If my boyfriend thinks I'm ugly how can I become pretty?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend told me I'm not pretty and said I was ugly.But he was being honest because I asked him if he thought I was pretty but he doesn't.So how can I become pretty?I'm not offended by him saying that.My friends who are guys said I should appreciate his honesty.So what can I do?any general tips you can give?and I'm 16 so I can't get surgery yet

[peace-love-couture]

-Do 30-60 minutes of cardio everyday(running,jogging,speed walking,swimming,jump roping,elliptical trainer etc)

-2-3x a week of strength training(calisthenics,resistance training,yoga,pilates,weight lifting etc)

-GET YOUR SLEEP!You would be surprised as to what sleep can do.Make sure to get 7-9 hours of sleep every single night.

-Have a good skin care regimen:

*Cleanse

*Tone

*Moisturize

*Exfoliate 1-2x a week to slough off dead skin cells

*Do a facial masque once a week for fun and to chillax(Queen Helene's Mint Julep Masque)

-Use make-up to accentuate your facial features

-Wear clothing that accentuates your body shape

-Get your eyebrows shaped and cleaned.Eyebrows can make or break a face

If you have an iPhone or iPod Touch,get these apps:

"Teen" "300 make-up tips" "Beauty Tips"(By michael quach) "Beauty Tips"(A different one) "Age Defying"

Or watch Youtube Beauty guru's such as KandeeJohnson or MichellePhan(Her old stuff is 10x better)

[peace-love-couture]

Seriously,why the thumbs down??Can't ever win with you people

[timetowaste]

Because you're not giving the typical "You shouldn't do anything. Your boyfriend is just an asshole" answer. Hahah. Don't you know by now this site isn't for giving actual advice! It's for sugarcoating sh*t and catering to people's ego or you're a bitch. It's dumb.

[peace-love-couture]

Yep,I know that.Her boyfriend sounds like an ass to me,but if she's OK with it who am I to tell her to feel otherwise?These people are morons:)

[Fruitloopes007]

Personally, I think her boyfriend was wrong for calling her ugly, but I don't know why you got thumbs down either. You gave good tips, & there is nothing wrong with trying to look your best, as long as it is for yourself & not your dumba** bf.

People, give this gal a break, she just answered the question. Regardless if we all disagree with why this question was asked, the QA did want tips on how to look more attractive.

[bluewingedangel828]

Because you answer this on almost everyones questions and were quite frankly bored of hearing it. say it enough times it loses its meaning. try somethign else for a change :)

[peace-love-couture]

I actually answered the question moron:)

[XScientist]

You did not answer the question. No kid needs to feel like they need plastic surgery from some kid they are dating. If you do not like the way a person looks, find someone who you do like, right?

In summary, the question was: is how he treats me acceptable? And no, it is not.

Despite the "good advice" you gave, mascara and working out probably did not fix their relationship.

[realchild3]

i guess its good that he was being honest, but that doesn't mean you should change yourself. I'm 16 too and if my boyfriend told me I was ugly I might not be so understanding as you but if I was I wouldn't even consider thinking of surgery. if your boyfriend is with you and thinks you're "ugly" then he must see some inner beauty. but over the years I've learned you should never change your self for a guy. if you want him to love you and you want it to last then you need to learn to be comfortable in your own skin.

[Arwens-Fire]

Hahahaha! Are you serious? And you're talking about getting surgery because that piece of sh*t? You're 16,but I'm just going to tell you now...dont date this guy anymore. REAL boyfriends don't say things like this to their girlfriends.And I pretty sure you don't need any plastic surgery.He was probably just trying to hurt you for some effed up reason. Leave him and find someone who will like you for exactly who you are. No I don't have any tips on how to look prettier,im sure you're pretty already.

[worthless]

If your boyfriend says your ugly you need a new boyfriend. I find that really sad how even after he insulted you like that you werent offended and said you appreciate him and would even consider surgery for that loser. Please don't do that. You deserve so much better.

