Is the problem that he’s not giving you attention? Like you don’t care he plays video games. But he’s keeping you awake and isn’t spending time with you. I get it.
Are you married? Or is he your boyfriend? Anyways. Maybe you need to communicate. Maybe you need professional counseling.
If you aren’t married at this point. Maybe you aren’t compatible. Some people are more clingy and others need thier space. I don’t think being clingy ( not to a extreme) is a bad thing or needing space (not to the point of being neglectful). But some people are different with things like this. Some people need more space and sone need constant affection and attention
If he is doing that while you are choosing to sleep it sounds like a fair compromise. What are some things you would rather he spend time on apart from the game?
He’s a gamer, so it’s normal to wanna do something he enjoys and stress relieve after work. But I agreed it’s also not normal that he’s not making time to spend with you. I think it’s okay to tell him that you wanna feel connected emotionally, physically, and quality time. Check in with him from a place of love on how is he really doing… and your concerns about him and the relationship. Often times we feel like we are being ignore and it’s just us going through it, but we also gotta remember to ask what could my partner be going through as well. I think it will also be a good idea to make some compromises of quality time.
talk to him. Explain to him your concerns and feelings, without attacking him. Ask him for his perspective. Together try to make an agreement which would start some changes in your routine.
But most importantly learn why he needs to play every night, what needs it secures for him...
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It's not normal for a partnered man to always do that
Sounds like my ex-fiance's sister!
They were both in their 20's at the time. She and her hubby were in a small apt. and she would go to work or school during the day, he would work at a 7-11 at least on the evening shift if not graveyard and he'd spend all his waking hours watch action movies on t. v.! Before she left to do her stuff for the day, she'd ask him to do the laundry, or what have you, and when she'd come home later in the day, she'd start yelling at him for NOT doing the couple things she asked him to do because he was too busy watching movies all day!! She, eventually, divorced him, met another guy, married him and moved to California. Last I heard, they have a baby or two.
In your case, yes, that's childish of him to spend all day playing video games!
I agree with the other posts. It's not so much the issue of him playing video games, but rather that he's choosing video games over time with YOU. That's a huge red flag. As for it being "normal", personally, I think someone of that age should have found a much more productive hobby. I think it's fine to play occassionally, but not to the point where it becomes an obsession. Honestly, you should just dump him while you have the chance, because it's pretty obvious where his interests lie. The fact that he'd choose playing video games over cuddling in bed with a girl, should tell you everything you need to know.
I can see him needing to decompress for a few hours after work because it's hard to get off work and then go straight to bed. I worked nights for years. I had to be up for a few hours until I got weary enough to sleep. You just can't sleep right away. But all night playing video games? He probably should be in bed with you by two at the latest. I mean, if it's a choice between a soft warm female body to lie with, or playing fucking video games, it's no contest. But younger guys have different priorities these days. Different generation I guess.
It's normal for him to play video games, but that much seems excessive. I play video games but I would want to spend time with you if I were with you and not just play video games. I would probably go to bed around the same time with as you. Actually I probably mean bad before you because I have to be at work at 7:00 in the morning
You are right. And I play games too. I did luck out and she games as well, but we do that together. We watched a movie yesterday. We go to bed at the same time. He has to remind himself that he's in a relationship now and should spend some time with you as well.
She should investigate, normally video games are a addictive form of escape from reality, if he is spending so much time on it then its possible it may be deeper than that and he's not a good mental state, id say it's worth investigating.
Yeah, but only if he doesn't create things (which would mean video games are only half the time).
Video games are peak entertainment.
The weird part is his work and sleep schedule.
I am not one to throw stone because I spend excessive time youtubing history shows but at least I learn something
It might be something, hard to tell without more info. Lowkey sounds like the relationship has run its course. You're closer to roommate status than a loving couple.
Depends on the guy. I had a former boss that was constant gamer like this. I asked him once how he could stand wasting so much of his life gaming. He told me he was a cancer survivor. So he was going to live life on his own terms as long as he was alive. His marriage ended not long after that. I'm not suggesting this was the cause. But I can't help but think it was at least a contributing factor.
Someone playing games for 4 hours a day is using it to cope and avoid, has an addiction or could be neurodivergent.
Woww i won't be able to live with him
Man now dAys yes
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Got a Bucess all walk into suite and looks like a kid
He's tired of your nagging and seeks escape.
Not normal
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