Girlfriend going to Bachelorette Party with Male Strippers... Should I be Concerned?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend of 9 months is going to her friend's bachelorette party in Nashville. By her personality and nature, my girlfriend is very social/likes to have fun (which is why I love her). I wouldn't say she's addicted to sex but we have sex every time we see each other, night and morning.

Obviously I know this seems like a recipe for disaster. All of her friends cheering her on to suck some guy's d! ck and I would bet money that she would do it. I am uncomfortable with this.

I don't want to be a controlling boyfriend. I want her to go and have fun, but the male stripper thing makes me very uncomfortable. How can I get past this? Just accept that stuff will probably happen and don't even ask about it? Express my discomfort and say she shouldn't go? It really makes me sick to my stomach but I know her and her friends can get very crazy when going out and adding strippers to the mix doesn't sit well with me.

[Anonymous]

Share your feelings and tell her how you feel. Just explain it like you have here.

But think of it if it was you. I don't know you, but have you ever experienced a stripper? It's a business to them and nothing more. It's their job. I don't know how different it is for male strippers vs female, but I'm sure they have "limits" as well?

"Obviously I know this seems like a recipe for disaster. All of her friends cheering her on to suck some guy's d! ck and I would bet money that she would do it." - Does this actually happen? I know it does in porn, but in real life? I don't think it does, but even if it did, she has a boyfriend now, she probably not going to do it?

But just share how you feel about it. If she cares at all about you, she'll care about how you feel about it.

[Spencer10]

Communication is key. Maybe express your concerns... but so is trust. if a relationship lacks trust its doomed.

[caligirl03]

As a woman who has been to many bachelorette parties just like this, you honestly have nothing to worry about. Male strippers are only hired to take off their clothes for screaming drunk women--not for anything else--they're not male prostitutes! If you trust your girlfriend is faithful in general, you may just be overthinking things. If you don't have that trust, well... that is a much bigger question that has more to do with your relationship than with strippers.

[markscott]

caligirl: Interesting insights to bachelorette parties. I get the idea of no sex and no sucking. I'm curious, do the guys completely strip, and do they get erections? Do the girls touch their penises or asses? I have no idea what goes on at bachelorette parties.

[caligirl03]

@markscott I've never seen guys get boners or girls touch their junk. The most I've seen is they will sometimes call a girl up on stage and give her a lap dance, and the girl may or may not grab the guy's ass. And this was in Vegas, so I'm assuming that's the "worst of the worst" as far as raunchy strippers go.

[markscott]

Cali: Thanks for the insights.

[OtakuNeko666]

Hm... I don't know what's she's like but I'm sure there'll be no emotions attached when she talks to the strippers?

[Barrabus_the_Free]

Nah, you shouldn't be concerned. Just accept the fact that she'll blow or fuck at least one of them. Are you prepared to continue seeing her after that? HINT, the correct answer starts with an N, ends with an O, and rhymes with GO.

[Anonymous]

In the end, at least you are a man enough to get uncomfartable about your girlfriend to suck some random strippers dick. Its not about controlling, have your boundries and principles and let her know that. You are not okay with your girlfriend maybe future wife to go and suck some dudes dick, just because her friends are crazy and they will enjoy, doesn't mean it is right think.

[Anonymous]

If she wants to stray she will whether at this party or some other time. Either you trust her or you don't. Personally I wouldn't care what my wife did as long as it was safe.

[Türkü]

You'll overcome this too, you have that potential. Relax

[Anonymous]

Just let her have fun and try not to think about it

[SunnyCaliGirl]

Yes you should be concerned

[codycccccccccc]

Let her go it will be fine

[Anonymous]

She's going to cheat, bitches are never loyal

[notbatman1342]

you'll be fine

[JennieF]

Maybe