[studmuffin-perfect10]

he probably did it for control

[sa230e]

Dump his ass. You'll look so much prettier to him when he's got nobody.

[lovelife11]

Hahaha best answer for sure, and so true

[toulouse]

Lol :)

[bluewingedangel828]

Yeah like why the hell is he even with her if he don't think she is pretty. I mean I know looks aren't EVERYTHING but they do play a part.

[Mesonfielde]

This is one of the best answers I have ever seen on the entire site.

But as said above, dump him! He should not even have a reason to be with you if he doesn't find you at least moderately physically attractive. He's just using you for his own status and nothing more. He is not worthy of your emotions. Leave, and don't look back... >.>

[r_slizzle]

"If my boyfriend thinks I'm ugly how can I become pretty?"

The same way you can become pretty if your boyfriend didn't think you were ugly..

So you asked your boyfriend if he thinks you're pretty, and he said no. So now you want to become pretty? What do YOU think about yourself? That's way more important than what this douche thinks.

[peacenic]

i agree with everyone that say's just get a new boyfriend!

suggestions to maintain long term HOTness all the days

of Your life,forget surgery! it is temporary! take up jogging,

cycling,or aerobics.eat healthy...avoid alcohol and drugs

and people who dont...grow Your hair long,it might be a

pain in the tail to maintain,but adds gloriousness to Your

overall appearance...

[Bellachloe82]

umm well that's rude he said that! I would consider dating someone else. and I would need to see a pic to tell you what's unattractive but here are some generally unattractive things about girls

1)being fat

2) big nose

3) being pale

4) bad hairstyle

again I would need to see a pic to elaborate..

[bluewingedangel828]

Pale isn't so bad met a few guys who love pale skin. why I don't know but some love it.

[Mesonfielde]

I personally love pale skin (especially with freckles, haha) and "bad" hairstyle is completely subjective, I like straight hair a friend of mine is all for ponytail. So duh. There are also guys who liked fat chicks and those who don't mind a big nose, so meh.

[bluewingedangel828]

And thoughs things might be things that can turn a guy on or off of a girl I mean hello it is likly a fat dude will like a fat chick,ect

[Bellachloe82]

Along time ago pale was considered pretty but times have changed and people generally look better tan..its my opinion so back off

& I think you'll have a hard time finding a guy lusting after someone who is fat and has a big nose.. but go ahead

[Asker]

Your answer made me laugh lol

[GeminiEmpath911]

Dump that loser! Insecure guys will always try to gain power over you by hurting your self esteem. He is no good and will only drag you down.

[Fruitloopes007]

BEST ANSWER!

[studmuffin-perfect10]

that also true with people

[iceprincess777]

I'm 20ish and I haven't gotten surgery. I 've tried make up, I do wear a lot of make up and I work out. also make sure he wasn't trying to be a jerk to you about saying that, that might be a good reason to break up if he's said other mean things before.

[dearygal]

He's not being honest, he's being an a**hole. That is demeaning and wears away at your confidence, which eventually can lead to other emotional abuse and even physical. Please get a new boyfriend! Most of us girls are not like Jessica Alba, but a good boyfriend would never point that out. PLEASE, PLEASE get rid of him and get a better guy! :)

[bama_rose0107]

No offense but you are only 16, do you really think he is worth getting surgery for. At 16 your body is not even through developing not to mention that teen relationships rarely last past the teen years. Dump him, believe me there will be other better men that won't be so shallow and superficial. You are too young to be at the point where you would consider altering yourself for the approval of a guy.

[bluewingedangel828]

way I see it he just wants to hurt you. cause not to put guys down or anything but they do go for the looks first. because they are VISUAL beings what they can see does a lot for them. so he wouldn't be with you if he didn't think you were pretty.

[Fruitloopes007]

So f*cking true. I don't know who voted you down girl, but that person was a dumb a**. QA, please listen to this woman, she is right.

