcing the idea that life is unpredictable and that in a short time these people will be separated heart broken and off to their own journey in life that differs from yours.

BMW_M_POWER · Answer

I meever had a girlfriend in my life but I dont care. Why should I need a girlfriend when have a hand and access to internet with full porn

nerms123 · Answer

I absolutely hate that teens are pressured to date. It’s just ridiculous to me and another thing to stress about.

Anonymous · Answer

Well, u can have a boyfriend /gf. If you can't, then divert ur attention to something u like, something u crave for it...

jaidee · Answer

As a girl, you get dates. Either they come to you without lifting a finger or you use a dating app. You will drown in opportunities. As a guy, you learn patience.

sugarette · Answer

What was the point in posting pictures of yourself.

shineserena · Answer

Lol idk🤔 I’ve never had a boyfriend, but I guess knowing that any moment u could meet the love of ur life is kinda cool.

TheShyPrep · Answer

No idea what you're talking about, like seriously, who the fuck gets peer pressured into having a bf/gf, that's not a thing, nobody gives a shit if you're single or not

t3hhottdawg · Answer

All my friends always try to peer pressure me into dating, and I just don't feel like it. I don't know why, like guys have asked me out and they're lovely and I think they're cute, but I just can't see myself settling with someone right now.

Kat17 · Answer

I didn't get my first boyfriend until I was 17 and at the time I would of had one at 13 if someone wanted me but now I'm glad that I was older because I was able to focus on myself during school and life.

Anonymous · Answer

when i was 17 i got with a girl i didn't really like because of it. part of it was because i wanted the whole virgin teasing to stop (im still a virgin so it never did) part of it was proving that im not gay (i know i like girls but i still am really confused whenever i like a guy. even though i put the label on it and it does feel right i still dont really like it.) it ended up hurting both of us and ill never do it again. id rather be with someone i do like.

Anonymous · Answer

I am 17 and am still a virgin and have never had a girlfriend. I felt pressure from a couple of my friends. I have just become less close friends with them and become closer friends with some other guys and girls that don’t put pressure on me.

kixaru · Answer

You just have to know whose opinions you value, usually people who like and care for you don't give social pressure

dropkicknj13 · Answer

I can't imagine that being a problem for you, your so in love I can see the hearts circling your head lol

TinaSP · Answer

get a boyfriend then dump and show your choice is yourself

sophiarw5 · Answer

Live your best life and try explaining you don't always need one to be happy

Anonymous · Answer

I've never had a boyfriend. It doesn't bother me. In a country that elected trump, I have not a care what my fellow americans think of it or me. This is a society of morons and the last thing I care about is what others think.

N23SA · Answer

I couldn't care less if i'm single or not and people shouldn't be insecure about it in the first place

logicain · Answer

Do you mean going to high school and sending time with girl but not going steady or you mean being in high school and not doing girls.

BeowulfTheMighty · Answer

I don't. I don't care if people don't approve of me not having one. I don't care of people don't approve of me having one.
The only thing stopping you in this world is what others think of you - and who gives a fuck about them?

shashank1990 · Answer

Having a BF/GF is your own decision.  Just have fun while they try to pull your leg

Pyrofox · Answer

"Its perfectly okay to be single" accept that phrase and your good ^w^/)

Introvert94 · Answer

Society can't pressure me to do anything. I'm not required to date in order to survive so if I'm not interested in someone I won't force myself to be because everyone is doing it

Udbhav_Bantwal · Answer

Who cares about what other people think?

hellacray · Answer

Well when I was a teen I did a lot of volunteer work and was active in the clubs I joined.

JohnFrost · Answer

I ignore it and improve myself. It was difficult at the start but now I feel I'm more selffulfilled then most people that though I should always be In a relationship.

jumboguy · Answer

Tbh. Anything related to peer presure andsocial standerds when i was i teen If im in the box called "normal" gor something then ok. If not then i just said fk it oh well idrc

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I really didn't do much just faced things how they came.

Razal · Answer

You convince yourself that waiting for the right person is the right decision. Also giving priorities to other things like career, education is more important that finding a boyfriend.

One needs to convince oneself.

Mantras · Answer

Which country do you live in? I've never felt any pressure fro not having a girlfriend. Not people didn't have a gf/bf anyway.

Nicynodle2 · Answer

I feel less peer pressure and more loneliness, I miss having somebody I can talk to about everything and not have to worry.

Anonymous · Answer

Ignore it and life your own life and not a life others want for you lmao

zombiebacon21 · Answer

One thing that use to help me was drawing

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