My husband would rather play video games than have sex with me. Is that normal?

[jamiew2011]

So we've been married 3 years and my husband would rather do anything else besides have sex. He's always had a low sex drive but it's gotten worse over the years. It doesn't help that I have a high sex drive. he's totally let himself go physically too. We've talked about it and he says that's just the way he is. Any other guys feel this way.

[partydelights]

I would like to purpose a plauable solution:

1) Cause: you're "easy catch". Not saying the fault is you, but when you're the HD, he's the one constantly being satisfied hence lost the novelty of sex.

It's like if you're having feast like Disney cartoon everyday, you will feel sick of food.

So start to starve him.

2) Stop asking for sex. It's going to be difficult the next 6 months.

Man WILL get horny. Its the natural way to preserve life.

He Will initiate.

3) if you're "hungry" then satisfy him when he initiates.

But if you could endure, play hard to get.

It will further stimulate his drive.

4) the day will come he'll want sex for consecutive days. Give to him.

After that "starve" him for two weeks.

After a year, he'll be a man again. (LOL)

Ps: I assume he's still faithful. But if he has an affair, this method will backfire.

[Anonymous]

It's probably because you are getting fat and not taking care of your body. You could be bitching at him too much and he doesn't feel like dealing with you. You could be too demanding for his attention and he just wants time to himself. He might have ED and is afraid to tell you about it.

[jamiew2011]

I am a size 4 so I'm not getting fat, I do all the house work including cooking and mow the lawn, the only thing I bitch about is him not wanting to have sex, and he's aloud to do anything thing he wants without one bitch out of me so I'm not the problem.

[Opinion Owner]

@jamiew2011 Then try and say hey honey are you having any problems down there and then try get him on some ED pills. I think the problem is he feels like less of man or just looks at you as a care taker because you're the one doing all the work in the house. You might be enabling him to just sit on his ass and play video games. It might be because you feel like you need to nurture him like a child. It's like a woman who stays with a drug addict he's not going to stop doing the drugs no matter how much she loves him or cares for him. Now what he's doing is not as bad a drug addict he's harmless and the problem can be fixed. Just got give him a kick in the ass. The down side to women's nurturing instinct is instead of giving them a the kick in the ass, they try baby people that won't change. If he makes more money than you, just let him play his games. If he's the bread winner, leave him in peace. if he's just being a bum, give him the kick in the ass.

[Hurlyburly]

Me and a view friends kind of came to the conclusion that videogames can lower the sexdrive, for both guys and girls. So yes, thats kind of normal. It would probably get better if he'd do a pause from gaming.

[Izumiblu]

That seems unusual tbh. Maybe see a dr. Been with my guy 5yrs ish. There’s not been a time where I thought geez I’m just not getting laid enough.

[ausmaster]

Okay, I can't help but think of this when reading your question:

https://youtu.be/fzqQ8k9fEZ8

But honestly, seek that professional help. Having a super low sex drive is kind of... bad. Especially if its been a long time. That perhaps means there might be a hormone imbalance or something.

[OPENMINDED2]

It look like you need to get a toys vibrator and a dildo I'm sorry to but he lost interest in you if you was my girl you'll be waking up to your vagina being eating the right way and going to bed the same way

[OPENMINDED2]

No it's not normal a husband should alway make there wife feel wanted and needed, not competing with the videos game

[gman99]

Just get a toy to help you with sex drive when he playing , Maybe he will notice

[reptocarl]

Nope just him. It won’t change so you have a decision

[Intraluminal]

Nope. And I'm 50. It'll just get worse, not better.

[NerdInDenial]

Did he change after the marriage?

[jamiew2011]

After the 2nd year of being together we've been together 7. But it keeps getting worse

[NerdInDenial]

Has he been stressed from work?

[jamiew2011]

No he likes his job

[NerdInDenial]

Is he still attracted to you?

[jamiew2011]

Yes I look the same from when we met except I have longer hair.

[NerdInDenial]

Have you asked him?

[jamiew2011]

Yes we've had countless conversations and he said it has nothing to do with me and I'm still sexy but he just doesn't feel like it

[NerdInDenial]

Has he done a physical lately? He could have low testosterone.

[Kandy-Kane]

Ooohhh I'd be pissed.

[jamiew2011]

Ohh I am!

[outside_Toronto]

Seek professional help

[rojola]

Hhhhh of course no he is no normal

[Liska98stad]

No, lol that’s weird

[Pallavi_M]

how old is he

[bambamsam1017]

What game add me !

[Anonymous]

Lol! ..