[bluewingedangel828]

Someone who don't like to hear the true probly voted me down.

[pandabear25]

A guy who doesn't want to admit it's true lol

[bluewingedangel828]

Yeah I know I mean I talked with my boyfriend about this today and was like um most guys get with a girl for looks first then everythign else falls into play after that but looks come first the thing that draws them to you. and he totally agreed with me.

[Mesonfielde]

I really don't think a girl doesn't check out and doesn't care about how good-looking a guy is.

[bluewingedangel828]

Oh we care about looks to that's for sure. but were able to settle for more if he isn't the best loking guy in the world but has an amazing personality. and if he is goodlooking and has the great personality its jsut a bonus

[JennyBenny318]

I go for looks too. All my other boyfriend's were ugly. So I dumped them because I was getting no attraction from them.

[Anonymous]

Why would he say you aren't pretty if he is dating you? And his honesty did nothing to help you... so it was a selfish comment! what kind of surgery do you think you would get if you could?

Honestly, the man in your life should make you feel good about yourself and should make you feel beautiful... as a woman that is a necessity! otherwise you are with the wrong guy!

[somethingrandom]

your boyfriend has a very common disease called "Asshole"

the and the best way to solve you problem is beat the sh*t out of him and leave him

[studmuffin-perfect10]

just because their no physical thosent mean he a ass. he put in a honest but nice way.

[Anonymous]

Well if you are serious, there are some simple things to do.

Losing weight is almost always good, unless you're really skinny already. Try to have an hour glass figure, diet and exercise are a staple of beauty.

Wear a push up bra with under wire.

Sun tan.

Go to a hair salon, get your hair done, and maybe your nails.

Buy some sexy clothes.

Make sure you have clean clear skin, buy some of the more expensive skin care products, they really do make a difference..

[eithyy]

Your boyfriend is an asshole and if he's making you feel like crap you shouldn't be dating him. End of story. I really highly doubt you need surgery of any kind, and you should base your self-worth off of the dumb, know-nothing words of teenage guy.

[eithyy]

*shouldn't

[Nick1]

If you're boyfriend doesn't think you're pretty then there's a serious issue. If he's really that honest and truly thinks that then you need to get rid of him and find somebody who actually accepts you for who really are.

[swagger]

He does accept her as she is which is why he is with her! He was saying she wasn't pretty which is harsh but is how he sees her. It doesn't take away that he is with her and wants to be.

[studmuffin-perfect10]

she cam em, dump her boyfriend then she will be pretty lol

look guy we can't be too picky we need to lower are standers

[Littletad]

If your boyfriend thinks your ugly, think of the many crafty ways you can dump him. :)

[Fruitloopes007]

break up with him! If a guy tells you are ugly, you don't want to go out with him, Period.

[iamtaiwancutie]

Umm...if my boyfriend called me ugly, I would tell him to go f*** himself. Don't take his crap and dump his sorry ass

[MalloryJay]

If he told you that you're ugly I think you shouldn't continue the relationship with him. You can find a better guy than that. He doesn't deserve you.

[kinkynconfused]

Kick him in the balls and find someone that respects you.

[BlondeSudoku]

Easy, dump your boyfriend & find one who does find you attractive.

[smile8]

Kick him to the damn curb right now!

Get a new boyfriend who thinks you are beautiful!

[Anonymous]

All these people saying you should dump him, are full of sh*t. You shoud be glad you have an honest boyfriend. My boyfriend is the same way yet we still love each other. I love men when they are honest, not liars!

[lady_b89]

you should date someone else. what a jerk. yeah he is honest but he is mean. :(

[studmuffin-perfect10]

she can em, dump her boyfriend then she will be pretty lol

[Anonymous]

Why did he ask you to be his girlfriend if he found you ugly!?!?!O_O

[Anonymous]

you should date some one else,