My Girlfriend was angry last night about a girl that is obsessed with me... We had this talk... do you think she cares about me?

[MrAgent640509040147]

[Kyren]

If she didn't care about you, she wouldn't have been mad about this situation to begin with. I feel like she handled this in an immature manner because you wanted closure and to reassure her that you still prioritized her over this other girl who is obsessed with you but she wasn't straight forward with you about what concerned her the most and how she was feeling to resolve this argument. One way to calm her down is to figure out why this other girl is obsessed with you; to provide your girlfriend information she's looking for about the situation so she gets the full picture. By doing this, you're being faithful and honest in wanting giving your girlfriend a peace of mind when you're not going behind her back.

In relationships, it's absolutely critical for couples not to make assumptions about each other but to provide evidence if something doesn't seem right. You were trying to comfort her and she had rather let the discussion end with her staying angry and you being anxious over having a productive discussion and receiving closure on both sides so you two could rest soundly without any problems. I have no doubt that you both love each other but in conflicts like these, she needs to be more understanding so arguments like these don't cause toxicity in the relationship.

[MrAgent640509040147]

Thanks but when I asked her on that message about how she feels about me she said I don't have defination yet so I'm confused

[Kyren]

You had an excellent message earlier saying you wanted her to be honest about how she feels. It makes me think she's not angry at you but at the other girl following you around.

[MrAgent640509040147]

Yes she's angry at the girl but when I said how she feels about me #i don't have a definition yet# which makes me believe she doesn't love me

[Kyren]

She'll have time to cool off and give you a proper answer when she feels like it. If she didn't love you, she would have either broken up with you or just let this situation slide without a resolution.

[deric_97]

This is what happens when you get a girlfriend but dont even understand a single thing about her. In other words, what makes her different than your usual friends? My future girlfriend must have transparency with me or else its not gonna work lol. For example, this situation.

[deric_97]

Now im not putting fingers, but like get her for coffee tomorrow. Start fresh, ask everything you gotta know, stop playing push and pull, that privacy bullshit and be nice.

[IMissYooooou]

I've never met a girl with so many problems in her life so it's really hard to understand her that's why I'm so confused

[AuroraRoseat]

I think that she's immature and only cares for her feelings. You've professed that the other girl means nothing and you care for her yet your girlfriend is too blinded by her anger (and/or insecurity. She has you. Why is she obsessing over this obsessed girl) to have a mature civil conversation?

I don't know her well enough to say whether or not she cares, but I do think that she is immature and needs to grow up.

[MrAgent640509040147]

Exactly and when I asked her what she feels for me she says * I don't have defination yet* and I asked her on the phone a few mins later and she said yes I feel for you... are you happy now really angry... I don't know I'm confused

[AuroraRoseat]

Honestly, I would tell her that you feel like she's being immature and that you two can have a conversation once she's not angry.

Being angry tends to cloud judgment (I know this personally), but it seems like she's lashing out just to hurt you.

[lomimore]

She does care if she didn't she wouldn't be so upset about that other girl. Its clear she was just really mad.
Give her sometime bring her on a date something she'd be excited about am sure things will just cool off and also why tf isn't that girl blocked everywhere if she does stalk you... looks like you might be enjoying the attention

[meme821]

You should leave her alone for about 3 days and let her cool down she's more than upset about that

[littlebutswole]

sometimes we get jealous and we shouldn't be mad at our partner or the person who is obsessed. if this girl is crossing the boundary and not respecting the fact that you are in a relationship then block her. but if she isn't just show your girlfriend that you don't have to block someone because you are loyal enough to ignore her.

[VaIiant]

Yes, she still cares about you. Context would be nice, as it seems like you were flirting or interacting with another girl in an inappropriate way for a man in a relationship, and she found out.

[MrAgent640509040147]

I wasn't flirting with this OTHER girl she seen me in the club a few times tried to grind me once I pushed her off and ignored her from that but she's persists on doing it I told the girl to back off me

[hledgesammer]

She was emotionally upset and instead of just hearing her and acknowledging how she felt so she could calm herself down you clamored for solutions that would do nothing and then she didn't want to talk to you anymore. You made her more upset by trying to push the conversation to a place where you felt comfortable instead of being a confident man and just understanding without acting.

[MrAgent640509040147]

Hey there, thanks for your opinion it's just that she has a lot of problems and it's hard to understand her and then it confuses me on if I'm wasting my time with a girl that doesn't care/love me because she was so angry and mean I'm usually very confident but her actions confuse me so much

[hledgesammer]

I hear you. You're gonna have to look past your feelings on a lot of situations to understand where she's coming from. She needs to see a therapist or she's going to suffocate your relationship.

[Lillyxox124]

She feels insecure and is upset. Yes , she is showing it in a way that could cause you hurt, but right now she is hurting. Spend time with her. Make her feel so loved. Just be with her

[MrAgent640509040147]

She said she has no definition when I asked her what do I mean to her... what does mean? Thanks

[TsundereMatrix]

If I were her, I would be mad at the girl that’s obsessed with you not you because you seem faithful.

[MrAgent640509040147]

She said she has no definition when I asked her what do I mean to her... what does mean? Thanks,,

[TsundereMatrix]

Likely she doesn’t know

[MrAgent640509040147]

Oh shit that's great... I asked her today and she said you know what I feel for you but said she doesn't want to answer it and laughs

[LokiWhite]

She cares about you but you've got some things to work on, not quite having a definition worked out it seems. How long have you been together?

[MrAgent640509040147]

3months

[LokiWhite]

Yeah okay, I've heard that often described as the time where things are decided upon, whether or not to define it and if so then what to define it as. She cares about you, but try to get a definition but I would do it in person. Just see where you're at. It's time for the 'what are we' talk

[MrAgent640509040147]

Like when she said its not the best time to talk about that right now... Does it mean she loves me , also you got to remember this girl is Foreign

[LokiWhite]

I've grown up all over And I'm in an interracial relationship so I'm in a good situation to take that into account 😂 I don't think that matters here unless she is planning on going home any time soon. When she said it's not the best time, there is nothing to interpret. You just have to ask

[MrAgent640509040147]

Do you think im wasting my time with my girlfriend, I love her a lot and i dont know what she feels for me.

[LokiWhite]

No I don't. Not until you get a straight answer from her. It's still relatively early, so just talk to her and if she feels the same then you're set, if not then move on

[DollySummers]

Seems like she is a bit immature. She probably beats on or picks on the other females. She sounds like she gets jealous, obsessive, and paranoid easily. She might even look at you as her toy.

[randomp0tat0]

She feels insecure and jealous, and is probably worried about losing you. Even so, she shouldn’t be mad at you because of some crazy bitch and it’s wrong to take it out on you.

[MrAgent640509040147]

She said she has no definition when I asked her what do I mean to her... what does mean? Thanks

[randomp0tat0]

Well it could mean that she just doesn’t know what words to use, or that it’s not that important to her based on what I can tell

[MrAgent640509040147]

You think it's bad? She's really shy so i don't know if that has anything to do with it

[randomp0tat0]

Whether she’s shy or not you need to get her to tell how she feels about you, and if she just beats around the bush then she might have something to say that you won’t like

[MrAgent640509040147]

And what would that be?

[randomp0tat0]

Like that she doesn’t love you or she’s not happy with the relationship

[DizzyDesii]

She cares. Lmao this looks like an agument with my boyfriend and i

[MrAgent640509040147]

She said she has no definition when I asked her what do I mean to her... what does mean? Thanks.. ..

[QueenofCups]

Means she is confused about how she feels.

[MrAgent640509040147]

@QueenofCups Well that's just great:(

[wingattebaby16]

she is insecure and you need to block the other chick..

reassure your girl

[Buckzor]

God talking like that as a "conversation" triggers me, I can't even understand what's being said..

[TuMeManques]

Oh I'm so glad I'm not the only one thinking this! I can't really give him advice because I have no idea what they're even talking about.

[Buckzor]

@TuMeManques I don't have a clue what the issue was tbh, actually still trying to figure out what the main problem was. all I can get is that some girl likes him & his girl doesn't appreciate it

[MrAgent640509040147]

there's this girl that stalks me sometimes when im out, And my girlfriend got angry about it so we exchanged some words on Facebook... But i want to know does she feel for me does she care about me (my girlfriend) we are going out 3 months now and i care about her a lot i even love her... but i dont know what she feels for me.

[Peanut127]

First, why this fake account? Ur 17 not 27. change ur age. Second, welcome to dating kiddo. U urself seem a little needy. Never pressure a girl about how much she cares when she's pissed off. It will not go the way u wish it would

[MrAgent640509040147]

Hey there, thanks for your opinion it's just that she has a lot of problems and it's hard to understand her and then it confuses me on if I'm wasting my time with a girl that doesn't care/love me because she was so angry and mean

[Peanut127]

Just don't push her buttons. Take her out. If see the stalker girl, kiss ur girlfriend in front of her to proove to ur girlfriend u want only her

[IndieGirlJess]

Jealous any way for sure.

[MrAgent640509040147]

Is that a good or bad thing

[QueenofCups]

She defo cares about you.

[MrAgent640509040147]

She said she has no definition when I asked her what do I mean to her... what does mean? Thanks. ..

[Penelope_]

I’m confused lol

[MrAgent640509040147]

there's this girl that stalks me sometimes when im out, And my girlfriend got angry about it so we exchanged some words on Facebook... But i want to know does she feel for me does she care about me (my girlfriend) we are going out 3 months now and i care about her a lot i even love her... but i dont know what she feels for me.

[Penelope_]

You should tell the other girl to leave you alone

[MrAgent640509040147]

I did, I said if you dont stay away ill contact the police.

[Penelope_]

Good I hope she gets the message and leaves you alone

[MrAgent640509040147]

About my girlfriend anything in the message shows you that she cares about me? Or am i just an idiot that fell in love with a girl that doesn't love me back

[Penelope_]

She does care she’s probably just annoyed

[MrAgent640509040147]

She said she has no definition when I asked her what do I mean to her... what does mean? Thanks

[Penelope_]

I’m not sure maybe ask her

[Wowgirl10q]

Don't post her life online

[Joker8]

I thought only my girlfriend talks like this

[Kayla45]

She's jealous

[MrAgent640509040147]

Is that a GOOD OR BAD thing?